TOPIC: Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?

Personally I would say don't.

I really don't get how guys even find fucking prostitutes exciting in the first place.

What's so great about having to pay a girl money to have sex with you who wouldn't have otherwise?That would just make me feel like a loser.I've never paid for sex,I've never given money to a stripper either and I never will.

I lost my virginity like a man and it's an experience I'm never going to forget.It's something I am proud of.

In my mind you got two options-

-Get to work on yourself and take serious action to improve yourself
-Try to fuck below average girls,especially through online dating

Or do both simultaneously.

If you didn't put work towards achieving losing your virginity, you won't feel any sort of accomplishment. You will probably feel no different. Listen to jake : work on yourself

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Fuck it

You can view it as some huge copout and abdication of your manhood
OR
you can view it as nothing more than really good massage; a physical service you get from another person in order to feel better.

Up to you. Perhaps if you take the second option it can help you to feel that sex is really no big deal.

No easy answer, but I believe it can be a good idea.

It would be a big relief after you lose your Vcard, even if its with a prostitute. It is a step in the right direction, even though you won't learn anything about meeting girls/getting a girlfriend. But when you do eventually end up meeting girls, there will be a lot less pressure and nervousness in the bedroom that first time.

Regardless whether you do or not, make this your top priority. Make a plan and write it out. Weight loss -> Appearance -> Anxiety -> Online Dating -> etc/

Maybe if you're very sexually frustrated go on a camgirl site and take one of the girls into a private show. It's much cheaper and safer.

I wouldn't recommend doing it.

But if you do decide to do it, promise me that it will be a prostitute who is decently hot. Try to find professionals in your area on eccie.net or p411 (requires membership).

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Maybe it's just me,but for starters if I had fucked a prostitute I would have always looked back on it and it would have fucked with me.

Imagine telling someone how you lost your virginity-"I had sex with a hooker".

When I think back to how I lost my virginity,it's an experience that makes me feel stronger.It's like "yea,you are capable of accomplishing shit.You're a boss".

I'm sure some guys have a different psychology and it's not something that matters to them,they don't give a shit,but that is how it works for me.

I'd just be careful with this.Seriously.

Besides sometimes the pursuit of the pussy is more exciting than the pussy itself.Pussy to me is like icing on the cake.It's the journey I have to take to get there that gives me the most enjoyment.

So don't short change yourself of that journey.I think you'll be much better off long term if you don't do this.

To each his own though.

It seems like the question pops up on different forums at least once a month. I've never been with a prostitute, but I wouldn't recommend it. Especially for your first time. From what I've gained by checking out these threads, a lot of guys do this because they think things will be different once they "get it out of the way." The problem is, things won't be different. You won't all of the sudden have some eye opening, "seeing the Matrix" experience where you all of the sudden turn into some smooth Casanova just because you've had sex. You'll simply have sex, go home, and end up in the exact same place you were before. No matter how much you think it might, it won't take any psychological burden off you. The only thing it will have done is reinforce the idea that you are unworthy to have sex.

If you simply want the experience of sex...no strings attached...no connection. Go for it. Plus you'll get to fuck a girl you're attracted to, your first time.
Consider it a practice session. 30 mins - 1 hour session & you cum. It might be fun or it might suck.

I've been with a couple of hookers this summer & honestly it was cool. I had fun. When I told my buddies and co-workers (male & female). they didn't give a fuck. Better than going on 5 dates, and spending 40 bucks each time on a girl who's mediocre who doesnt wanna fuck. I just lost 200, and got no pussy. When I could've just been banging a good looking girl for an hour.

And then you got idiots spending their entire paycheck on a vip lounge + bottle service at a club just to look like big ballers and have girls come and use them for free drinks,and then leave home drunk, frustrated, with their dicks in their hand. I never wanted to be that.

Honestly, i think the whole stigma that comes with fucking hookers is pretty dumb. I mean fuck, charlie sheen spent a million $ in a year just to bang pornstars at home. NBA Players, Rappers etc. spends thousands per night on strippers, video vixens just to fuck them. Some end up marrying them to. These guys got money and status, and still pay for sex. I mean shit..if these guys pay for it..might as well give it a try.

For me it just reinforced sex is just sex and that's it. Working out, dressing better, getting rid of your anxiety etc. that's gonna help your self-esteem.
Anyway just as Voltorb said:
Don't use backpage, call a legit escort service. Use your own condoms. If you can, have her come over to your place. Let her know its your first time with an escort. And from experience, get yourself a sexy black escort. BEST SEX I've had period. They're usually more into it than other girls

I think the tone of various viewpoints expressed here hint at a common point: that however one chooses this, the expectations of the experience must be managed in a very realistic way to avoid doing more harm than good.
I think if the expectation is just to get some of the unfamiliarity of the sex act out of the way that it could be good. You'll know what a vagina looks and feels and smells like, you'll know how getting into a few sex positions with a real girl actually works vs. what you imagine or expect based on unrealistic depictions in pornography (making sex look good on film is very difficult, and very different positions are used from what works in reality), and this can help when you go to have sex with a girl you're bedding for real.
If the expectations are any more than those very basic physical and logistical considerations you will likely be very disappointed. Sex with a prostitute will likely be a weird and unemotional experience, probably awkward, possibly even sad and disturbing on some level. If you're hoping to have some sort of breakthrough you will be most likely be disappointed.

For the record, I lost my virginity to a non-prostitute (at the time, I think she later turned to hooking for a while) and I have never paid for sex with a prostitute. I considered having sex with one but once I had the gal back at my place I really couldn't be turned on and no sex ever happened. Since then I've occasionally entertained hookers at my hotel room who I guess weren't pulling any tricks that night and just wanted to hang out. I've had some interesting conversations with these girls and heard some pretty crazy stories.

hey man

its not my place to tell you what you can or cant do, but i can tell you a brief story about my experience losing my virgnity to a prostitute and perhaps it will guide you

3 things
1. i regret doing it
2. my experience wasnt bad
3. aftermath was probaby overall more negative than positive

1. i had to go for 3 years (fucked a prostitute at 16) before i finally fucked a real girl. these years sucked and i felt likw SUCH a loser. however on a positive note it made me really insecure so i compensated by going to the gym alot

2. the experience itself wasnt bad, kind of exciting...just the aftermath of saying i lost my virginity to a prostitute was difficult. the pressure i felt at the time was very great and i wish i would have just had the courage to stay a virgin and just admit it instead of lying about it.

3. although the experience itself was positive/neutral, the aftermath was 100% bad. i didnt admit it to anyone until i was 21, so it haunted me for years (after doing AA and knowing i can fuck girls, at 22 im much more confident, in fact probably better with girls than 99% of my friends thanks to GLL.)

so overall, negative experience and i wouldnt have done it again