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So I’m addressing my problem and my biggest shame right on spot. I’m a 25-year-old virgin. There are probably many reasons for that but that doesn’t matter now. It matters that I took matters into my own hands and already started to apply the loose your virginity Guide on this website and what should I say?
It (kinda) works for me. For the first time in my life I had Dates. I roughly began one year ago to lose weight and simultaneously dating girls online. My style is not bad, my best friend worked at DIESEL and I learned and bought a lot from there. So my only Problem is my insecurity about my lacking experience and my Bodyweight but I’ll start from the beginning and post my Dates.
I hope someone might help me and tell me where my errors are and what I may do better the next time.
Date 1# Girl “E”
“E” was the first girl from online I met. We chatted I got here number fast and called her. We had a reaaaaallly long talk and I immediately took a liking to this girl but then came the surprise. When we met she wasn’t quite the same girl. She was really short and overweight. Also I didn’t like her character as it turned out she was very different than me. After we grabbed some coffee she even took me to a party with her friends but we didn’t stay very long.
After that we met again to eat some ice cream but her and mine lack to meet a third time ended our contact overall. She writes me from time to time when she’s bored but I’m not really interested in her anymore. She even told me she has a sex-relationship currently so I’m out of the game.
Date 2# Girl “JM”
“JM” was very strange. She responded very shy and when we met we didn’t talk very much. It was the first time where I thought this wasn’t due to my failure but because she was boring.
Date 3# “A”
“A” was a very nice and kind girl but the problem was that she was much bigger than I am. She was 6 ft. tall! She was into sports which was very cool and she was a virgin too. The Date was nice but at the end she began talking about a boy she fell in love with and who suddenly left her and she still has feelings for him. I saw this as a bad sign and did probably the most stupid thing by scaring her with spiders which she was afraid of. xD
Not to say that it didn’t play out.
Date 4# “N”
Oh Boy! “N” was the girl! I fell in love with this girl. It was for the first time in 4 years that I opened my heart for a woman again. We met on a Comic Convention and we both were Harry Potter fans. I grabbed her Facebook and later got her number. We met at a café and stayed there for nearly 2 hours. But after that… nothing! I called her she never replied and when she finally did she told me she had no feelings for me. That was soooo hard! I really liked this girl and wanted her so much. I think the Problem was that I wasn’t engaging in sexually conversation and didn’t touch her very much. Could this be a problem?
Date 5# “S”
After “N” I thought nothing good would ever happen to me, I was wrong! I met “S” trough Tinder and after a long period of chatting and rescheduling 2 times we finally met. We went eating some Burgers and later to a cocktail bar. I don’t know why but I suddenly wanted her to shut up because she was mocking me and I just grabbed her and kissed her and we made out. I had made out before but this was the first time sober and on a date. To make things even better on the next day she wanted to be my girlfriend. She even made it public on Facebook I was kinda scared but I enjoyed her feelings for me.
But it just didn’t turn out well. After a few days she wrote me and told me she had mental problems because of a rape attempt and she doesn’t feel ready for a relationship let alone sex. My world was crumbling again but I acted like a Gentleman and agreed.
We got recently in touch again her state hasn’t changed but she said she believes in second chances.
Date 6# “J”
I don’t wanna write much about “J” because she was another fatty who deceived me through her pictures. We went on breakfast it was nice and all but we haven’t heard from each other since.
Date 7# “H”
Now comes the latest entry and my biggest regret. I met “H” online before Date 5 and after a few weeks she told me she finds I’m a very cool guy and she likes me but she wants to be honest and told me she currently has a fuckbuddy. So we ended the contact. After I Broke up with “S” she suddenly called me again. After a while she told me her Fuckbuddy left and her life had taken a step down. We decided to meet and eat some ice cream. We strolled on the river bank and it was genuinely nice. But again I didn’t touch her very much or talked about sex.
Then came the moment of truth. She asked me if I wanted to come over to her and watch Netflix. I immediately said yes and Day X came. When I was at her home the first problem was her stupid dog. It licked all over my face always wanted to play with me and he was jealous as fuck. When we were watching. I remembered Chris’ Guide and thought” ok we’re on 2nd Date so let’s not do this to fast”. Big Mistake! Time went by and i made a move and kissed her. She replied but told me I should leave because her dog doesn’t like new people and she has work on the next day. She took me to the bus while we were holding hands and she kissed me goodbye. Sounds good? Nope!
After 2 Two days she wrote me she thinks we are to different and it doesn’t make sense to meet anymore. As you may think I’m still pretty down because of this.
So my question is what’s my problem? If you have questions about my behavior just ask. I’m open to any advice on losing my damn v-card.
So I’m addressing my problem and my biggest shame right on spot. I’m a 25-year-old virgin. There are probably many reasons for that but that doesn’t matter now. It matters that I took matters into my own hands and already started to apply the loose your virginity Guide on this website and what should I say?...
...So my question is what’s my problem?
I didn't need to read the whole thing.
I read the first bit here and that was all I needed.
