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Sup guys. I'm 24, living in Albuquerque, NM.
You could describe me as a pretty handsome, fairly successful, slightly hipster, somewhat confident, kinda goofy, and generally intelligent, filmmaker. But I'm not gonna delude myself - I'm average. I'm not a total newbie when it comes to girls, but I'm no fucking badass. I've slept with 12 girls since I turned 18, but I feel like I'm still not very good with women. Almost all of the girls I bedded were either a coworker, someone I went to school with, or someone in my social circle. I'm no longer in school, I won't date coworkers, and all the girls in my social circle are either taken or not attractive. In other words, I need to learn the lost art of the approach. I want to be comfortable and excited to meet beautiful girls everywhere I go. I hate the fact that I'm too afraid to approach a girl that I see (I have actually managed to cold approach in the day a couple of times - and I even ended up banging one of the girls!) but overall, I'm fucking terrified to approach girls (even though I want that pussy really badly). I don't know if I want a GF or just to get my dick wet as much as possible by as many hot pussies as I can, but I'd like to have the option to choose. As of now, I don't have either. I've been studying self-improvement and pickup/dating material for about 1.5 years now, but I feel overloaded with information and I have very little practical experience. That needs to change. I think my biggest obstacles right now are my slight social awkwardness/anxiety and my full blown approach anxiety. My self-image fluctuates, but I'm usually pretty happy with who I am. Last year I managed to sleep with more girls than I ever have in one year (5, I think), and part of that is due to GLL. I found this site through YouTube and it's one of the resources I value the most. I'm looking forward to starting this program. I'm not gonna be a pussy, I'm gonna get the pussy. |
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Soapy,
Welcome. My first impression is that you'll do well. You're honest with yourself in your assessment of where you're at. Where you'd like to be is a doable goal for sure. If you only have approach anxiety and not social anxiety (you seem like it's just AA), and your physique is good *enough* (you don't have to be great... yet) you're ready to start in on the AA drills. I cannot stress this enough: do the drills. Much like you, I suffered from information overload with the PUA stuff. It put me in a stage of what some have dubbed "analysis paralysis." I once heard a philosophy teacher refer to this type of personality as "the perpetual clarity seeker." Here's an analogy from Aerosmith's drummer when he talked about getting clean and sober. He tried for years to analyze himself and find out why he was a drinker. Sometimes, for a while, he'd sober up only to find himself back on the bottle a short time later. What got him sober and kept him sober was when he focused his attention on what he needed to do to stay sober. For alcoholics, sometimes this means staying sober for the day, hour, sometimes even the next minute. For the most part, self-analysis will help someone understand why they have a lack of success with women. This deeper understanding will not solve the problem. They'll still be a loser (or average in your case) with a deeper understanding of why they're a loser/average. The GLL mentality (as I have interpreted it - as it applies to me) is similar in that the focus is on what needs to be done right now to be better with women. The AA drills allow me to focus, with baby steps - gradual exposure, on what needs to be done today to better myself. The practical experience in the GLL program comes through gradual exposure. You won't get overwhelmed by memorizing a routine. There's simple steps to follow. You don't even have to think (Chris has done that for you). You just need to act and do the drill. Success isn't fucking the girl or even getting a positive response from her. Success is doing the drill. If you're willing to put yourself out there and follow the program, you'll be on your way. Best of luck to you. -Rune Temporarily unavailable as I need to focus on other areas of my life. Only focusing on no more than two goals at once. Best of luck to you guys.
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Thanks for the wise and encouraging words, Rune. I'm definitely committing myself to following through with the drills. Hell, I've only just set up my POF profile last night and already have a date! I don't doubt GLL's program will help out tremendously. |
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