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I'm also unmotivated to be social. I have my own interests, and I've put having a social life way on the back burner. And I'm totally fine with that. I just want to get laid. So that's what I go after.
I'm not sure I understand your lack of motivation to get laid. Don't you want to? Fapping to porn is based on your desire for sex. So you must want the "real thing" if it's an option.
I'll bet the lack of motivation is really a lack of belief. If it doesn't seem possible, then your desire won't be enough.
Motivation = desire + belief.
If you want something, and you believe you can get it, you WILL take the action. But if you want something, even if you want it very badly, but don't believe you can get it, then here will be NO motivation to take any action. For example, if you see a super hot girl that you want to fuck, but don't believe that by approaching her you can actually fuck her, you won't approach. Add approach anxiety into the mix, and there's just no possible way you're approaching. But even someone with STRONG anxiety, if they KNEW that by approaching her that they will definitely fuck her, they WILL approach. The anxiety cannot hold him back. It's just physics.
Even guys who have gotten laid can have a dry spell. And it can go on for so long that they lose the belief that they can get laid. And that kills motivation.
I had gotten laid before, but before I found GLL I had never approached female strangers. So, I was an "approach virgin." It was almost inconceivable that I could ever do it. But the AA program solved that. It had to work. It's gradual enough that anyone can do it. And it's like that with anything. The gradual steps will get you there. You never needed it for the gym because you wanted to do it, and so you could just do it. Belief was a non-issue. But with getting laid, you just start small and build from there. "Trying to be social at the gym" probably won't get you far enough, fast enough. It wouldn't have worked for me at least. You need a solid program that can take you STRAIGHT in the direction of getting laid. Your beliefs will catch up and motivation will catch fire.
The more time you spend thinking about this stuff, the more confusing it will become. Just decide to do something and put your desire into action.
My honest opinion: all of us will have times of demotivation, but if you don't have the motivation in general, you just don't want it enough. You're consciously/subconsciously comfortable with your life just enough to not take what you want. That drive has to simply come from within. No other way aroud it.
Don't lose your v card to an escort you'll regret that. Maybe you should put that energy you put into lifting into being better with women. Baby steps and when you do get a girl, itll be way more glorious. Have you tried using Tinder or POF? It's pretty much impossible not to get laid on those sites if your willing to bottom feed.
Beast I'm on that same level, not social but love getting laid
Take a nice long 5 minutes walk through a few Wal-Mart isles observing people around me then walk to my car half shocked at things I saw and the other half knowing EXACTLY what I dont WANT TO BE....
Real shit lol
On the flip side drive around some fucking baller ass housing areas or sneaky in an small private airport to see the exotic whips chillin in an airplane hangar with a LEGIT mint condition Leer jet not thinking material things are everything in life.... But I know I would have some FUCKING FUN IF I OWNED MY OWN LEER JET with hired pilots and fully nude non english speaking 10's from say the Swiss Alps we picked up on a snowboard trip serving me and those who always have had my back and never would/will snitch on me sitting in the clouds puffin on something dank drinking something with jolly ranchers floating in the bottom just flying thrown ass fuck... yup...
"I put the bubbles in the tub so I can take a bubble bath!"
Sorry I had to wander to the dark side of the web earlier and remain untraceable which now I cant login to any site on any browser unless I'm running Tor as I am right now with a crazy amount of bridges to further leave no trail leading me to some slow ass internet... hmmm
"I put the bubbles in the tub so I can take a bubble bath!"
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I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
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