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Hey guys, I'm new in this forum but I've been reading Good Looking Loser for a long time without taking action to be honest and obviously without making any progress I'm changing that now. My name is Chris and I'm from Spain, currently living in Poland.
The problem I have is that my face got stuck like 7 years ago, a lot of times people thinks that I'm lying to them when I reveal my real age. I got rejected 3 times because of this with a "You're too young for me".
Can you help me to look more accordly to my age? I can't grow a beard, I have a lot of bald zones, it just looks ridiculous.
Good thing is you're a good looking dude and you're not incredibly set back by "looking" young. And that's just it, you don't need facial hair to look older. (but it can help)
First thing - you should begin going to the gym and eating more. Gaining muscle and getting bigger will make you look more masculine.
Other things to do - try looking up minoxidil. This is something you can use to grow facial hair.
Get a better haircut. Your cut looks very boyish. You need to look into getting a high fade/medium fade cut. (either or)
You also need to get different clothes. It'd be nice to see what you're wearing in the above photo where it looks like you have a leather jacket on. But the bottom photo is a big reason why girls think you're too young. You dress like a boy. It's kind of more difficult to dress up in summer weather but you could do things like pierce your ears, get a shirt that isn't a crew neck because crew necks are very plain.
For shorts try something like jean shorts with rips or try something that is darker with high inseams that hit just above your knees. White is sort of feminine and can be pulled off once you're more masculine in all the other areas. (It's like a big black dude with ear studs wearing a pink shirt). He can pull it off cause he's super masculine in all other aspects. I even wear a pink sweater now from time to time because I look big with clothes on.
But you're in Poland so I imagine it's kind of cold at the moment. I'd suggest posting some pics of you in winter clothes since it's winter there.
You seem hopeful though and I'm guessing you don't do terrible with women cause you're a good looking guy so you'll do much better soon!
Now that you pointed it out, I see that I really dress like a boy, neglected this area my whole life and now I'm paying the consecuences hah, I took note of your recomendations and I'll check them in the store as soon as I can.
Here are a few pics of how I usually look now (sorry for the shitty lightning):
Also I took this haircut today, better or still boyish?
I'm already hitting the gym and bulking, seeing some cool changes in the last two months, I was boxing until now, it made me a beast but not that much of muscle mass.
And yeah I'm sort of terrible with women, but more because of a crippling social anxiety that is haunting me my whole life... Somehow I managed to fuck it up in super easy opportunities where the girl was literally asking me to fuck her. But whatever, now I'm feeling like moving in the right direction at least, had my first date since ages the other day which went well and I'm pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone everyday.
Yeah you look like a teenager. EASILY fixable though, and it sounds like you're very open to feedback.
Over the next 2 weeks, let your facial hair grow out and show us what it looks like. Doesn't matter if it's patchy or has bald zones, just grow it out and show us. Minoxidil can fill in the patchy areas. Besides, facial stubble (even if it's patchy) will make you look less like a boy than no hair at all.
Almost no guy looks more masculine with no facial hair. And if it REALLY looks bad, you can just shave it off again.
Yes, your current haircut looks boyish. Clothes are decent, but throw in some accessories (a watch, or ring, or necklace, or get your ears pierced, etc)
Don't worry about being terrible with women. Most of us were when we first found GLL.
Where in Poland are you? There's a few Polish guys on here ("Podlas", "S3nga", and a few others).
As for the haircut get the sides shorter and I don't know if you got a medium fade (looks that way) I'd actually get a high fade and keep the sides pretty short, either a 1 clip or 1/2 clip. Also, try growing out the top.
You also look shorter than average, what's your height? I would look into getting some height increasing insoles. That'll help a lot.
For clothes, the jackets aren't too bad. Once you fill them out, it'll look a lot better. Look into getting a pea coat or a long line cardigan. The pants in the second picture look like sweat pants. Don't ever wear sweatpants in public unless you can really pull them off and they're stylish. Stick to jeans that are either black, dark grey, or navy.
We'll have to get some other opinions on clothing because it's not my expertise, I usually ask dc7 whenever I try shit on haha. It's also going to involve a bit of trail and error. You're going to buy some shitty stuff and you might decide later that it sucks. Best advice is go to the store and try lots of stuff on, take pictures and post it on the forum asking for advice.
Lastly, the shoes gotta go. They're like classic/generic shoes. Look into some black boots or some flats that are without laces or that allow the laces to be easily tucked into the shoe to avoid looking "messy".
This you'll also need to experiment with to see what looks best.
Try to find one perfect outfit and wear it often and then slowly build your wardrobe unless you can afford an overhaul.
Hi I’m 23 and I look 19,
Has it stopped me from smashing the hottest chicks ? Absolutely not. You got to edge up though, I’d put you in the nice guy category straight up.
Tatts or earrings or get buff or edgier clothes or actually all of those.
Edit: and get some shoe lifts.
Lay Count before GLL (September 2015): 1
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I’m baby faced, too, but thank Buddha I can grow a beard. Minox on the face seems to be the move. This a long term goal. I think it takes years to see results. I’ve never done this though.
Masculine footwear and outerwear is a game changer. I never wear sneakers or fleecey materials outside of the gym. Leather boots and a high quality top coat/rider jacket/Sherpa jacket will add a lot of style points without you having to change your total outfit. The best part is that with good footwear and outerwear you can get the cost per wear down pretty low because they’re so interchangeable. Research Chelsea boots, black jeans, white dress shirt, and burgundy top coat — you’ll look like a man.
Also, with your skin tone and hair color, wear colors with warm undertones like a warm orange or mustard. Research some Iberian and Mediterranean models. I’ve heard your coloring is popular with Polish women.
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The problem is that you have too much face fat. You have to get your body fat down and get more muscle mass.
There is no other way. You have to push hard in the gym. A better haircut might help as well.
I'm surprised nobody has pointed this out yet but your style is severely outdated. However, even if you were wearing the exact same clothes but with better fit, you'd look much better. Generally, kids who don't know their clothing size, wear baggy or oversized clothes, so this reinforces the impression that you are younger than you are.
Also, YoungHorny totally hit the nail on the head, face fat hides your features, and it's also associated with puberty and growing up.
Take this dude as an example, in order of importance: he lost face fat, he grew a beard, he got a better haircut.
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