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Hey there. New forum member but have followed Chris/GLL since around 2013. He helped a lot with his lose your virginity guide... at 25 lol. Almost 29 now and haven't had much success beyond that. Basically just lowered my standards a lot, used pof, dated 4 girls and had sex with three of them (however they were all pretty overweight). I guess it was better than nothing. I still don't have high standards and am not even trying out of my league.
Now my looks are getting worse than what they already were. No opportunities with women and no real social life either, which makes me pretty depressed at times. I'm losing my hair (definitely will look weird bald), dark bags and wrinkles under my eyes, large stretch marks on biceps from working out and on waist/thighs from being overweight 20 or so lbs, and other skin issues. I'd say I'm probably like a 3, maybe before some of these issues I could have passed for a 5. On top of all of that, I have a baby face (can't grow beard) and am only 5'7... I have been trying to still do online but can't even get anything really going.
I kind of just feel inferior to most other guys, because I basically am in most ways. Went on vacation a few weeks ago but had to end up going by myself because I have no one who'd want to go with me (friends/girls). Seeing that I'm almost 30, I don't really see how it's going to get much better. I've attached some pics for reference. All taken around the same time. I kind of just feel like there isn't much recourse for me because of the way that I look. Not so sure I can improve my situation enough to make a meaningful difference.
No time to type because I'm at work, so I'm just going to throw links at you:
It'll get better if you start *making* it better. I was a train wreck when I started, the same age as you:
Losing weight will improve your looks. Fixing that god-awful haircut will improve your looks. Same with your style (or complete lack thereof). You can improve everything - question is, do you want it bad enough, or have you already given up?
(Be honest with yourself when answering this question.)
Thanks for the reply. I will check out the linked threads for sure. Those pics are not what I use for online dating haha. The haircut Im not so sure I have much choice on? If I have my hair up and styled, my forehead looks waaay too big due to recession. I need it to cover up the forehead and not show.my hairline. Any suggestions on that?
As far as style, it is pretty basic. Dark wash or black jeans, regular cotton shirt. Will have to look into a stylist. Definitely working on losing weight now, teeth whitening, complexion correction facial, diet.
I don't know... It's all just making me believe that I should just end it and get it over with. I've never fit in or belonged anywhere, socially awkward and weird from how I've been treated socially my whole life, and ugly/unattractive... I have always felt I was missing out, an outsider always looking in on everyone else having fun and enjoying life. Psychologists didn't help, suicide phone/chat lines haven't helped, "friends" haven't been able to help. Not really sure what to do anymore, I'm just so jaded and tired of life and don't want to do it anymore. Honestly, my plan was to OD on opioids in the future, because it is supposedly somewhat painless and not as violent as a gunshot. I really can't express how much I don't want to die... but I'm not really living. Sorry for ranting but I just wanted to get that out.
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What If You're An Ugly Looking Loser?
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I've gotten decently lean before and was working out everyday, physical job, biking to and from work. Sure I looked a bit better but it wasn't really enough to make a drastic difference in my life, which is why I ended up reverting and going back to eating shitty food. But even if I did get back to that, my hair is still very shitty now and don't/won't look good with thinning/or no hair. I think I have a low quality picture from back then somewhere (hate being in pictures), but my facial structure has changed since then.
mavad91 wrote: I've gotten decently lean before and was working out everyday, physical job, biking to and from work. Sure I looked a bit better but it wasn't really enough to make a drastic difference in my life, which is why I ended up reverting and going back to eating shitty food. But even if I did get back to that, my hair is still very shitty now and don't/won't look good with thinning/or no hair.
Ok, so you've given up.
Nothing we can do for you! You're asking if there's some easy way to become attractive. Nope, there isn't.
If you aren't even willing to put in the effort to get in great shape, you're not gonna have much luck with anything.
First warning: either start taking action or don't post at all.
Count: 102 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
1. Net business profit $5000/month ($3054 / $5000 so far) 2. Quit kratom completely (DONE)
2. Raise testosterone to 800+ (361 / 800 so far)
You came on here to whinge about your problems. I showed you I was in the same position (suicidal for 8 years) and fixed it. Others have fixed their horrible situations. You ignored all that and said "I should kill myself", hoping we'd swoop in and give you attention and reassurance and validation. "No, don't kill yourself! Your life is valuable, you're special, bro!"
You're not special unless you decide to MAKE yourself special. This site and this forum is set up to help you do that. But you're ignoring all the advice we've given, so now you're just wasting our time. This site is full of advice on fixing everything (including depression), but you've clearly already given up.
This place is a place of action - we ban anyone who complains about their problems and then doesn't do anything to fix them. If you came here looking for sympathy or "understanding", this is NOT the place for you.
Don't post again until you've read it, or one of us will probably ban you for breaking the forum rules you agreed to when you signed up ("I will not ask for advice and then ignore it" and "I promise to take action - this forum isn't a place to just sit around chatting.").
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I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
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