You already have your solution: not focusing on the problem but focusing on the where you want to go by taking action, not just thinking.
You already know that you have to take matters into your own hands, and you're doing that.
Right now, the worst thing that could happen would be intellectual masturbation. Unfortunately, there's so much great information here on GLL that it's tempting to become addicted to "learning" when actual learning happens when you're taking action (possibly the only bad thing about GLL).
I can tell by your language (e.g. "starting to apply", etc.) that you'll be fine.
Some background information about me: I've spent years of my life helping people put their lives back together (working in rehab centers, and currently working with transitional housing for the mentally ill). One of the most important lessons people learn is to focus attention on what produces desirable results. People that focus their attention on "why am I so screwed up?" tend to go down the never ending process of self analysis and never improve their lives (I've done that myself). Even if they figure out why they have problems, they still have problems.
Continue to focus on doing what produces desirable results and you'll be fine.
Temporarily unavailable as I need to focus on other areas of my life. Only focusing on no more than two goals at once. Best of luck to you guys.
I skimmed quickly through some of them, I think the last one you could have got, if you had persisted and broke through LMR. Not what you want to hear I get that, but I've missed my fair share in the past too. She should have had manners though and put her dog straight...
You have a classic case of I'm a virgin but I also have high standards. If you wanted to lose your virginity, you could have done it on Date 1, Date 3, and Date 7. Enough with the "she's too fat" or "she has a fuckbuddy". Quit making excuses and lose it.
GCT wrote: You have a classic case of I'm a virgin but I also have high standards. If you wanted to lose your virginity, you could have done it on Date 1, Date 3, and Date 7. Enough with the "she's too fat" or "she has a fuckbuddy". Quit making excuses and lose it.
OP is gonna bust a nut in less than a min anyways...Just get it ova with. No biggie
You are right I shouldn't overthink this and just start acting again.
Would you recommend me the screening articles from Chris? I didn't read them yet. I focused on the Virginity Programm and later on loosing my standards. I thought the other stuff like screening might be too much for a beginner like me.
Ok guys! I had so much to do in the last few weeks so I barely had any spare time for dating. BUT I managed to get at least on 2 Dates. I’ll present them to you and hope you might give me some feedback.
#Date 8 “O”
I met O through an Online Website for Singles. We had something running and we really connected with each other. I got her number pretty quick and I called her instantly. The phone calls were some of the best I ever had with a girl. She was genuinely nice and open we shared many interests like sports and video games. She already told me how much she likes to be kissed and how my fault and bedroom looks. I saw this as a very good sign and set up the first date to finally meet her. NOW comes the big twist. When we met she was an entirely different person! She was very shy and had a closed body language. I sat directly beside her (thought I should try this) and we talked to each other. After a while I got really bored because it didn’t quite lead to anything so I tried to kiss her aaaaaand…. She gave me a cold no. I saw this date as a disaster. I brought her to the train station and said goodbye. A few days later she wrote me that we just wouldn’t’ connect and that I would find a girl that would fit better to me. After some investigating und questions to her she finally gave in and told me the truth: She said I just didn’t’ look like at my pictures! Oh Boy! That was the least problem I expected! Well she told me that it was rude to sit next beside her and I shouldn’t’ have tried to kiss her. But to be honest, she told me her last boyfriend was over 30 and she doesn’t count short-term Relationships. I finally got it that this girl wasn’t for me and that she had some mental problems. ( or recovering ex-slut?)
Well and so time went on and then I met:
#Date 9 “V”
I met V during my application for university. We liked each other and she even waited for me to finish my exam and walked to the bus with me. There I got the feeling she might be interested in me and I got her FB Account. We said goodbye and parted. After 15 minutes SHE sent me her number via Facebook! We began to Chat an whatsapp and I called her after a few days. Today we had a date. Nothing special we just strolled through the streets and grabbed some ice cream. In the evening we sat down and talked about some things like plans for the future or past relationships ( I usually fake it here to make it). Suddenly she began to speak about her friends and how they behave and what I would notice when I meet them. I asked her curiously when would I meet them. And then… SHE BLUSHED! It was soooo cute! And guys, I’m sure it wasn’t because of the sun! After that we went to the train station on the way she told me of her difficulty to connect with people and make new friends. But as I would see now she’s trying. (At this point I was like: Beg Pardon?!?!?) I kept a cool head and started to take the offensive and established body contact and touched her. While we were going I would hug her arms or swing my hips at hers like dancing. I even took her hand and went with her like that to the train station. There we parted and SHE HUGGED ME!
This happened today and I’m still kinda confused. Would you guys say she likes me? Did I do the right things this time? Should I try to meet her again? (Of course I will… stupid me…) I would be thankful for every reply! And sorry if my grammar is bad the day was very long. xD
Hit on girls online and in person and don't be too picky. Go on dates, try to make a move then invite girl back to either ur place or her place for some drinks. once home escalate and get laid. Repeat many times and Viola u lost ur virginitty
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I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
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