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Yeah I'm impatient. I hate that online dating crap. I want to do "cold approach", that screening thing Chris talks about.
I hate going out alone to bars and clubs, loud environment, stupid dudes, I hate that crap.
I absolutely need to eliminate that fear of approaching women.
I have to do it. This drives me crazy really.
Get cracking with the AA program if reducing the fear is your goal. Get to at least week 4. And as much of a pain as it is, spend an hour every night hitting up every single dating app. Just don't quit and you will get pussy eventually. Tried and tested!
I read all the stories here, but somehow I find them hard to believe.
It's so far beyond my imagination that women want something other than a serious relationship.
I've just never experienced it in my 30 years, not in my life, not in anyone else's I know.
Maybe it is different in other countries.
It seems the only option to get laid for me, is to have a relationship. And that's not what I want, so no sex for me.
I wish I could bring myself to want a serious relationship, but something is clearly wrong with me.
All my friends have girlfriends, some have kids too. Maybe I should work on this issue before trying to get laid.
Plenty of women want casual flings and ONSs. Often they are the same women who want serious relationships. Just at different times in their lives.
Most guys need to get a girlfriend to get laid. Because they have no other choice. Don't be one of those guys. And don't judge yourself for not wanting a serious relationship. To hell what your friends have and think. They aren't you. And you don't necessarily have the complete picture of what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe some of your friends are miserable! Do you even want kids at this point? 31 isn't old at all. As a fellow 31 year old I still consider it young. Maybe 35-40 is when you truly start to enter the 'older man category. Furthermore, you never know when you might start to want a serious relationship.
The issue you need to work on is getting laid. Then the whole relationship thing will sort itself out.
Thanks for your posts. I'm currently reading your lay reports and logs and I have to say I'm impressed by your willpower and stamina. I would like to have 10% of it. I hope I can learn from you and others on this forum.
I hope with this thread I can keep myself accountable.
But I think I will quit online dating for now. It is not helping, it is making me miserable.
I will focus on real interactions with real women. The Pandemic isn't helping but that's
out of my control, so why bother.
No matter what happens, your will power WILL run dry. On a daily basis.
You need something stronger than mere will power. You need a very strong pain point or motivation. Things changed for me not because of immense will power but because I was quite possibly going to die if I didn't make it so.
When you enter that mind-set, failure simply isn't an option. It can't be. Its life or death.
I think I shouldn't focus to much on just the sex for now, Pickup and Porn really fucked me up over the years.
I think I need to shift my focus on having fun and enjoying the process.
As I said I don't have the willpower and stamina to do something that focuses purely on the end goal,
seeing the process to get there as pure work. Yes I have motivation, and yes I absolutely need a kick in my ass.
But I don't think that life or death thinking helps me. I don't think that's healthy.
Today I was at a bar. A group of girl were playing some card game. I thought about casually asking what they are playing and if I can play with them. I was close at doing it, I even sat down near them. But in the end I didn't do it. If I would have gone out with a buddy I probably would have asked. Well, at least I talked to the barkeeper and some drunk dude. I didn't drink alcohol today, that was good too.
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I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
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Kratom is next!
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