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What's up guys...It's Tom here. I'm going to try and keep this brief here to avoid the whole TLDR thang.
Been following GLL for a number of years now off and on, I think I initially found it through researching PE. Great content & community from what i've seen from the shadows, now as a result of this post I feel like fully committing myself to this avenue of self improvement.
My whole life i suffered with gynecomastia, like serious gyno...not small bitch tits or a bit of tissue you get after a cycle...but full blown C cup tits which was all tissue and very little fat (i wasn't overweight/fat at the time either, making it look even worse). I laugh about it now, but looking back it really wrecked me as a child, teenager and a large part of my adulthood. Needless to say, this stunted my growth in so many areas, (virginity lost at 18, no beach, pool experiences, limited to no sports. physicality with girls for the longest time, rock bottom self confidence).
I'm not looking for pity here, just trying to give some backstory. Due to this, i would definitely say i became a depressed shut in with a reliance on porn to supplement my lack of physicality with women. I've always been interest in pickup to try and solve my confidence issues with women, but was never able to commit because of my issue.
I also became pretty fucking overweight too, reaching 320lbs at my heaviest (though at 6'5 it wasn't crazy noticeable) I felt pretty hopeless. Fast forward some time, I hit second year of university and had a gyno operation to remove the tissue...what a relief (so i thought) unfortunately, my surgeon was a butcher and my chest was ruined through too much tissue being taken on one side, and not enough on the other. This destroyed my confidence even more.
FAST FORWARD AGAIN 4 years and an additional 3 surgeries later, my chest has improved massively, helping my confidence like you wouldn't believe (though i'm still hyper sensitive due to some residual imbalances and mental conditioning to be anxious about my chest).
Since my final surgery, I felt the motivation to get into the gym and fell in love with it. I've also lost around 75 (50lbs in the last 5 months) lbs and i'm sitting at 246lbs with abs. I feel like its a great achievement personally, I never ever thought that I would be in shape...my body doesn't feel like my own still. I'm often complimented now by strangers on the street, women look at me literally all the time ( and a lot of dudes as well unfortunately but whatever). I've managed to sort my style since then, wearing fashionable jeans and t shirts that fit well complimenting my physique as opposed to being baggy and hiding myself.
I then found Chris' article on the lonely bodybuilder and it really encapsulated my life perfectly. I'm relatively antisocial outside of work, with a very very small group of friends. Sure I have options on tinder, and girls who do want to come over and fuck but i'm often not super motivated to bang them (linked to them not being totally my type, & too much porn/masturbation). I've slept with a total of around 13 chicks i think, all except one I fucked just once (the other is a recent fuck buddy who I fucked 5 times, she dumped me when I tried to wife the chick when I was fat, then when i got fit and back on tinder she matched me and we fucked a few more times recently). I'm seemingly waiting for some mythical badass chick to come out of the woodwork and do all of the work and "choose me" what the fuck! I should be the one doing the fuckin' choosing!!!
I'm just so tired of relying on tinder for girls & lays. I do not approach during the day/the gym at all, and if i do i'll open only through instagram when i've been given blatant indicators of interest like a follow back and likes on pictures. 0% of my game and lays are from in person cold approach & i need to fix this.
In any case.. I have no excuses now, I have no tits, have a decent physique, I'm tall, dark and essentially a fetish item for a lot of women so I really need to start making the most of this now somehow.
I need to approach women, I want to approach chicks I like that I want to fuck without waiting for tinder to grant me with some fucking unicorn. Tinder should be a supplement not a staple. I need the real world. Luckily i live in a town in england with a pretty good amount of hot chicks & a constant supply of hot tourists...there's no time like the present. I need approach experience, and sexual experience too. I do have a new friend in my town who's good looking, out going and good with chicks so i'm looking to go out to bars more with him so that's a positive action.
Any advice would be appreciated, my bad for the rambling post. Feels weird spilling all this weird shit out on the interwebs but fuck it.
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Weight - June 2017: 319lbs
Weight August 2019: 244lbs
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