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*What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)
LOSE MY VIRGINITY - GODDAMN finally getting rid of the accursed V-card / bang 5 girls
Definitely gonna work on my style take some good tinder pics (will post the ones I have currently for some advice
*If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be? (be specific)
LOSE MY VIRGINITY - and rub it in my friends face:P so they get off my back LMAO
can finally shut those bastards up
*How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
Since 2013-2015 at least. I got deep into refill stuff which I'm still recovering from- "Game" nearly destroyed my social skills entirely until I "unlearned" just very recently.
* What are your main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
USELESS/HARMFUL SHIT - Stuff like game which caused me to overanalyze everything to the point I'd be standing behind a girl "thinking of what to say" or what copy and paste line or opener to use
typical PUA "looks don't matter garbage" - all contributing to my slovenly lack of style I'd like to think
STILL A VIRGIN. any attempt to get laid feels like "catching up" or trying to prove something to my friends who aren't virgins (not by that much the most only has 5) - makes it no fun at all
Feel "guilty" trying to lose my virginity and get laid and get sex feel "guilty" trying to get sex or move things forwards - feel "embarrassed" trying to talk to girls (VERY OCCASSIONALY) - probably to do with being worried about what other people think about me talking to girls
Also, I feel like I don't know how to "move things forwards" - like If I had a girl on my bed, what am I supposed to do? Or if I'm talking to girl somewhere - how do I "move things forwards" ( already know this, obviously ask her out) - I'm good at talking to people in general and girls - but I just need some pointers
NEGATIVE BELIEFS - all these weird and retarded beliefs like having sex will make me "go to hell" or some crap like that (NOT RELIGIOUS-UPBRINGING BASED, just years of researching stupid conspiracy theories and redpill shit.) Negative view of myself based on race (Half-Asian on my father's side)
LACK OF STYLE - i've been thinking about this and trying to wrap my head around it. I've always dressed like a complete BUM and a legit Filipino gangrapist (probably attach pics for advice later) definitely need some feedback and to know if my atrocious style is what's keeping that precious V-card of mine
I'm really big into working out and lifting weights (kinda the lonesome bodybuilder archetype, although I'm not that big) - always thought having a sense of style was "gay" - now I'm willing to make a change with appropriate feedback as I realised by attitude towards style is probably one of my major blockages
*What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
NONE. VIRGIN. NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND. NEVER BEEN ON A DATE. Although there was one girl in HS that liked me I fucked it up by being needy. I don't really think I have approach anxiety not sure - never really gotten any numbers - always had trouble "moving things forward" need some help in that regard - just don't know where to start
*Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
Browsing for self-improvement advice - I made my account around 2015 - although I was too pussy to post up until now. I guess that goes against inactivity or whatever rules - sorry
What you should know:
Aspergers syndrome (not a big deal - I'm low on the spectrum and extremely sociable
Got bullied in grade 5 because I was bad at Call of Duty and liked Battlefield better than it (Now you know how much of a L O S E R I really am) Imagine that LMAO
I was relatively unpopular in HS (2013-2017) managed to stay afloat due to my friend Ryan who wasnt top-of-the league but was friends with the popular kids and I sort of hung on to it that way.
Popular kids didn't like me because I had anger problems - and because I was probably a bit offensive - rumor mill probably shat on me but I didn't know
There was a girl in my art class that like me though and we shared a love of anime (although I'm a occasional viewer, not an otaku) - it went well at first but I became needy and creeped her out - went around stalking her for the rest of Gr 10-11, embarrassing AF
I also had a SERIOUSLY BAD porn-addiction where I'd be jerking off 3 times a day to the point that the day when I activated my GLL account in 2015 I was sitting in Grade 10 English class LOOKING AT TUMBLR PORN - euuggh! It caused me all sorts of emotional problems and shit - no motivation to get me a girlfriend
It was bad - and my performance in school was shitting because of it. I eventually found NoFap and got rid of it for good (90 day reboot) but then I got into some weird spiritual shit on the nofap diversity which also fucked me up as well (and did 800 days of nofap which almost drove me insane)
Graduated highschool in 2017 - had a bout of panic attacks and health anxiety in September 2017 which made me question my purpose and path in life - "What am I doing with my life?"
Got over it.
I went over to a party (outback fireplace kind) with my friends at his dads house.
My friends older brother, who's name is Brian told me that he saw "potential" in me - that none of the other people - even his brother had in him, a kind of "fire" (I had a bad reputation in HS for being short-tempered and prone to get angry at people very easily) and his my friend went to his brother often, and told he didn't want to be around me - although he eventually warmed up to me over time.
Probably kind of messy but thats the general gist of it - thanks for reading
Well you blocked out your face, you goose. Hard to give you feedback without seeing the most important aspect of your looks.
From what I can see of your face, you look reasonably attractive - good grooming, seems like you're low-ish bodyfat. Yeah your fashion isn't up to scratch (you dress like your mother chose those clothes - like a "boy").
I'm not a fashion expert - my advice with fashion is to go to a bunch of stores (assuming any are open in your city), try on a bunch of different outfits and take photos of them, and post the photos here. (Don't buy anything yet). You'll get feedback from a bunch of guys, and you can figure out what works for you over time. This is all a process of gradual improvement/upgrading over time; you won't go from "poorly-dressed" to "fashion god" in 1 step.
As for your question, "How important is it?" I can't give you a quantity, but yes, fashion is important. Well, not looking like you were dressed by your mother is important. (No hate - I dressed like that too). You don't have to look like a god, buy you do have to look like you've actually put effort in, and right now, it looks like you've put NO effort in.
To make you feel better, here's me dressed EXACTLY like you:
I always felt like there was this blockage in my chest "holding me back" it feels like a numb black hole or some shit
I just watched a bit of porn for the first time in a while - HOLY SHIT I had a MASSIVE OUTBURST OF ANGER towards women - I just hated them for some reason
It talks about insecurity in the article, and ive defiantly had racial insecurities in my life.
As you can see from above - I'm Asian. You all know they negative stereotypes no need to rehash - I'm at least 5.8-6.2 inches maximum so well in the above average range, no need for personal size insecurity - but Ive always felt insecure "on behalf of" the rest of my race - being associated with that.. If this makes any sense.
Also feeling left out, "disincluded" in my youth - this negative, toxic hateful feeling.
I always told myself to not be "sensitivee" and not react or whatever but all that did was make me suppress and bottle up all these issues
Is stuff like this normal? Do you have to get rid of these negative psychological issues before you have success? Part of the process?
I feel like once you express it it's done with and gone don't have to experience it again
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