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I get what Ash is saying, although I agree the sources (especially ROK) are terrible sources of information.
However, the statistics (whether they are from a 'homophobic' source or not) do show that HIV is significantly higher amongst the gay msm population, compared to the straight population. This isn't homophobic, it's science. Heterosexuals can still get HIV from sex, but it is not nearly as common.
Anal sex and an increased amount of sexual partners (within a particular gay subculture), are a couple of the reasons why this is might be the case. DownThereOnAVisit also provided another potential reason. It's also plausible that gay men are less likely to wear a condom because there isn't a risk of pregnancy, although I'm just speculating.
The 'lifestyle' Ash was referring to, I believe only exists for a certain subculture of gay men. