TOPIC: Guys That Shouldn't Start AA Drills / Hitting on Women Just Yet

Hello im Jacob! Im 20 and from Phoenix, Az and currently living in Norfolk, Va

* What are your goals?
My main goal is to be able to talk to any girl no matter what without fear.

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
Ive been reading up on pick up for the last year or so and been diving deeper into material these past few months, however I havent put it to much use.

* What are you main blockages?
My major blockages are just approach anxiety and confidence.

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
My experience level is very low. I havent been in a "serious" relationship since before high school ended. I havent been much further than making out and fingering girls in bed a few times. 

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
I found you guys through a link on Reddit in r/seduction lol. Someone linked to your AA program which I have just started today. I think it is a great tool that will do more than improve my social skills with women and improve my social skills with everyone I meet.

Some additional info.

Because I joined the military the last year and a half of my life has been a little crazy and sorta unstable which is why it has taken so long to get more proactive in this stuff. In the last few months I have FINALLY been able to get a place of my own and buy a car which are big steps towards having a social life. Not that I havent had one prior to this point but I had restrictions and obligations like living on base, curfew, and school/work, just to name a few. Another problem that I have is my age. Being 20 really limits my ability to get into clubs after like 10:00 at night which is super lame. Another thing is my friends think this pick up stuff is weird (fuck them right?) so if I could find a wing man that'd be tight.

If I get into the right mind set at times I can have a really good night out and be confident with girls but usually that comes with being at a loud night club that you cant hear anything at or wandering VA beach drunk talking to the girls who walk out of the bars. But that "approaching" doesnt get me anywhere. Night time/high energy places are where I do best.

Anyway guys thanks for reading my ramble I hope to make a serious change in my life with this.

awesome dude- thanks.. yup I saw that link on Reddit, glad you found us!

Where you are from? Germany
* How old are you? 20
* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012) I want to be able to approach to cute girls i see in the library or on the street, talk to them and seduce them until Mid 2014
* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific) Learning Chinese
* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material? I know about Pickup since about 5 years, but have never really practiced all the stuff because I thought these routines are retarded, which prevented me from approaching
* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out) I think it's approaching, being sexual and escalating
* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years? Have slept with 12 women overall half of whom i would consider hot/pretty, but my dating life sucks and sucked all the time in my opinion
+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
Rooshv

Where you are from?

England

* How old are you?

21

* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)

I want to have sex with 10 girls by the time i'm 22 (I turn 22 in March 2014)

* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)

Be COMPLETELY comfortable with who I am and doing whatever I want (getting pussy making £££)

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?

A year-ish

* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)

I don't fully express myself in social situations, I don't seem to have the ability to 'Man up' and assert myself, I feel like a boy trying/wanting to be a man.

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?

3 drunken one night stands and a few dates with a girl that didn't go anywhere.

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?

Youtube

* Where you are from?
I'm living in Omaha, NE now but i'm from everywhere. Ethnically I'm half Filipino.

* How old are you?
30

* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)
Get over AA and smash those gorgeous chicks at clubs and such

* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
Stop being so negative.

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
Yeeeaaarrrrrs probably like 3 or more

* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
Body image type stuff I guess. I lift pretty often but I'm usually a little over 25% bf. Could be general social anxiety but I feel strongly that a better body would help tremendously.

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
Haven't had a gf in 5 years and haven't gotten laid in 3.

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
Researching phenibut

* Where you are from?
Sacramento, CA

* How old are you?
21

* What are your goals?
To be able to pick up girls and get rid of how nervous i am. Also to put on weight, im sick of being the skinny guy. Also just want to know what its like to have girls attracted to me for the 1st time.

* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
To finally have at least a bit of success with girls. Just want at least a couple of girls to be attracted to me.

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
About 2 years.

* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
Im under weight and get nervous when in social situations.

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
Never had a girlfriend, and only gotten laid once. Just because she was drunk and i happen to be in the right place at the right time.

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
On youtube.

* Where you are from?
California, recently moved to Minnesota
* How old are you?
27
* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)
Lose my virginity before I'm 35 I guess. I'd rather have my 30s be a huge power trip but I'm not sure I can improve that fast.
* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
Get back into martial arts. Used to be able to learn jiu jitsu for free in college.
* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
At least 4 years. Wasn't ready to actually do anything and didn't even want to admit it. The frustrating part is when I read that shit I always feel like I'm on the verge of some big accomplishment but then I got out and try to talk to people (not just women, people in general) and can't do more than nod and agree with everything.
* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
Where to start? Pretty much anything you can think of except being fat. Skinny, anxiety, lots of obstacles that probably aren't a big deal but I don't know how to overcome them. Oh and whenever things aren't going well all I want to do is just withdraw. It hasn't helped and I feel like I'm just wasting time. Also want to get a vasectomy first (without anyone in my family finding out-frankly i can see why they would be upset) but that one's self imposed.
* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
incel. Not going to be ready to change that for a while but at the same time I'm concerned about what will happen if I wait too much longer.
+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
TRP. I don't go there very much anymore.

* Where you are from?
The UK.

* How old are you?
22 and turning 23 in February.

* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)
I want to reduce my anxiety in social situations where I am meeting women I don't know well. I tend to avoid eye contact and find it difficult to think of things to say, likely due to self conciousness preventing me from simply talking about what I want. Some of my friends seem to have more charm with women and I want to have that. I think I unconsciously give unknown women the initiative because I forget that to them I am as much of an unknown entity as they are to me.

I tend to say the bare minimum to aquaintences. I'll go days of simply saying "yes" and "nope" at work. I don't do small talk which sucks as realise it makes things go down better. I find that I am relieved when people start small talk with me and find it easy to play off of them but never initiate it myself. I can never think of anything to say.

I feel that if I set a goal to open small talk with an aquaintence, daily, then this would add greatly towards reducing any conversational awkwardness with women so I'll make that my goal.

* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
I want to be able to appraoch women I don't know in a social setting and open and maintain a conversation for a while without being drunk. Oddly enough I don't think Ive ever done that!? Its always been a friend of a friend.

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
Pickup since 2012. Simple pickup on youtube for example. Genuine well rounded stuff like Danger and Play I started fairly recently. ~6 months?

* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
I feel like I don't have alot to contribute in social situations which is untrue but the idea has deep roots. Perhaps there is more though.

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
Lost my virginity at university at the age of 21. Currently meeting up regualrily with, and sleeping with another girl I met at university for the last 7 months. My strategy in both instances was to take both women out for drinks repeatedly until it became obvious they wanted me to make a move and then I went for it. Not particularily smooth . I wasn't particularily poactive and i'd likely still be a virgin now if things hadn't kinda fell on to me. Both were/are rather large however, I purposly shot low with both of them to get sex to be honest.

Prior to that I had a huge crush on this wonderfull (pedestooled!) Norwegian chick who a friend finally got me to ask out to a meal when I was stone cold sobre when I was 21 (still kinda proud of that now, it took alot ). This was the fist girl I asked out. Bit complicated but it ended up with us eventually going out for 2 dates. I got her in to bed but she freaked out and left after I told her I was a virgin (I was high and a bit paranoid. Hmm.. to be fair so was she). Very dissolusioning and I went down the typical cynical/anti-women route and only recently got over her completly. I feel I have a nore balanced atitude to women now.

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
It was talked up on DangerandPlay.com.

I am in shape (5,11" and 177lbs) and have been weight training for years, I started a 5x5 program with a proper squat rack in my bedroom 8 months ago and I certainly look more bulked up than the average guy.

I think it's great that there seems to be a community aspect to this programe and feel that I and others will have a much greater chance of success if we take the plunge, "go all in", be honest about our experiences and reciprocate advice.

Hello everyone,

I have read throught the "anxiety" section of the GLL website to find advice on what to do if you are constantly sad, underachieving in life, if you have no friends etc.
Since I am quite sure that I fall into the category of guys who should not start the AA program, I wanted to ask here for second opinions on what my next steps are to a happier and fullfilled life. I want to accept myself for who I am today but also improve to a point where I can add more value to society in general.

I would appreciate any input. If this text is too personal or too long for this forum's standard, then do not read it and a mod can delete it.

But let me give you some information about myself first:

Originally, I am from Kazachstan, ethnically I am half Russian and half German. I am 28y old, living in Germany and currently studying Business Information Technology. I also work as a working student in software development although I am pretty bad at it, lol. The sad thing is, that I have 10 semesters of study time at the moment. As you might guess, I changed my major once and universities twice. But since everything happens for a reason it is largely all my own fault. I was not really interested in studying all my life. Nonetheless I am always very ashamed of my failures when I talk to new class mates and they ask me about it.

I began going to school when I was 7 years and 8 months old in Kazachstan. I do not remember exactly why, but my parents say that I had a severe stuttering disability and they wanted to fix it first which they did and I am really greatfull for that.

I failed 9th grade because I was smoking pot every day and drinking so much every weekend that I could not remember the night before the day after. After two to three years of drug abuse (including ecstasy and speed), on a birthday party of a former friend I was very drunk and I threw two bottles on the ground in front of two girls. Luckily another former buddy hit me in the face after that so that I calm myself down. After that night I did not remember anything but somehow I felt very guilty. Yet the coward that I am I did not try to reach out to the guests and my former group of friends and find out what happened. None of them contacted me for two years after. In that time I stopped doing drugs and finished my Abitur (high school graduation in Germany). It was only at that point that the guy who hit me at that birthday party ran into me and told me what happened that night. I apologized to him only. He said: "Do not worry, nothing bad happened, it is fine.". So I let it go. But the last weeks I still feel very guilty and ashamed of my actions and want to somehow apologize to those two girls. Although it was like ten years ago do you think it is too late?

As you can see the fact that I have no friends at the moment is also a result of my actions in the past. Additionally I am packed with work at the moment and I want to finish this semester with good grades. But programming at work and learing at home makes me depressed and takes a lot of discipline because I am not passionate let alone that interested in my major. The only upside is that I have a B+ average grade at the moment which I could turn into an A this summer term.

