TOPIC: I'm Way Off Because Of Looks But What Else Am I Doing Wrong? I Do Get #s?

ableright wrote: What about just maintaining it with propecia/finasteride and working on lowering body fat etc. What about beards and haircuts that would look good maintaining the somewhat receded hairline that I have? I'm still worried about side effects from finasteride. What haircuts would be good in my case?

Sandshark wrote: I agree with gaga. I'll give you some action steps on what to do.

First, I want to congratulate you for actually taking action and hitting on girls. I think as you improve your looks (and start getting results) and get more experience, your anxiety will take care of itself.

Second, there are major improvements you can make to your looks. That's your main thing right now, and your results will get a lot better once you handle that. Here is my advice:

1. Lose body fat. What's always worked best for me is to lift weights 3x per week and eat 2000 calories per day. That makes me lose 2 lbs per week. I hit that target by not drinking calories (no alcohol, no juice, diet soda instead of regular soda, etc.) and by skipping breakfast. I've tried Chris's low-carb diet but I feel horrible on low carb--you might have a different experience.

Do this until you hit 6% bodyfat (I've done this before without steroids, it's very attainable). You can measure your bodyfat with these calipers. The instructions will tell you what to do:

www.amazon.com/Sequoia-Fitness-TrimCal-4...ds=calipers+body+fat

2. Fix your hair. I can't see what it looks like very well from just that 1 picture. If it's not too far gone, keep it and just get a different hair style. I get a side-part with 2 inches on the top and a #3 on the sides and back. Some guys on here will tell you to get an undercut / fade, which I think is too extreme-looking (an undercut is basically shaved on the sides and back, and about 3 inches on the top).

If you decide to keep your hair, get on this immediately to keep it from getting worse: www.gll-getalife.com/entry/hair-loss-prevention-guide-part-2

If it's too far gone and no matter what you do, you'll still be obviously balding, read this article:

www.gll-getalife.com/entry/hair-loss-prevention-guide-part-8

3. Get a tan. Go to a tanning bed. In my opinion, the top-shelf beds are worth the extra money since you tan way faster, it's really hard to burn in there, etc.

4. At some point, you'll need to get new, edgy clothes. But since you have a lot of weight to lose, you'll probably want to hold off on that. Lots of fashion advice on gll-getalife.com

5. I can't see your teeth in the picture, but if they're yellow, get the Groupon teeth whitening. It'll be about $70 and will make a big difference.

6. You didn't say how tall you are, but if you're under 6'0, I'd add some to your height. Plenty of regular shoes add about 1.5 inches to your height (most dress shoes, boots, etc), and you can throw a small insole in there for another half inch. 2 inches is nothing to sneeze at.


It might seem like a lot, but honestly pretty much everything on there can be done in a week (teeth whitening, hair cut, tan, height shoes, clothes) except for the losing weight. Definitely get the calipers immediately (I'm assuming you already have a scale--if you don't then get one) and focus on that. Right now you look like 20-25% bodyfat and you'll look like a completely different person at 6%.