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Hi my name is Dave, Im around 30 living in unspecified european country.
Sorry for my english in case of any mistakes, it is not my native language.
I was wasting lot of time in my early twenties playing computer games, but have reduced it massively since - mostly just to keep contact with good friends from my childhood that live far away - and for few hours a week at most.
I've been reading manosphere stuff for about 3 years now, mostly heartiste, rationalmale, rfv etc.
Ive found about GLL when someone mentioned it on RFV about 2 years ago but was not ready do to AA program then due to lack of time and self confidence.
I had few relationships in my 20s but I was mostly beta, and unaware of reality of how things worked, and talking to random attractive girls always gave me big anxiety problems, mostly because of difficulty with making small talk with strangers.
Since then I have improved in many aspects of my life - getting well paying job, getting in shape, renting my own apartment, buying motorcycle, savings and so on.
Nowadays since I've improved my looks and clothing choice I get plenty of eye contact from attractive girls, but my inability to execute any approaches is frustrating at times although my anxiety is way lower than it was in my early twenties.
I've been attending dance classes to increase my exposure to ladies for some time now and I have no problem making some small talk and joking with girls when Im occupied with dancing so I guess my anxiety is not on any crippling level however doing cold approaches is a different matter. Also some girls where noticeably attracted to me ( like asking what I do on evening or getting shy blushing when dancing with me), but I've been chickening out on escalating things.
I think most of my anxiety is coming from troubles with conversation ability - since Ive spent lot of time in front of a computer as a kid and not doing social activities and had abusive parent, which creates sort of feedback loop with my anxiety blocking my talkativeness even further.
Having home office job also doesn't help with improving any of that.
In the anxiety program there is a requirement to make dating profile, however I don't think sites mentioned are popular where I live.
Should I use something different like Tinder? Ive used Badoo and some other local sites few years ago, but wasn't very happy with results (I was in worse shape back then, also thinking about what to write in messages is a paint in the ass for me). I have a feeling that I should focus on more rl experiences for now. Also I would need to get some good photos in case I did some online dating.
Sorry if Im rambling too much, glad to take this off my chest and provide you some info.
Thanks for reading and nice to meet you.
My goal for now is beating anxiety using AA program and improving my conversational ability so I can achieve social freedom.
Since girls already seem interested, you should grab this chance. A simple "wanna go for ice cream or another fun activity?". Trust me, trying to beat AA will be much easier if you already have girls interested in you. Even better if you have sex with them. You'll be less needy.
30 years old
33 lays more than your mom (1 pre GLL)
Thank you for the feedback, I will make a tinder account - have checked Killtheinnerloser blog, and I will need some better photos for sure, most of those dudes looked great. Should I look for pro photographer to do it?
I live in part of europe that is not considered a western one, I wouldn't like to go into specifics for privacy reasons.
As for girls I will try to get something done at the next class and stop making excuses.
Don't read Killtheinnerloser's blog, I hear that guy is a faggot.
@GetOnTop: How do you look, first? No point paying for a pro photographer if you don't look amazing; you'll just be wasting your money. Post a couple pictures of yourself and we'll give feedback. (And no, you saying "I'm attractive" isn't the same thing as posting a picture)
He seems pretty alright to me. I really like article about being honest upfront, explains why I was not feeling good on dates pretending something.
Here are some photos I took - nothing is edited aside of cropping . Side ones are with and without me clenching muscles.
As you can see only major issue is with my thinning hair on top which is a problem I had since my early twenties. I'd say I look decent with buzzcut but I was thinking about either doing micropigmentation or some mesh solutions. Transplants are a bit expensive and I am not sure if I would like to spent that kind of money at this point. I am pretty good with photo editing but I would need someone to take the photo or maybe buy that lame selfie stick.
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I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
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