TOPIC: What to Do With My Hair?

Lmao you have the most hilarious pictures... do you edit them yourself? Yeah the contrast is night and day for you. Ima be lookin like Tim Ferris haha

So I actually get what you're saying now with the diffuse thinning. Depending on the lighting, in some shots you can see straight to scalp, while in others it looks like you have very full plentiful hair.

Your hair is a very light color. One thing you might want to consider is dying your hair a darker shade of brown or black. That should add more opacity-independence to the viewing angle.

Or as Radical said, cut it shorter.

Keep trying out different stylists (not barbers) until you find one who is money. It can be a frustratingly slow process since you sort of have to wait about a month between trials but you'll find someone who does a great job eventually. I've found the best success saying something like I'm feeling like a change, I don't love my hair and I have a hot date coming up. What would you recommend?

If they're solid they'll do a good job.

yeah I'm not making this shit up lol. I could see why some people would think I was overblowing it though. It depends on the lighting and angle in the pictures... imo it's pretty bad... I've seen that darker shades for lighter skin can actually make it look worse... that the best choice is matching color to skin, not a contrasting color. Also worried about hair being damaged even more by dying it.

I honestly don't think cutting it shorter will help. I think some parts will look terrible, like the back shot of my head where all you see is scalp. And I'm supposed to go shorter than that? The right lighting and angles made me think for quite awhile now that my hair was actually way better than it actually is...in these pics, it's almost advisable to shave it off lol. Pretty huge blow for me. I guess we'll see what ru/min does over the next 4-6 months... if it does nothing, like finasteride did, then may just have to go full blown tim ferris

Some inkling of good news... when I took those pics, it had been about 19-20 hours or so after I had taken a shower... new regimen is take shower before bed, then apply tropicals. Then rinse it off in morning but no shampoo, as I don't want to overdo it. My head will get greasy after 12 plus hours of no shampoo... so will retake photos tomorrow to see.

Course I edit 'em myself.

I don't know why you don't just do what Radical does and what I did for the last 4 years - just wear a cap/beanie 24/7.

In all the photos you took the top of your head looked quite full. Like the photos Rousseau posted, or getting a lower grade like Radical mentioned you could go way shorter on the sides.

You really have three options:
1) keep trying out different hair styles (including playing around with how you style your hair every morning in addition to new cuts)
2) experiment with hats + beanies
3) shave

As Andy pointed out, shaving isn't a cure-all. My roommate has way worse hair loss than you to the point he basically only has hair on the sides and back. He isn't super lean so going lean might help.

But there is something much more important for you to start working on right now.
More important than your hair.
More important than your text game.
More important than minox for beard.

You need to start believing in yourself.
I'm not saying you have to be confident and exude in self-worth right this instant.
That's not realistic.

What you can do is
1) update your workout log every day,
2) write down your posts in a word document and remove anything self-deprecating before posting,
3) end your posts on a positive note
Examples:
- No one knows what the dawn of a new day may bring.
- Good morning world and all who inhabit it!
- Onwards and upwards.
- One step forward.
- I will keep trying.
- I'm not done yet.
- Some day I'll get there.

Last I'm not a mod but I bet your threads keep getting locked b/c you reply rather a lot to posts and typically not something crucial. Think of this as place a stackexchange for getting laid. It's not really meant for socializing. Get answers to your critical questions and move on.

I get that you're looking for social interaction. It's definitely helpful getting through the social isolation these days. You can PM me if you want to chat.

But as a warning, I'm selfish with my time and negative posts drag me (and everyone) down with you. Vs. your workout posts fire me up! That is to say I won't be responding to any of your future posts that are self-deprecating. It doesn't help.

KillYourInnerLoser wrote: Course I edit 'em myself.

I don't know why you don't just do what Radical does and what I did for the last 4 years - just wear a cap/beanie 24/7.

I'm not sure... maybe because it feels like just a band aid for me? Then you have to explain it to women, co-workers, people judging you for using it to cover up your hair, etc.

I'm just praying that fin with ru/min and mk will give me a small amount of regrowth but this may be unlikely. We'll see. I may just get a beanie and start wearing it at work, with hair... then I can buzz my hair down to see what it looks like, without everyone knowing. And allow it to grow back if need be. I do reply a lot... I'll stop doing that, you can delete thread. My bad.

^ I don't think you're listening. I literally wore a hat/beanie EVERY SINGLE TIME I EVER LEFT THE HOUSE (and even inside the house) FOR 4-5 YEARS STRAIGHT. I literally only worked at workplaces where they would let me wear a hat. And yes, people pointed out I always wore a hat - I just agreed and said, "Yeah, I do it so I don't have to bother with getting haircuts or brushing my hair."

"I have to explain it to women, co-workers, people judging you"

Who gives a fuck? Why does this matter? People will judge you for the most ridiculous shit; you can't live your life in fear of what others will think.

I havent seen any evidence you have tried the low grade tbh - if you post a pic of you with a 1 on the back and sides (in a high and tight style) then I will never mention it again

You keep resisting certain advice - unless I see evidence you've tried it I'm going to say the same thing everytime. The guys who do the best with this shit sort of give up their own opinions in the beginning and just follow the advice of guys like Andy to the letter.

Like Andy says I wear a hat all the time socially

There isnt a pic of me not wearing one with my friends from the last year

I'll chuck a pic of my hair as it currently stands by edit in a sec

Now that I know specifically what to get, I will. Thanks.

Typically girls dont do shit when you take your hat off after a date to shag them

Or at least none of my lays have

I wore hats on 1st dates for my last 12 lays and all of them didnt take more than 1 date on average

Mason V I really cannot tell you that I would love more than anything to see you start getting some pussy and get out of this funk.

I don't think anyone on here is going to be any harder on you than they are on themselves either.

Show some teeth man. Show some life. If you want to get girls you cannot be doing this wishy washy stuff and holding back etc. If you can't be aggressive with your goals how are you going to be aggressive with girls? And you have to be that way to get laid alot.

Or apologizing and not putting yourself out there and putting yourself on the line.

I will promise you that if you want it bad enough, yes, you could get laid alot already right now. Even with your bad hair. And your "ugly" face. Some girl out there might actually be really stoked to be with you and you are depriving her cause you are holding back.

I mean do you really want it? Cause it's out there for you if you will go out and take it. It's up to you.