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As I've been thinking lately about my social/sex life (or lack thereof), I realized that I've built a lifestyle around not getting pussy. I can write paragraphs about it but my purpose in writing this is to share something that I suspect a number of you GLLosers have dealt with: my main group of friends (all male) are under/never sexed tools—and they're all late 20s. It's pathetic. Now that I'm on this self-improvement wave, chilling with them (playing boardgames) feels like an unacceptable waste of time, and I'm embarrassed to be seen with them in public. I face two challenges:
1) Dumping them—they're good guys but they're not conducive to my cause; in fact they're detrimental. 2) Build new social circles with real, grownup men that know/attract women and get pussy. I need advice on both items and would like to hear about your personal experiences. |
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Moving is the most painless way to do this in my opinion. But obviously for the majority of people this doesnt seem to be a realistic option
Social loser til 19
Virgin til 22 Now I travel, party and get laid Stuff to do: Stick to cut and gym schedule Make dat money Online dating 2020 lays: 6/24
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Try to find a new friend you could go to nighclub with, even if you don't like him that much at first or whatever you like and slowly you will get away from your group of friends.. hopefully man
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I say dump them. You should check out my thread from a few weeks ago:
www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/members-...tgrowing-old-friends
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"The biggest mistake a man can make is not to make any mistakes at all"
With this being said, you're going to keep getting the same shit over and over again if you keep the same company and same routine. Your friends should empower you, should compliment your lifestyle. If you're not getting that, see ya. "What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others remains and is immortal."
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After about 1.5 years, I have ditched every "friend" who is holding me back from doing what I really want to do.
That now leaves me all by myself. I am happier though. No more guilt, feeling powerless, or appeasing others to "fit in." I'm free. I do what I want, when I want. I have acquaintances I see on certain occasions (gym and club) and that is enough for now. I do feel lonely sometimes.. But I look at it is the cost I have to pay to rebuild myself. “Associate yourself with men of good quality, if you esteem your own reputation; for ‘tis better to be alone than in bad company.” - George Washington
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its funny because all my friends got pussy but i was the one with minimal results...i would say this DONT DUMP YOUR FRIENDS....just show them how cool your becoming as a player and how easy it is to approach women or get ass and either
They will get jealous of you and not want to hang out wiht you anymore or They will ask you for tips on how to start getting pussy or approaching and you will become the alpha male of the group instead of finding new friends where you might have to compete and have to be challenged by jerks who think they are better than you... but like i said i never had your problem...while all my friends were getting ass but could not break down how "BECAUSE IM A LOGICAL/TECHNICAL KINDA GUY I now know how to approach different types of women they would never want to approach out of fear of rejection!!!! ![]()
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I agree with the above. Don't "dump" them. Just spend less time. Don't burn bridges tho...speaking from experience.
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Simply put get new like minded friends. You guys will encourage and expand each other as opposed to be "stuck" which drags you dow.. As my mentor has told me your income will be the average of your 5 best friends. This concept relates outside of money as well. The point is you want to associate or at minimum affliate yourself with like-minded guys who are either at your level and like you striving to improving or at a level higher then you.
Option B still get new friends but spend less time with old friends. You could potentially empower and motivate your old friends. This is pretty important as it ties into a concept of a "mastermind" as discussed by napolean hill author of think and grow rich. U.S.A Lays - 10
MX city Lays - 17 Foreign flags - Spanish, Japanese(half), Poland Goals *New phone * launch biz *save money *Get Buff *New Wardrobe
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It's a really tough question. I thought I had out-grown my friends, and began to get distant without ever totally cutting the cord. We all kind of went our separate ways for study and work as it turns out, anyway. Now, many of them have outgrown me in some ways. People surprise you. We are now all very close but don't see each other that much (because we all live in different places). I'm glad my old friends didn't abandon me when I sent pretty clear signals about how I resented them. We get together talk shite, and do some really geeky stuff (warhammer), but pretty much all of them are now good at something (whether it be women, work, body-building, general wise old man vibe). Key for me is that I've done stuff on my own. I think it's the same for them too. None of us need each other and none of us have taken the same road. They're like family now. Overall advice? Keep your friends and respect them for who they are and the memories, but increasingly expand your comfort zone and strike out on your own.
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You don´t have to completely x them out of your life, however, for me personally moving away from where I grew hanging around the same lame, boring, uninspiring and at times envious and hating friends was one of the absolute best moves in my life. Last year 2013 I decided that I was going to hang out here in South America, travel it up and bang as many women as I can, start a new life, grow a business, etc. without their influence and presence. Since then my lay ratio has gone up ten fold. You may not notice it and maybe it can be one of those subtle mind fucks, but man as they say the people you surround yourself with you´ll become.
Making the move I´ve been forced to make new friends, approach women and build an income. I did it for that very reason to help get out of my complacent comfort zone and I´m doing great this year, getting better and better on all fronts of my life daily and it feels awesome. Like I said you don´t have to completely x them out of your life, like for me they can still contact me via facebook, although the time I spend there is very minimal and now I mainly use it for the fb groups where I´m living now to get to know other people in the area and travel activities/siteseeing groups, etc. So although I say don´t have to completely x them out, that´s pretty close to what it is. Good guys, meh, maybe, but not worth fucking up my goals. Would be different if they were like minded, success driven but they´re not... typical average bros that hang out in the exact same bars, work the same shitty jobs and have absolutely no aspirations and know nothing outside of where we grew up. Gotta do you man. Much love, respect and thanks to the entire GLL crew
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