TOPIC: 22 Year old Virgin surrounded by woman

Sup peeps. First time poster. Thought id share my story and get some advice.

First and for most im a 22 nearly 23 year old virgin. I'd say that that's the case due to many reasons but mostly because I had no confidence and was a skinny little kid. Anyway, hit the gym for about 3 years now. Im still skinny but much better and have a way more higher sense of entitlement.

Anyway i suffered a bad injury to my neck and i went through a really deep phase of anxiety. Thought i lost my sanity for a while, however with a pshcyologist i managed to get onto my feet and am now way more confident then ive ever been. I mean after a experience like that, you dont take anything in granted in life anymore.

So long story short, I currently work in the kitchen at a nursing home in Australia. There are hardly any dudes working there and the ones that are working in the nursing home are old men. I guess in some ways im the only young stud there haha. Im surrounded by woman. Most are old but there are a few in their late 20's, early 30's. Problem is most are married and are older than me.

I always talk to them, since im very talkative and some do flirt. Even some milfs. I have had the oppurtunity to get with one 27 year old but the problem is I dont see her much. Lately ive been having 1 minute convos with some latino cleaner. She is cute but here in lies the problem.

I'm 22 and they are late 20's. I feel like any attempt to let them know that im interested could end p really awkward. Im not really interested in a serious relation ship with them as the age gap is to big and im sure the feelings are mutual. However if i ask for them number they might get the attention that I might just want to fuck them and they might turn me down which could end up in an awkward situation afterwards.

My other drama is that there's a hot milf. Shes from Nepal but she is smoking hot and her accent and the way she speaks sounds like shes always flirting around. Now im thinking the chances of me getting her are pretty slim to none although she does some times flirt. Her and her sister in law flirt with me at times. But im too scared to compliment her. I dont want her to think im hitting on her incase she gets spooked or thinks she could possibly heat on her husband haha.

Im still a virgin but there's so many opportunities currently for me.

Any words of advice?

thedon7 wrote: Sup peeps. First time poster. Thought id share my story and get some advice.
Any words of advice?

Yes, stop limiting yourself to your workplace. Get out on the streets/bars/clubs and start approaching woman there. Its a big old world out there you know. I wouldnt be a fan of shitting where you eat anyway. Hell, I doubt id bother even approaching a girl from my college (over 3000 people attend it lol) - but thats just me being ridiculous.

Definitely broaden your options though. Maybe even try online dating? I dont like it personally, but you might.

Thanks for the feedback lfc. To be honest, ive always hated going clubbing and bars etc. I like to find girls in places where I have a particular interest in. For example if i go kayaking or walking or riding dirt bikes, rock climbing etc. I like to actually be able to relate to them and have a proper convo.

The problem is most woman my age, dont really do shit like that. Me and my friend made a pact that every time we saw a group of girls wed go up to them no matter what and start a convo. However he recently got a gf so I think ill have to do it on my own.

thedon7 wrote: Thanks for the feedback lfc. To be honest, ive always hated going clubbing and bars etc. I like to find girls in places where I have a particular interest in. For example if i go kayaking or walking or riding dirt bikes, rock climbing etc. I like to actually be able to relate to them and have a proper convo.

The problem is most woman my age, dont really do shit like that. Me and my friend made a pact that every time we saw a group of girls wed go up to them no matter what and start a convo. However he recently got a gf so I think ill have to do it on my own.

With all due respect, you are a virgin, you shouldnt be worrying about relating to them, you should be worrying about fucking them.

If it matters to you so much that you can relate to these girls, then take up some hobbies that girls your age will be involved in.

Im not saying its the case , but I wonder are you stuck in the same trap as I was, that you think you will need to/want to be comfortable with the girl, know her well, be able to relate to her or whatever. Everyday you dream of your ideal girl conveniently falling in to your hands. It dont work like that bro. All your inhibitions will go out the window when you are lying in bed with a girl and she is clearly in to you. My first real sexual experience was with literally some random girl I jumped in to bed with whose house I was brought to by a friend of hers (another randomer I didnt know). If you told me before the time id be able to do that, id have laughed at you.

I think you are worrying to much about finding gf material. As a virgin (im in the same boat myself), you should just focus on losing it and gaining some experience with a girl you are at least slightly physically attracted to. Would you really want to meet the girl of your dreams and be such a let down sexually and be awkward in general due to lack of experience with girls.

Maybe I am wrong, but I have been in the same boat as what I have described for a long time. Its only recently I have started to change. I have seen so much progress and am so much better for taking action.

Thanks LFC. I think you hit the the nail on the head on that one. I think im too caught up wanting the perfect gf. It feels as though thats what exactly happened to both my friends. They were virgins, got pretty ugly gf and now they've settled with them and have lost all ambitions of climbing up the scale and maybe in other aspects of life to.

Maybe im just nervous as a virgin or intimidated by the lack of experience of how to handle the next level with the girl. Maybe thats why i dont execute and take the situation to the next level.

Anyway thanks for the feedback man. Going to go out there and push it a little further each time.

Just keep pushing your interactions, I'm in the same boat as well. We'll get there soon enough.

Thanks Wax. No doubt.

By the way, this is not the only interaction I have with woman. I just meant to say that, I wanted to know how to handle that certain situation at the nursing home. It feels like an easy score if managed well.

