TOPIC: Trying out new styles at the expense of looking stupid.. opinions?

So over the last few days i've massively resisted the advice of changing the way I dress because it's pretty foreign to me, but last night in bed all of a sudden I had a mindset switch and said "fuck it, i'll try it and see what happens". And i've started this thread to put photos up and get advice from experienced guys.

Having lost weight i'm able to do this again and am starting to look better, the last few years I didn't bother because nothing seemed to look good on me. At the moment it's a bit of an awkward phase cos i've lost weight but am still losing more and have like 25kg more I want to lose.. so I don't really want to buy heaps of new clothes and then have them not fit again.

The good thing is i've got all these clothes that haven't fitted for ages and some i've never even worn and for the moment i'm experimenting with different combinations of what I have in my wardrobe, it's not gonna be perfect but for now i'm looking for an improvement until the time I am ready to buy new clothes or find some good cheap ones I can wear for a while.

Basically i'm gonna do this and go out to see if I get different reactions. It's basically an experiment, I feel slightly stupid because i'm used to dressing in one way.. but yeah you guys made me realize it's pretty boring.

So i've been looking at it from the angle of looking a bit more edgy as i've been reading alot of articles on the site.

The idea popped into my head to combine a few things, one singlet i've never worn and a shirt that just recently fits. I also experimented with necklaces and this one that I thought i'd lost I felt was the best.

It's not gonna be perfect but I feel it is definately more edgy and stands out more than what I usually wear. One thing I remembered from an article is layering so I thought i'd try that too.

I'm also gonna but a few of these photos on POF to see if there is a difference.

Ok for comparision, I posted this photo a few days ago and this is a photo I have on POF.



And here is what i'm wearing tonight, I also decided not to shave because I look more masculine and edgy with stubble. It's also showing off some of my chest, yes I have a hairy chest and some girls don't like it. But most of the girls i've slept with say they love it and that I should never shave it so in a way it's screening and it's a little more sexual.

I don't really like the necklace, it makes you look more feminine but that's just my opinion.
If you keep losing weight you'll look super nice, so keep up the good work!

Hey Benjamin, props for stepping out of your comfort zone and expanding your fashion sense.  It's tough as hell and you'll probably go through MANY "looks" before you settle into one that's your own.  But, definitely beneficial to get the ball rolling on it.

Like Panda11 said, I'd lose that particular necklace.  With your skin tone and that undershirt, it almost blends into your skin and doesn't stand out, at least with this photo.

Also, the outfit is too dark and flat.  If you're gonna rock the dark jeans, I'd suggest a lighter top, preferably something with a little color.  Since you're in the warmer months down there in Australia, you might try a brighter color polo type shirt.  Go with a red, yellow, light blue....just whatever color seems to work with your skin tone.  And, if you can find one with some edgy designs attached to it, all the better. 

I'm sure you're like I was for so long as someone shedding body fat....you want to change your look but you're afraid to "standout" just yet.  Don't be afraid to use some color to make yourself more noticeable, but don't get stupid turning yourself into a giant rainbow...Haha!
Once you've lost the rest of the body fat, you'll start to feel more comfortable standing out in the crowd, and your clothing will express that.

Keep working at it bud, you'll find your look soon.

Good on you for trying new things.

The only thing I would add to the above is, work on your grooming (neck, upper chest, face) clean that shit up.

Also, low collared T's (whatever that style is) I think will look really feminine, unless you have a very developed
chest. So best to avoid for now IMO. Also agree about the necklace.

Keep trying though mate, you only "fail" if you quit.

Thanks guys.

I don't really like the necklace, it makes you look more feminine but that's just my opinion.
If you keep losing weight you'll look super nice, so keep up the good work!

Cool good to know. Thanks, I do plan on losing more weight.

I'm sure you're like I was for so long as someone shedding body fat....you want to change your look but you're afraid to "standout" just yet.  Don't be afraid to use some color to make yourself more noticeable, but don't get stupid turning yourself into a giant rainbow...Haha!
Once you've lost the rest of the body fat, you'll start to feel more comfortable standing out in the crowd, and your clothing will express that.

Yep exactly how I feel, scared to stand out. Some of that was because of my weight but I guess also from back at school. Kind of been uncomfortable being the centre of attention because of being bullied and stuff, but that's stuff that might come up that I can work through with what I know now that I didn't before. (FasterEFT mainly)

Good on you for trying new things.

The only thing I would add to the above is, work on your grooming (neck, upper chest, face) clean that shit up.

Also, low collared T's (whatever that style is) I think will look really feminine, unless you have a very developed
chest. So best to avoid for now IMO. Also agree about the necklace.

Keep trying though mate, you only "fail" if you quit.

So you reakon shave my chest or just groom it a bit? I'm a hairy person, my legs and arms are hairy too :Z But yeah I grow hair in annoying places like on my neck and back and stuff that I should groom.

I had a singlet on under it but I know what you mean, it was an interesting experiment though.

Anyway, obviously this look is a ton better than my normal one, thursday night 2 18yo girls approached me and my friend and I put these photos on this thread on POF and I got 1 new message from a girl, 1 girl who seemed to be ignoring me now has replied and 1 come up on the 'meet me' thing wanting to meet me and they are all younger than me too.

So it's a good step in the right direction, though that's only 1 outfit for now :Z

Props for stepping out of your comfort zone. Keep experimenting until you find something that suits you.

Hey, friend

I'm not sure if they want me giving fashion advice, so take the following with a grain of salt...

I do work in a men's clothing store, and always try to take a mental note of guys that have interesting style/edge.

One time in the supermarket checkout I remember seeing a guy that had a similar body type to yours and he was rocking the following look...

• White crew neck t-shirt that fit well-- not too tight-- not loose, but just right. Just the right length, too. He had kind of a pudgy body type, but the t complemented his body type well. Probably a Jockey brand.
  • Lighter wash Levi's 527  (slim boot cut)  (Yes, I peeked at the tag to make sure)
    Lime green Converse Chuck Taylors <--- this is the stand-out piece, that says "I get it"
  
  He might have had a keychain and some facial jewelry, not sure now, maybe and arm tat. Facial scruff
  
  It was a simple "worn in" look, like he dressed like that all the time.  But it made a statement and gave him an identity- kinda geeky/cool. Just enough edge, but not trying to be something he isn't. I'd go for something like this
  
  

Hey Ben-
first off- thanks for signing up and being open minded.

no on the chain - its outdated.

This is what I suggest shooting for instead of "edgy well-dressed" or "trendy"

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COOL

Google "Smash Mouth 2013"
look at pictures of the lead singer and bring together that look





CAREFUL on the Sunglasses. If you need specific help w/ those (if you decide to do this) -- then ask me

To do ASAP list-
- trim or shave OFF the chest hair
- get down to 7-8% (that should be your #1a #1b #1c  #1d GOAL this year) -- our diet can pull 50lbs off you in 5-6months.