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Only yesterday came across this new subforum. Hopefully there's a few guys around here. I'll be 58 in a few months.
Basically I am only interested getting laid with women between legal and 35; I mean, who really craves for sexy with old ladies?!!
I am sure there's plenty of fish. I think that
basically screening will work, may be with a few tweaks for my appearance.
I'd be interested to hear from guys interested in the same age bracket.
Post some pictures up so we can get an idea for how you look.
If you're going the online dating route, you're gonna have to realize that places like Plenty of Fish won't let you send messages to girls with an age gap of +14 years. So if you put your age at 58, you can only message girls that are 44 and older.
I would recommend hitting up day gaming colleges as you have a higher chance of meeting a girl who's still young and hot but mature (or wanting to be mature) for an older man. Nearer to 30 ime, hell even 25-ish, and question how come you're not married.
Otherwise, go to eastern europe or asia. Im serious
I wasn't aware that there's website called Plenty of fish. Was meant metaphorically.
Absolut no interest in online dating, though.
I was happily married until 2 years ago. No I am happily single again.
I know where to find girls. Same way as Scotty does. That's not a problem.
I am interested in daytime cold approaching. My main problem currently is, that there's a strong voice in my head (and force upon me) that I should not do this, because society considers it creepy. However, I absolutely do not want to play by other peoples rules. I thought there might be others who feel similar.
Yes I want sex with young pretty(!) women, but I'd say that the challenge of becoming socially free in this respect is even a higher priority.
44 yr old here, briefly married, separated and divorced for about two years now.
I live in small-townsville, so I tend to aim for long-term fuckbuddy relationships mostly from social circle, and hang on to whoever I've got. That does mean less-than optimal (and older) chicks but hey if they're fun I'll take regular sex over going without for too long. IMO your worst enemy is prolonged dry spells--fucks with your outcome independence and sexual confidence. So to start I would say ANY PORT IN A STORM, BROTHER at least until you can get some younger girls worked into your lineup.
Then, for younger women I would follow Blackdragon's advice (check the
) regarding younger women and how to sort them out.
For me, my career position allows me high status in my industry and a fresh supply of starry-eyed interns and seasonal workers each year from which to poach the occasional tender young hot thing. About the best I can do given where I live, but it gives me some younger lays a few times a year. I suppose if I was in a city there would be many more opportunities. Hopefully you are in a larger city or have some way to use status to get access to younger women.
Without the benefit of status I find I am essentially invisible to a crowd of younger people. Pretty sad, but that's life. Too bad I wasn't more savvy about this stuff when I was actually young and good looking and women noticed me...
Re: Young women/girls for sex, older women for the talking
28 Feb 2014 02:10 #105828
It is never creepy. I have actually been thinking about walking up and introducing doing some small chit chat, making her invest and then handing a business card with my number etc. Only problem I see is her thinking that I must hand them out to many woman.
There are alot of MILFS who are in shape and would do just anything for sex, I have found some notably the one I am with now to be drop dead awesome in bed.Just writing this makes me horny for her.
Even more interesting are the before and after pictures of some strippers/MILFs that I saw on Reddit. Makes me wonder sometimes.
I've approached younger women but I have not had much success, I have had plenty of younger women interested in me from online sites but non have been that hot.
I would say look at how you can look elite amongst your age group, i.e better than men your age, so obviously fitness and being in shape,also dress your age but make sure you stand out.
I'm 43 and would really like to stand out myself in my dress sense, I really need to concentrate on this.
I am doing social freedom exercises since a while. Sounds big and it is , for me. For a young aspiring loser it may look just ridicoulusly easy. I go up to young girls, to women I find hot and tell them that I find them attractive, looking great and similar things , wish them a nice day and leave. The challenge mainly lies not only in how hot she looks, but much more how difficult the social situation appears to me. Like , is she with friends, males, can bystanders overhear what I say, like in a bookstore or subway etc. I notice that my comfort zone is moving and when doing the exercises I am trying to push myself further out.
Ultimately I want to freely express my male desires without giving a fuck what anybody(including her) thinks, antime anywhere. I believe that at some time I'll be able do what Scotty does, albeit in a different personal style, since I am way more charming than him(sorry Scotty).
The reactions are usually friendly, polite, sometimes enthusiastic (especially from teenagers when they notice that I am leaving already) and occasionally weird when a woman tries hard, really hard to ignore me when my head is just one feet away from theirs and I am looking right in their eyes. Crazy.
I notice that I am getting calmer and I am sure, that after some time I'll be able to have laid back conversations. That's
my next step.
I will keep you updated. But don't expect frequent reports. My progress is slow and I have to fight hard for it.
Coming to terms with your (physical) age is something you got to do on your own. I'm 33 and I realized recently that it's nothing I can change (in terms of time). I'll never be 20 again and I accept it. Doesn't stop me from doing my thing. Really think it over if you like. it can't be changed, so accept it and do what you want to do. There's a big key to Social Freedom in that acceptance and action anyway concept.
Since some time I am doing speed drills. That is, if I see an attractive girl/woman I try to contact her the fastest possible. As an excuse I just pay her a direct compliment like "you look beautiful" or "I like how you look" or "you look really nice" etc If she's a 9 or 10 I am more low key, like "I think you look somehow cool" etc. , wish her a nice day and back off. One obvious reason for the drill is to get rid of procrastination and to get to know all this little and bigger blocks/beliefs, which actually make me hesitate. Get to know thyself! The main parameter though is not speed but how freightening a social situation is. So far I have approached some 200 girls. Approach anxiety gets less and lesser. Actually it's not the girls now who I am afraid of but the people around me. That's because they see me as a creepy old guy. That's what currently blocks me most and lets me procrastinate.
After this many approaches a few patterns have shown up from girls. Sometimes they are enthusiastic. Most of them say "Thank you" and occasionally there is one who stubbornly tries to ignore me even though I am right in their face. That's weird. So basically the girls are not the wild scaring unknown anymore.
At this time I have some issues to work on. One is older woman, say over 45, mostly pretty fat and unattractive who seem very interested in what I am doing and quite a few times seem to try to piggyback. Few years ago after I have found a copy of David Shade's eye contact experiment and since then drove my experiments further and further, until I felt confident enough to stare relentlessy a an attractive girl. Of course at some time I really excagerated. I remember staring at a very attractive girl for about half an hour while riding on a train (I guess she'll remember , hahah).
Stations are my type of club environment, so to speak. I pick a hot girl and work on her, then quite often, at least it seems so to me, an old fattie notices and tries to interfere with my efforts. That is, she's looking at me and often getting closer and closer to me, which makes me feel angry, because I get feel blocked and watched , of course.
Now I am trying to not see this as an annoyance but rather as a challenge , ignore them an approach the girl anyway.
Another challenge I am now attacking is to approach a Hottie in a crowded train. The problem for me is not so much to gather enough courage but to not feel guilty for behaving like a social outlaw. It is not that others would blame me; they simply don't have the courage for that, I guess. It is me chastising myself for "wrongdoing" which makes me procrastinate.
Bottom line is, that I am making constant progress IF and that's a big IF, if I do my drills for at least two hours every day. For me it's like high performance sports: one day without training und you lose the critical one or two percent to beat your opponent.
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