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Hey there, I found this website a couple of days ago. Once I began reading, I consumed most of the material in like a day. It's only been 3 days but the impact this website has had on my life is kind of powerful.
So a little background now.
I grew up in a very unusual way. I spent 90% of my childhood locked in a bedroom. I locked myself in. I had a couple of childhood friends that quickly grew distant as I grew more isolated.
Until the age of 16, This was my entire day:
I'd walk to school, usually alone. After an incredibly painful/cringy day at school, I walked straight home. Never went to anyone's house after school. I played video games and watched t.v. all evening.
Recipe for a successful life right?
You see, NO ONE EVER TOLD ME HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.
Even though my family knew I was quiet and lonely, they never helped me. They allowed me to rot in my bedroom. My mental health declined so horribly, I'm still kind of sick in the head. I got into the practice of cutting myself(with fish hooks).
I didn't 'cut' myself for attention. I did it because it felt good in a very strange way. (You'll be happy to know I quit that habit years ago).
Age 16 rolls around, and my drunk mother kicks me out of the house. I then moved into my dad's apartment. He's similar to me, we both gave up on life and obsessed over video games.
Once I'm about 18 I got into drinking. Before I could blink, my youth was wasted. I woke up one day at age 23-24 and got some help for my drinking. (You'll be happy to know I've been sober for like 4 years).
So here I am today. Age 28. Looks holding out but I'm getting really close to 30. I'm afraid that once I hit 30, younger chicks will be impossible to date.
The info I've read off of GLL has really inspired me. It taught me something I was never told in 28 years....if you want people in your life, you have to talk to them. No one told me how conversations work. I had NO IDEA that you're supposed to ask questions about them. Show interest. Talk about average topics.
Normally when presented with a social interaction, I would just walk away or avoid it.
I put my knowledge into practice. Two days ago I began talking to everyone I saw(which wasn't a ton of people, as this is a pandemic). I just genuinely showed interested and before you know it, a nice girl/cashier THANKED ME for the conversation we just had. I've never felt that. I actually connected with someone that wasn't a blood relative. We talked about art and Bob Ross. It was great.
So a little more background about me.
-I began bodybuilding like 16 months ago.
-I have an issue with my speech that DESTROYS MY CONFIDENCE DAILY. (Think of a strange Elmer Fudd, but not nearly as pronounced).
-I do not own a car. Never have. Never had a licence either.
-I moved from the midwest to the West coast 2 years ago(USA). I live with my dad....I know, my life is insanely pathetic.
Does anyone here have any helpful advice for me? I know deep down that owning a car and a home is the best way to get with women, but surely it must be possible to get laid without these two crucial things.
The real question which should be asked is: Are there enough women out there that would be willing to take me to their house or car for sex? Is it a horrible idea to mention my lack of car on a dating profile?
Like....I don't believe in lying but I have no clue how to tell someone they can't come over to "my house".
Last summer I did some (disgusting) stuff with this girl I met online. I say disgusting because she was heavier than me and had odor issues. I made her orgasm and I regret much of the experience.
I couldn't get hard to save my life. Totally limp.
The sad thing is, I actually tried really hard to get an erection. Nope.
So there it is. Those are the 'highlights' of my miserable existence. I think about suicide on a daily basis. I really don't want to kill myself, I just want a fling...a girlfriend....a wife....anyone.
(Don't tell me to get help, no health insurance).
This website gave me hope. It inspired me to actually try to have sex with an attractive girl. I have a professional camera, so I plan on using dating apps once I get my broken tooth fixed.
Should I really try?
I've been told I'm handsome numerous times by different women. My build isn't awful either.
I know muscles don't necessarily equal sex life, but it's a plus that I have some.
You've had a rougher life than some, but you're not dead yet. Be grateful you're turning your life at 28 and not 48. You still have your whole life ahead of you.
The three direct questions you asked:
1) Are there enough women out there that would be willing to take me to their house or car for sex?
I was in a town with a population 28k in California last year in a house I was not allowed to bring a girl back written into my contract (landlady lived there). I still had 6 lays in 6 months. 1 was at a hotel, 1 on the beach, 4 at girl's place.
By out there, if you mean in the world then definitely yes. If you mean in your town, hard to say. If you live in dogwood (population of 13) then no. If you live close enough to a major city then definitely yes. In between, hard to say.
2) Is it a horrible idea to mention my lack of car on a dating profile?
Depends on your situation. If you live somewhere rural and that means girls need to drive to your place or pick you up, then you'll definitely need to mention it at some point. When is up to you (though I'd save that screening step for texting / phone call). [/quote]
If you live in a decently large town/city then I don't think it's that relevant.
Thank you Roger, your words eased my fears a bit. The town I live in has a population between 8k-10k. The town is situated next to the Capital of my State, only 20 mins away. That's why I'm somewhat hopeful there will be available ladies here.
Sadly there is no beach where I'm at. I would be blown away if a girl suggested sex outside.
You're a genius man, I didn't even think about the rules of landlords. My landlord also doesn't want unexpected guests. That's a good excuse.
I also really like your advice on mentioning the car situation during a phone call. I really didn't want my profile to scare away any possibilities.
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Kratom is next!
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