TOPIC: 24-year old virgin

Hey man,

I'm also an Asian-Canadian that has a thing for white girls. I believe we can help each other out. I'll keep an eye out for your thread.

So I googled "mens winter fashion" and I found a good outfit that took me some time to put together.



I've also been gaining a steady 2 lbs per month while sticking with my lifting routine and working with my osteopath to fix my muscular dysfunctions.

I find if I lift too heavy (which actually isn't heavy for most people), I start to feel pain in my left arm and down my left leg.

Workout A:

Squat: 3x8
BB bench press: 3x8 (45 lbs)
Pendlay rows: 3x8 (75 lbs)
Cable rows: 3x8 (32.5 lbs)
Planks: 3 sets

Workout B:

Squat: 3x8
Assisted pull-ups: 3x8 (30 lbs assistance)
DB skullcrushers: 3x8 (17.5 lbs)
Lat-pulldown: 3x8 (65 lbs)
Tricep-pulldown: 3x8 (42.5 lbs)
DB front raises: 3x8 (17.5 lbs)

My osteopath is hoping he can fix my piriformis syndrome by getting me to squat with resistance bands around my knees and increasing that resistance slowly before progressing back to weights.

I've also been doing scapular retraction exercises to help keep that left scap retracted during the bench. I've been benching with just the barbell recently, and I find if I can really keep that scap back, then my left shoulders don't take over as much and I feel more left pec activation as a result.

I turned 24 over the weekend, so now I'm a 24-year old virgin. I went out to the bars and talked to EVERYONE. Not just hot girls, but guys and groups of guys and girls too. I had a lot of fun and the confidence carried over to the weekday where I went back to doing daygame. I think this is because in the club, you have to deal with loud music, the girl's friends, and other male competition, so going back to daygame is like a walk in the park because it's just you and the girl. No loud music. No cockblocking friends.

Going out over the weekend was a lot of fun, but it also made me sad because everyone had such bomb-ass social circles. I look at the girls that I desire, and all the guys they're with are white, tall, jacked, and well-dressed. Sometimes I feel so hopeless because my standards are so fucking high. It's like I only want to fuck the cream-of-the-crop white girls... most of them reject me right after my opener.

Parisian knot and tapered pants will do better here.

^ Thanks for the advice. I googled 'how to tie parisian knot' and it came up with this video:



I think I need a longer scarf...

This is what a $20 haircut looks like:

Regarding having very high standards - I was just as you. When I was not getting laid I wanted only these 9s and 10s.

But after I started having regular sex with a cute girl (6, maaaaaybe 7) for some reason it stopped being an issue.

When you realize how much fun is sex with a regular girl, these feelings will stop. Most of the time you will have sex in relative dark anyways and you will be so turned on the girl will seem two points higher on a scale.

Just be on a lookout for a girls who are not very attractive, but for whatever reason are attractive to you. If you keep your eyes open, you will find them.

Damn... it's been awhile.

I'm still putting in work, but I have to admit, I haven't been approaching much.

Just mostly focusing on work, physio, and looks.

I got a new job in January making phone calls for a real estate company. $17 an hour + commission, so I still don't make much. Trying to use this role to (hopefully) transition to a better sales job.

Also, I haven't been working out at all. My osteopath told me that I should stop working out since my problems (scapular winging and rotated pelvis) aren't being fixed.

Instead, I have to focus on strengthening this muscle called the serratus anterior in the hopes that it will fix my winging.

So now I'm doing all these boring rehab exercises.

In regards to my rotated pelvis, I might have to see a chiropractor or something.

Whenever I squat, my left glute gets very tight and this leads to pain running down my left leg.

So it's very hard to improve my looks when I can't even workout. I've been slowly upgrading my wardrobe, but it takes time and quality clothes are expensive.

I'm seeing a dermatologist on Tuesday as well. Gotta get my skincare routine down.

podlas wrote: Regarding having very high standards - I was just as you. When I was not getting laid I wanted only these 9s and 10s.

But after I started having regular sex with a cute girl (6, maaaaaybe 7) for some reason it stopped being an issue.

When you realize how much fun is sex with a regular girl, these feelings will stop. Most of the time you will have sex in relative dark anyways and you will be so turned on the girl will seem two points higher on a scale.

Just be on a lookout for a girls who are not very attractive, but for whatever reason are attractive to you. If you keep your eyes open, you will find them.

This is honestly one of the secrets to finding happiness with women in general.

I actually have an anecdote about how my attitude has changed: very recently I was seeing a girl that most guys would call an 8 or 9 out of 10. Tall, skinny, blonde, big boobs, cute face. I decided, for reasons I won't bother getting into, that I didn't want to see her anymore.

My girlfriend doesn't wear much makeup - before she started dating me, she literally didn't wear makeup at all. Not in the instagram "no makeup" way, I mean nothing on her face at all - and while she's thin she doesn't work out as much as this other girl. She's what most guys would call "cute" (although, in my opinion, she could start lifting and become "hot" if she wanted to). She has a very girl-next-door appearance, to the point where guys LOVE to tell me how she looks like a "good girl". When they say it, it makes me roll my eyes out of my skull because it's pure, unadulterated Madonna-whore complex , but it's true that she looks like that on the outside.

So because I have this other stereotypically hot girl added on Facebook, she's seen pics of my girlfriend. When I told this girl I didn't want to see her anymore, she FREAKED OUT and started saying all this childish mean shit. She started taking shots at my girlfriend, saying "whatever, your girlfriend is plain AF anyway. Thanks for putting me in the same camp as that person".

I laughed my ass off, because, for all the power this girl thought she had over me, I don't give a flying fuck if she's a 7, or a 10. The reality is I picked my girlfriend over her because my girlfriend is cool. She's a smart, highly empathetic, self-aware, compassionate person. When you've slept with around 100 girls, hotness starts to lose its value. At the end of the day, if you're only trying to fuck the hottest of the hot girls, you're just chasing a high. It will get old after TWO seconds and then you'll be just as unhappy as you were when you were banging 6's and 7's.

The real reason guys care so much about wifing up a supermodel is because they're desperate to impress OTHER people. It won't change the quality of the sex or the relationship much, they're just fiending for validation from their peers.

That said, this is a lesson that cannot be taught. It has to be internalized through years of experience.

Damn that is real-talk Bear.

At the end of the day, I just want a cool girl. Not a 9 or whatever. I think many of us think this way, but are scared to admit it.