I say just go for it, only way to find out for sure is to go for it.

thedon7 wrote: Thanks LFC. I think you hit the the nail on the head on that one. I think im too caught up wanting the perfect gf. It feels as though thats what exactly happened to both my friends. They were virgins, got pretty ugly gf and now they've settled with them and have lost all ambitions of climbing up the scale and maybe in other aspects of life to.

Maybe im just nervous as a virgin or intimidated by the lack of experience of how to handle the next level with the girl. Maybe thats why i dont execute and take the situation to the next level.

Anyway thanks for the feedback man. Going to go out there and push it a little further each time.

I tell you what, because I was in the same situation as you (and still am in many ways), I know how you feel - so in this post, im going to try put you in the right direction to change and get where you want to be. Im nowhere near where I want to be, but I am happy with my progress.

First things first, if you dont already, start lifting. I cannot stress enough how important this is, both physically and mentally. Too fat? Lose some. Too skinny? Gain some size. Im not going in to detail about it here, as you may already lift, though if you dont and want to be pointed in the right direction, ask and I will pm you with all the information you will need. Standing out from the crowd is key a lot of the time, and what better way than to have some size.

You will also want to get a stylish haircut and dress well. There are plenty of suggestions on this forum for improving in this area.

Once you have those in place, start approaching girls. Id start off with clubs/bars, as it is intimidating enough approaching girls with a drink in you when you have AA, never mind sober. Use a variation of nervous/basic guy game - "Hi, I thought you looked cute, so I felt I should come and chat to you, Im theDon". Once you have done many night approaches, you can give day approaches a shot using the same method. I havent got to that stage - yet. As well as cold approaching, its definitely worth giving online dating a go. You should definitely have good photos for this, I didnt and had no where near the success I could have had I had better pics.

In regards to you being nervous with girls, that I can definitely relate to. There is one garuanteed way to get rid of it though. EXPERIENCE - which in turn promotes confidence. Seriously, just go out there and get with girls! Do what you want to do with them (you may be doing something wrong or not well, but they will still be turned on by the fact you are taking the lead and doing as you wish). I bet after you make out with 5 or more girls, get in bed with one or two (dont even have to have sex), your confidence will be through the roof and this sort of stuff wont even be a worry. I used to freak the fuck out over this kind of stuff. Ive made out with like 7 or 8 girls these past 2 months, in bed with 2 girls, nearly got another 2 back (one a 9/10 18 year old), got a crappy hj and rubbed a girls pussy (horribly wrong - I think), but I cant wait to get in to bed with another girl. In the past 2 months ive actually made myself available and made an effort, guess what, I made progress and Im now more confident for it. If I can do it, so can you.


If I think of anything else, I will add it. Go out there and get out of that comfort zone and I promise you will see results.

I advise you not to fuck anyone in your workplace. Any resentment or bad feelings will make the workplace uncomfortable, and you will likely be the one to get a new job, or get a false accusation which results in your termination. While the latter is a low-odds/high-consequence issue, the former is high-odds/low-consequence. You're going to see her at work. If she's not happy with you, she may start rumors, give you dirty looks, or whatever: it makes someplace you must go very unpleasant.

Some solid advice in here.

Congrats on getting back on your feet and hitting the gym for 3 years man. You've set the groundwork.

First step at all- your appearance. There are both short and long term updates/changes you can make that will make you look much better. Highly recommend you post a pic of yourself. You can post it on the private board if you want, then link it here. Who knows maybe in a week with a few small changes like wardrobe, hairstyle and bronzer and you'll be set.

Best option for losing the Vcard imo is online dating. As long as you have some decent pics (which would come after you update your look if needed) you'll be able to set up some dates. It doesn't need to be the worlds prettiest girl either. The biggest step forward is just getting laid. but with solid pics you'll do fine anyway.

Chris wrote a Lose your virginity series: www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/get-laid-...our-virginity-part-1

everything you need is in there. If you go ahead with it and need any help with the profile, just ask us.

Cheers

Thanks LFC. In all honesty ive really made improvements in my appearance. Ive found a haircut that suits me (IMO), I actually fit into clothes now so thats check. Ive found a dressing style which I like. Im into metal/rock and all the other classic stuff but i guess i like the black look. Black ring/earings etc. However i dont go over the top.

Ive gained some size but im stuck under the 135 pounds. I want to add another 20 pounds. Im drinking weight gainer. I know I can get to 150 pounds. That plus the muscle ive built will give me that tad more confidence boost. However physically/appearance wise I feel as though im worthy enough these days.

Epic turn around. I doubt ill get fired. My aunties sister is the kitchen manager and thats how I landed the job. We are contractors and the nursses work for a diff company. They are nearly all from abroad so i feel as though im more superior then them. None of them are even white so i dont think theyde make too much noise.

Thanks rooster. Ill scan through it. Theres a registered nurse at my work place. We get on really really well. We connect. I asked her if she had a fb acc so i could link her some songs/docos and she was keen. Although i forgot to add her and when i pulled my phone out to show her a photo off fb she reminded me to add her. I could possibly go balls deep with her but im not really attracted to her. Shes from fiji and really dark and she aint ugly or anything but i dno i dont feel like im attracted to her enough.

A photo of me on a day out riding. Not in any fancy clothes etc.