TOPIC: New Here, Trying the AA Program

Hi everyone,

I'm Chris, a good looking (so I've been told) loser who wants to beat AA to change my life. I am 24yo, 5'8", probably 12% bf and somewhat on the skinny side, although not super skinny. I have been complemented many times on my looks so I don't think they're holding me back other than height. I have had sex with 6 women in my life, but felt all of them were below me in the looks department.

I've lived in a small town of about 40,000 people for the last 2 and a half years of my life, which I feel limits my dating prospects although that's probably just an excuse. There are 3 bars where I live (which I never go to) and extremely limited online dating opportunities. I am an introvert and have mostly solo hobbies like biking (my primary form of transportation), reading, going to the gym and woodworking. I also play disc golf although that's a huge sausage fest. I make 90k/year but live on less than 20k because I want to retire very young. I am willing to shell out a few thousand bucks a year if I really feel it will help my social/dating life.

What really drew me here was just getting out of a committed relationship that lasted 5 months and I got literally no sex out of. I tried to be assertive and stick to my guns but the girl could sense my lack of options due to AA and took advantage of me emotionally, though not financially since I'm not an idiot. I broke up with her then tried to get her back a few weeks later and she said she just wanted to be friends which I said no to. I'm done with that for good, never talking to her again but I still think my long term goal is a long term relationship. I'd like to beat AA in order to better my relationship prospects, as well as give me an abundance mentality in my next relationship so that they know they can't walk all over me. I look forward to sharing my results, although I worry my somewhat remote location may limit my ability to perform these drills.

lmao

you don't have to "shell out a few thousand" to get the ball rolling

bathmate = bigger dick = 100-200 bucks

kratom = 20-50 bucks = see what it can do for you and go from there

steroids/SARMs = not that much money if you're making 90k = not skinny anymore after some workkk

cool to hear about your last experience. in the future you'll laugh at yourself for being in a 5 month relationship with no sex. will be a good experience for you to look back on and contrast the future with. no way will that shit happen again


read as much GLL stuff as you can. seriously (read everything)

check into DangerandPlay.com when possible. Mike's community and information will complement your journey on here nicely.

Welcome to the community Ch-sanFORD
be sure to create an AA log on here since you're doing the program. happy new year dude

Welcome mate,

Good thing you ended that stupid relationship. Shouldn't even have asked her to come back. Not a good idea to get attached to any particular girl, specially if she refuses sex for 5 months lol.

I have this thought, not exactly sure if it's accurate, but the fact that you are looking for a LTR **might** be because of your introverted personality/AA, and your consequential lack of skills.

I used to always thing, "I'm a serious guy, I want a decent relationship, I'm not like those party kids who hook up with hoes, that's not for me"

Started reading GLL and my mind changed rather quickly. Turned out it was just self-denial.

So my 2 cents, forget about relationships and getting emotionally attached to any girl for now, jump on the AA program and keep us updated.

Thanks for the support guys. I hope I can reach the day where I can look back and laugh at the stupid relationship. Right now it is still just depressing to me. Kratom is definitely something I want to look into, hopefully very soon. I have started my AA log ( See here ).

As far as my desire for an LTR, I do not think my AA is the only reason for it, although I could be wrong since I've never really known what it feels like to have a steady supply of attractive women. I think my desire to be loved and respected by a woman is stronger than my desire for physical intimacy, which is largely why I stayed in my previous relationship for so long. Another thing I didn't mention, I currently have a female roommate that has been an occasional FWB before and after my "LTR", although I don't find her very attractive. Maybe I just need to have sex with hotter girls, but I just don't think sex alone could fill the void in my life that I currently feel.