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I wouldn't go ahead and try to tell anyone what their goal should be.
The thing with aging though is that when anyone is 40, they'll be 40. At that point it doesn't matter what they did during the first 40 years of their life or what they plan to do after since all we ever have is the current moment really. You could be dead tomorrow so why not just be happy that you aren't right now? It's very simple: what used to be, used to be, and what's now is now.
You seem to be under the illusion that possessions and achievements equal happiness, when it's in fact the opposite. Outward markers of success are merely reflections of a well balanced mind. One cannot achieve something that will make them happy; but it's difficult to achieve anything without being happy first.
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1) Figure out what is most important to you. Jot down a list of your top 5. Make a pros/cons list if you have to. But figure out your #1. Then your #2, #3, and so on
2) Throw as much time and energy as you have available towards your #1
3) When accomplished, move on down the list
That's the philosophy of GLL at its core (lMHO)
No one here can or should tell you what you should aspire towards. That's something you need to decide for yourself (that said, considering your situation, having a job and being financially independent [ie you can pay your own rent, utilities, food, etc] will probably go a long way towards helping you reach your other goals)
What those of us on this forum CAN do for you is- once you've figured out what you want- give you advice, feedback, and constructive criticism to help you achieve that goal faster.
l truly understand your feeling of having wasted time. Regret is terrible. But like Terminator said... when you turn 40, you'll be 40. That's all. Feeling like you wasted time sucks, but brooding over it will do nothing except make you feel worse.
The best thing to do is develop a plan and start working towards it
Honestly, it's the only thing you (or anyone else) really can do
Every goddamn day. Get in there.
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I disagree with Dalton. A 30 year old man is stronger than a 22 year old boy. I have worked with (in a physically demanding job) guys in their early 20s, and they can not keep up with a 28 - 30 year old. No way. The SIT when they are tired, whilst the man keeps on going because it has to be done.
The only reason why you see athletes retire at 30 is because of wear and tear from doing it for so long, some athletes that do not endure injuries throughout their careers soldier on and do well.
The word you are looking for is potential. A 22 year old is seen in a better light than a 30 year old, because that 22 year old is YET to get to 30, so he has future-potential to hit a peak, where as the 30 year old is already done and is at his peak (only way from here is downhill).
OP look for a career. Money is important in this world and will help you with the women/confidence. Do not worry about your age. There is something called a "biological age". The number of days you have been here is just a number. If you feel healthy and fit, then you are.
100% focus on money and getting yourself a career/business going. You don't have to go back to school, you have the internet, unless you want to become a doc or a lawyer or something that 100% requires paper to back it up. While you're doing this work on your health. These two things should be your foundation when going into your 30s imo.
This guy is a 30 year old virgin. Should he go all out and try to become a full-on player? Maybe, maybe not.
But he should definitely try and lose his virginity. He can still get a job and work on losing his virginity at the same time. Work on your looks- get a nice haircut, shave your beard, get in the gym, and get some nice trendy clothing. Use the "Lose Your Virginity" guide that Chris has posted on GLL.
I'm sorry but you guys are giving this guy bad advice. Obviously its up to him to decide what the fuck he wants to do, but a 30 year old virgin should at least try and lose his virginity before moving onto his "career stage".
A broke 30 year old should think about making money/developing some skills that will help him in life in the long run rather than "thirsting" over some pussy before he commits to gaining some financial freedom. He has already admitted to not working until he can get laid, which has worked out terrible for him. I'd suggest doing the complete opposite, or doing both at the same time with more of an emphasis on the money making part. OP you have to think long-term. Your age and wealth is important no matter what anybody says. Luckily for you, you're still young, and have some time to correct things.
I get where you're coming from, but this isn't thirsting over pussy.
This is losing his virginity that will relieve him of the anxiety and humiliation that comes with being a 30 year old virgin. It can also be done in a relatively short period of time if he puts in the work (getting in good shape/ using online dating).
Eric, I agree, actually. But the thing is, this guy has already wasted so many years trying to achieve just that. So if he STILL makes it his number one goal (as well all know, it is not easy to find sex without committing TIME), he may even fall further behind.
I think his number one goal should be to find a job and make money, and approach in between in hopes he cracks one. Once he finds a job and makes money, he can switch and devote all the time he needs if by that time he still hasn't found one.
This is a tricky topic. To succeed at work, one must not self hate, otherwise it fucks with your ability to be successful.
I remember when I realized rsd were idiots. As soon as I did, I started owning every area of life.
My suggestion for zyzz is as follows :
-get a monogamous gf and ensure regular sex to keep your balls drained so you can focus
-then follow Dalton's advice and make $$
-once you have $50k in the bank, quit your job, move to east Europe for 1 year and fuck as much as you can
-once that shit is done (in your mind), come back and focus on $$
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