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I'm Andy, 28, from Australia.
6ft2, white, Australian/Irish heritage (born in Australia though), red hair, kinda skinny-fat (working on losing weight/building muscle), good fashion/style, great sense of humour and pretty friendly/social. I think I'm about a 6 in looks based on what people have told me. Definitely something I'm working on (need muscle and to lose a bit more weight).
About 6 months ago I happened upon the "manosphere", started reading Roosh and other PUA's, The Rational Male, "The Red Pill" on reddit, etc. Kinda turned my entire life upside down (in a good way) - it gave me answers to questions I'd had all my life.
Digested all that I could over the next few months and eventually realised reading was all well and good but it was time to start APPLYING and DOING. So I set up a home gym and started lifting weights, MASSIVELY improved my style, lost about 25kg (I think that's about 40 pounds), started being more social and playing sports, etc. Moved into my own apartment, got a better job where I earn more money, etc. Bought a bathmate + PF Extender. I went from a loser who only left the house like once every second or third day (serious) to barely being at home anymore. Good Looking Loser has been a HUGE inspiration in so many ways, dunno where I'd be without this site.
I've had decent success with getting girls, mostly from Tinder/OKCupid. I've been improving my text game/real life game, (mostly through making a billion mistakes lol) and am now pretty comfortable going on dates, getting girls home, banging them, etc. I don't have any nervousness anymore and I can escalate decently well. 6 months ago I NEVER EVER EVER touched girls, not even my female friends. Now I touch strangers (in a friendly way like on the arm/shoulder) and it seems like the most normal thing in the world. I actually feel weird when I don't touch someone I'm talking to.
I have a couple of fuck buddies at the moment which is a very novel and new thing for me (previously was always a serial monogamist). One is an 8 and VERY into me, cute little 18yo who comes over my apartment whenever I want and we bang for hours. The other is about a 5 or a 6, cute but not amazing. Sex is wild though.
So that's all the good stuff. But I'm at the stage now where I can't stand online game anymore. There's so many fat chicks/average chicks who act like they're a princess. On Tinder you're competing with thousands of other dudes, so they all have insanely over-inflated egos. OkCupid is probably even worse lol. And I feel like I'm in the "passive", submissive position - I have to wait for girls to reply to my messages, I have to wait for them to show interest. I don't feel proactive. I hate that feeling. Men are the DOERS, we're the PROACTIVE ones. Online is a weird world.
I've thought about "social game" - I have a few chicks who are DEFINITELY into me in my social circles. But I don't really wanna bang them. They're hot, but I prefer chatting/hanging with the males in my social group when I go out. It's "bro time" if that makes sense, and I don't have time for the girls (other than friendly teasing/banter and enjoying the attention of them trying to hit on me).
So I wanna try cold approaching. But I've never done it - not once in my entire life, ever. I can talk to strangers very easily, make jokes, banter, etc. I can even talk to cute chicks, as long as I'm not hitting on them. But as soon as I think about saying "Hey this is random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", my brain comes up with a billion stupid reasons why I can't. I keep telling myself to "pull the trigger" as Chris wrote in his Peyton Manning article. But I keep pussying out and saying "I'll do it on the next chick instead, not this one".
So my specific goals:
- Do ONE cold approach. Seriously, that's my goal. It's such a sticking point for me since I've never done it EVER in my life. Once I've done one, my next goal will be to get to 100 cold approaches.
- Beat AA. I have terrible AA since I've never ever ever done it in my life. Ever.
- Gain 2 inches in length and 1 inch in girth using bathmate and PF Extender
- Become CONSISTENT at lifting. I'm a tall, kinda skinny-fat guy who started VERY weak. I couldn't even do 1 pushup, couldn't do any chinups, started squatting just the barbell (20kg/about 40 pounds), could only bench the bar (20kg). I'm improving each week, I want to make working out a lifetime habit because I fucking love it.
- Save $20,000. I used to have about that much saved in the bank at all times as a backup, but spent most of it on self-improvement/my apartment over the last 6 months.
If I could accomplish just ONE thing in next 12 months:
- 100 cold approaches
Where'd I find GLL?
Probably something like this:
Roosh/The Rational Male -> The Red Pill (reddit) -> Bold and Determined/Danger and Play -> Both of them talk about GLL a lot.
So yeah. Nice to meet you all! I'm probably gonna do the AA program first. I think it's pretty fucking obvious that's where most of my problems are.
HOLY SHIT GUYS, i just did it. I did my first ever cold approach.
Saw a hot girl at my park, sitting down and reading. Super fit, cute face, maybe an 8. For about 3 minutes I debated whether I should do it. So nervous. Then I took a deep breath and just said "You have to do this. You have no choice."
Walked over, made eye contact and smiled and said "Hey i know this is random but I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hey". Holy shit i was nervous and shaking and my face was tense and the words felt forced and fake. She was super polite though, but told me she was leaving. Talked for about 30 seconds then she got up to leave.
I ask for her number.
"i have a boyfriend"
me: "i have a goldfish"
she stares at me a little confused
Me: "oh... Aren't we talking about shit that doesnt matter?"
she laughs and then politely leaves
So i got rejected, maybe because of my obvious nervousness, maybe she really has a bf. But she was still really sweet. I didnt die. Im still alive. The world didn't end.
Oh my god im still shaking. Cant believe i did that. Ive seen chris/others do it hundreds of times but it always felt like they were some sort of gods, living in some mystical world where you can cold approach during the day. I never thought I'd be that guy.
Holy shit... I could be one of those guys. I could hit on chicks.
Haha, tried to do a cold approach today. Was feeling really great after yesterday. But I pussied out like 5 times. One was this cute chick in glasses who was completely alone, she looked at me and smiled and then shyly looked down. I walked towards her and the words were right on the tip of my tongue...... and then I completely fucking pussied out. I don't even have a good reason why. I felt so angry and disappointed in myself.
So I'm gonna do the AA program. I gotta kill this AA. I'll make a vlog intro in the next day or two and get stuck into it.
Thanks Chris. I don't even know where to begin to thank you for all the content you've put out that's helped me in so many ways. You're insightful, self-aware, highly-intelligent and you understand the psychology of AA/everything else so fucking perfectly. Ain't no site that even comes close to GLL.
Just started getting my best mate to read your stuff too, he's probably going to do the AA program as well.
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