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Hi, I'm 28 years old had two relationships in my past (one 6 months, the other 2 years). And this is like 5 years ago. I'm studying right now and as a part time job I'm a kind of construction worker (craftsman job in the field, digging up streets and so on, physically demanding job), the job is super time consuming, I don't really have very diverse day to see women. I have a car and live alone in a 40.000 people city, but there are two cities near me with ca. 400.000 people witch is about 20 minutes away from me. I plan to move to one of the cities very soon (looking for a flat right now). I'm 1.70 cm tall, have balding hair, which is not that bad I think and I always cut my hair to a few centimetres (many girls in the past told me that I'm attractive, even random girls in a club so I don't think I need to worry about it. even recently one girl that I told you look attractive said "you too"). I also have a good natural muscle tone and low body fat, so I never really needed to do much weight lifting. Especially my breast, arm and shoulder muscles don't need to be trained at all. I have ok looking abs, could be better but it's good even without training them for years.
I tried daygame last year with bad results. I approached like 50 girls got 6 numbers, all flaked except one girl but we are good friends for about a year now (I tried to kiss her) Then I made a pause for half a year and now I started again a few months ago.
Now the results are much much better. I approached again like 40-60 girls on the street, I got 8 numbers, all of them wrote back. With 4 of them I had dates. 1 of them second date. And I made out with that girl (had to go back to italy and doesn't want sex before marriage). It could be luck but I have a very low flake rate right now. I think one of the girls wanted me to be their orbiter, because she always wrote things like "how was your weekend?" when the last thing I wrote was about trying to arrange a date.
I have really kind of archived social freedom. I also witnessed what social momentum is, last week I was at a super mall that opened recently and it was full of people and I felt great really comfortable I talked to 5 people, just for the sake of talking and it got me really pumped up my social momentum was probably at maximum there. I can talk to girls on the street for about an hour, no problem doing that. Many girl who aren't interested tell me that they really liked the conversation and that I should continue doing this and that it was nice and so on. The worst thing I got was that the girl told me "what do you want from me?" and left. I also developed a kind of skill to see which girls like me, sometimes if I have a bad feeling I'm ending the conversation myself. But that's usually not necessary because I also open directly and the girls usually just say nothing about it (then it continues) or they tell me that they have a boyfriend or not interested. What's funny is that I became really good at age guessing. I guessed the age of the last 5 girls I approached right. During the day I get some looks from really good looking girls, but when I notice it it's almost always too late, or they are with their friends or so, that's terrible, I missed some really clear and obvious situations, and I really kind of hate me for that. I could tell you unbelievable stories.
I always start directly with something like "hi how are you? I tough you looked cool/nice and I just wanted to say hi" and we always shake hands, if something interesting comes into my eyes then I talk about that (like "I found it cute how you walked past this street" or something), it varies. When I use indirectly some girls are confused and when I notice it I go back to directly, then the situation relaxes in almost all cases. I also try to get the opener past as fast as I can and switch to topics like "what are doing right now?" Because I think being directly is enough and the girl will tell my anyway if she likes me or not.
I said kind of social freedom because there are situations in which it is hard for me to approach. Situations where other people can clearly hear what I'm doing are super hard for me. That's why my approach number on a day is usually very low. I can go out in the city for about 5 hours and approach only 4 girls, that's also terrible for trying out new things because it takes forever.
Here are some of my problems:
I think that I sometimes seem like a boyfriend guy because I have no sexual frame and don't know how to create a sexual vibe. With two girls I texted a bit about sex and so on, it was ok and not awkward but really got me nowhere.
The next thing I want to try is to get used to touching a bit. It really scares me to touch a girl out of the blue.
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