TOPIC: Ive had enough! I want abundance!

Im a 39 year old divorced dad from Belgium

I want to have sex with at least 5 intelligent attractive women in 2020
I will not make them do a test but based on conversation they should be >120 IQ (top 10%).
Dumb sluts do not count and J*** (quality girl I know) does not count.
One of these 5 should be from a cold approach.

* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
I want to start my own business next to a new regular job.

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
3 years

* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
Approach anxiety, low self-esteem, overthinking
Mood swings, days of feeling sad and lonely - but not all the time - do not think its depression I am just not happy with my situation.

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
Divorce raped by pretty narcisistic woman - but managed to get co-parenting (2 wonderful daughters) and keep the house - lost all my savings to lawyers though
Late bloomer with very few girlfriends, except one hot exotic beauty, but I lost the social status I had then (few friends left, everyone has settled with a family except the losers)
No sex for 5 years. (6,5 when counting the dry years with the ex)

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
Probably on reddit TRP years ago. Remembered the program and googled it again.

More info
Never ever in my life have I had the balls to approach an attractive woman, it always took ages of getting to know her at a place where we would both meet for other reasons.
A girl I was dating right now kept me waiting for sex for 20+ dates. I became desperate and lost my cool.
I made up my mind that I should have the options I deserve, I have always been a f***ing alpha - strong mind, lifting, not giving a fuck, rebelling - just never with women. I have very strong approach anxiety and I have always rationalized my fears instead of facing them.

Hey mate - start the AA Program if you can't currently talk to girls. (If you can already hit on girls - aim for 1 approach a day, and build it into a habit you never skip).

And for getting laid on Tinder/Hinge/etc, follow my guide.

Be careful with the woman hating/bitterness though. "dumb sluts" and "divorce raped" etc - this isn't the forum for that kind of talk. Being bitter and angry is understandable if you're recently divorced, and we'll cut you some slack on that - I empathise, man. Just don't let it get you down, and don't hold onto it - at some point you'll have to let the anger go if you want to be successful.

Not much point banging 5 women this year if you hate them while you're doing it.

-Andy

Welcome! Very interesting story. Looks like you're going to do great. You sound motivated.

damn that hit home - a very sincere thank you
I am updating my goals.

In 2020 I want to overcome my approach anxiety and have a fun dating experience with 5 new girls that does not end in drama, each minimum 3 dates.
I will let go of my bitterness and not have revenge sex on innocent girls, but instead have a sabbatical - no sex in 2020.
I will be honest and open about this to girls on the first date.
Overcoming approach anxiety will cure my neediness - knowing I can just go out and meet someone and get her interested in me - the sabbatical will help me focus on myself instead of validation from sex.
I will let go of my fear of being 'too beta' and be whoever the fuck I want to be.

Bgie, before I even read I knew I would connect with this post, you can have it man you just need to focus and be patient.

I know you're playing devils advocate, but though (it isn't the healthiest frame to be in) you know there are many guys who are happily content with learning game to get back at a society that messed with their life/head, hating women and f***** a number of girls too. They are here for a reason, so remember that before pitching your AA program dude.

He deserves to feel the way he does, as you noted, he's recently divorced.

Get in shape.

Get good clothes.

Get GOOD pics taken (pay pro photographer)

Get online dating

Do AA program

Start talking to attractive women outside and asking them for their numbers

Set up dates

Get laid

Repeat

Honestly, after thinking about it a bit, I like the idea of the sabbatical. Like the AA program but for dates. Should be a nice way to pick yourself up.

Still, there is a middle ground between revenge banging and the sabbatical: you can be honest with them that you're recently divorced, only looking for something casual now. Andy has some good articles on having girls on your side (vs. against them), like this one: killyourinnerloser.com/you-and-me/