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Yo, longtime lurker here, decided to make an account so that I could actually engage with the community. Been reading Chris's material for a LONG time, was reading Chris's material when I was still a virgin and is quite likely one of the reasons I lost my virginity when I did. I'm 23 now and have probably slept with between 25-30 girls (it's easy to lose count) however recently I have been experiencing a dry spell, which may be self-imposed. Basically, I dropped out of university last year because of mental health issues and ever since then I've been on a slightly different trajectory in my life, I'm in art school now and want to be a concept designer for the entertainment industry, I spend most of the time in school and when I'm not in school I'm drawing or watching videos on how to become better at drawing. Anyways like I said, I've been experiencing a dry spell for about 7 months now (last time I had sex was in Feb) and have found that Tinder no longer yields the results it once did in the past although this may be because of several other problems. At the moment I live in my home town which is very small so logistically it's not great for me to cold-approach and not something worth doing in my town anyway which is why I rely on Tinder as my main source for meeting girls which I don't really have a problem with doing. Now I've come up with several reasons why I'm no longer getting the matches I once did-
1) I'm still using the same photos that I did when I was 21. Whilst I look no different (I look about 25 due to beard and slight receding hairline) I also have only 3 photos
2) Girls no longer use Tinder as they once did, in a sort of they've seen it all before sort of attitude due to Tinder being around for a long time now.
3) My standards have gone drastically higher, am no longer content with sleeping with average or slightly above-average girls and want to sleep with hotter girls than I did before.
4) I live in a small fucking town with few options.
Anyways just wanted to introduce myself and see if other people on the forum had experienced similar results.
- Tinder - ain't gonna be very successful if you live in a small town. Is moving an option? Otherwise, make your expectations more reasonable and accept you're not going to have a super elite sex life from Tinder in a small town. I used to live in a very quiet area with almost no girls, and getting laid was HARD. I moved to the centre of my city and results skyrocketed.
- Photos: Post them. We can't help you without knowing what you look like.
- Standards: It's good that your standards have increased. But it's in direct competition with what you say you want - more sex. You haven't fucked anyone in 7 months. Why do you have high standards? You're basically starting out as a newbie again.
Mental health issues are fine now I mainly attribute them to spending an extensive period of time alone in my room and/or drug use (which I no longer do btw).
I completely get where your coming from although I can no longer spend large amounts of time on girls nor can it be my number 1 goal for the time being with that said I think that I may need to reduce my standards to get the results that I want but don't really want to shag any fat girls tbh. Moving isn't really an option till my second year of Uni at which point I'll be moving to the nearest City and be living in a houseshare. I think I'll need fo spend more time actually using Tinder as well because atm I'm not putting as much effort as I used to into it. Don,t feel super comfortable with posting my pics but I'm just gonna do it anyways.
Glad to hear you're fine now. I was massively depressed when I worked from home and didn't have any friends - being alone sucks ass.
You're a good looking dude - your pics just suck. Poor quality, they don't show off much of your personality/looks/etc.
If getting laid isn't your main priority right now, fair enough. You likely won't want to invest the time/effort it takes to take awesome pics and get good results on Tinder. That's fine. Just lower your expectations - make your goal to get back on the horse and bang 1 new girl.
If Tinder isn't kicking ass for you right now, what about social circles - do you have any female friends or friends of friends you can hook up with? What about bars/pubs? Meeting women thought
(it's a social/sports/events/etc site)?
Things will be easier once you move to the city (if you're willing to then put in the work/effort at that point in time).
I guess I'll just have to start taking some new photos, don't have a real photography camera so will have to just takes photos on my smartphone for now. As for the lowering the expectations I think that ultimately you're right I think even Chris said something along the lines of lowering your expectations if you want to get laid more and that you're not gonna bang 8's or 9's all the time. I'll see what I can do to improve my tinder profile though.
Using social circles to pull girls is something I've not done before and am unsure how I'd go about it, I have a group of friends in college and there are some pretty girls who we're friends with but I wouldn't really want to mess anything up with them for trying to bang them haha. I'm not sure about sleeping with my girl friends of which I really have one good nowadays, that's a no go zone for me.
Am a student at the moment so my spending is slightly limited, I don't really have a group of mates who are super into going out anymore either.
It sounds like I'm limited for options at the moment which I am, I really see online as my best bet at this current point in time which is still not exactly great, but I guess I can update my Tinder photos and look at alternatives to Tinder like Match.com I guess. It looks bleak really for other options until I move to the city. If you have any other suggestions let me know
TBH: if you do not have a photography skills you will better photos with a good smartphone, than with a dslr. But dont do selfies, buy a cheap tripod. Or even better: find someone willing to do photos for you. Maybe some tfp photography group on fb. You can find beginner but talented photographers willing to build their portfolio. Or invest in a professional photosession: still cheaper than buying dslr camera, and better than smartphone selfies.
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12 lays on 2019 (4 being non-legit)
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