During my first two attempts at an academic carreer I failed and escaped in the virtual reality of multiplayer online battle arena games, like HoN and Dota.

Overall I also realize that I disappointed my parents and wasted their efforts to move to Germany. Although my father was an alcoholic he did his best to remain functional as a provider. My mom also worked her ass off for us. My father had a by-pass surgery one year ago and my mom is also ill because of several herniated discs and nerve damage in the spinal region. I cannot believe that I still am not able to help my parents financially and visit them on weekends so I can finish the projects for university but then keep procrastinating and do not achieve much. It makes me sick. In general I think it will make my parents happy enough if I become a man and live a successfull life.

My love life looks also very grimm since I am a virgin and only made out with three girls so far. But I was always very drunk when that happened.

I have so many areas where I need to put in a lot of effort that I need to make priorities. The first thing I am going to do is eliminate all procrastination in school and work tasks. That should make time for other things. After that I need to work on being able to make conversation and new relationships.

Then I need to deal with my anxiety and depression issues. Although I think that the latter will go away if I just keep being productive. Plus, consistent training in the gym also helps a lot. I started training in October 2015, and improved on every lift, e.g. my squat went up from 55kg x 5 reps to 95kg x 5 reps. I am now finished with a short 6 week long cutting-phase. From now on I will train with a recomposition approach with Jason Blahas Linear Hypertrophy training program. Currently I am 5'7'' and 151 lbs.

The list of areas I want to improve in goes on for quite a while. I want more stylish clothes, a new appartement, because my current one is very small, smells bad and is in an old building. But paying ~400-500 Euro per month as a student is not that easy. Having intimate relationships with attractive women would also be very nice. I realise how I need to just work non-stop every minute of the day, every day of the year, if I want to accomplish everything I want.

Luckily Chris has a lot of information on his site. Unfortunately reading all day wont help me. So I need to take action. Or I could just ignore everything else but getting my Bachelor's degree, working and working out and finding a decent appartement so that I don't need to visit my parents every weekend, since that is probably too much for them and for me.

Well that is enough for now.

Regards

Sergey

* Where you are from?
Las Vegas, NV. (Bountiful women/bountiful hoes *seriously*)
* How old are you?
21
* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)
I want to become the best me that I can be. I want to actually make progress and do the work. I want to be the BAMF that I know I should be. I want to improve my sex/dating life, commit to PE, and expand on connecting with people (I learned a part of good self-esteem is not being self-centred). I want to become fit physically, mentally, and emotionally. I want to tone my body cause I'm a twiggy motherfucker. I have a good head on my shoulders, I'm smart, but I need to gain mental toughness and become true to myself again and learn not to care about what people think/say about me. I want to manage how I feel because of how I react to life's chaotic nature.
* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
In the next 12 months I want to move up in my company (Counts Kustoms, if you're familiar) and start making better use of my money and take control of my life.
* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
I started after I broke up with this girl who my friends warned me about but I didn't listen because I was too egotistical and was in the honeymoon phase. Super blind. I got shit on and now I have no choice but to not look back and make my life better.
* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
I can easily talk to hot women, but I'm a goofy person by nature. I make people laugh, especially girls. But I get a lurch in my chest when an "opening" arises to spit game, but I freeze and draw a blank, unless my gut is really there with me. I'm working on not instantly falling into self-pity when something pops my ego or I make a mistake, grabbing my balls and going for what I want, and not second-guessing myself. I feel I'm beta, but I'm trying to work on becoming alpha, in the "I know what I'm worth, I know what I want, I am naturally confident, I'm not afraid to be myself" kind of way.
* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
I put it down. When I get in the zone my instinct kicks in and I read whoever I'm about to have sex with like a book. Honestly I aim to please, or at least make her cum before I do, applying foreplay as well. Even though I'm set on PE, 8/10 times, the girl and I are satisfied after we finish. This one girl said I was the best sex she ever had, and she wasn't inexperienced (my record with her was three hours straight). But my sex life has been limited the past few years. Definitely not a high "body count," if you will.
+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
I was looking into "desirable girth/average girth" kind of articles and forums. I found out about bathmate, and then I found Chris. Finding this place is cool cause it's more than just a site teaching you how to make your dick bigger.

Supp im Rey. I'm 24. From the UK, Birmingham.

What are you goals?

I wanna stop caring what others think and start making progress with game. I've read and read so much. But not taken much action.

How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?

I stumbled onto self improvement in the summer of 2015. While I have made progress from being a very shy guy I still couldn't progress much with game

What are you main blockages?

My major blockages are just approach anxiety and confidence.

What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
My experience level is low. My dating life has been non existent. I've messed around with 2 girls in the past year since making progress in self improvement. But that was very short term.

Before that I've only had one gf

Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?

I'm not too sure tbh. I discovered the website years ago. But I wanted to address my AA and thought of coming to this website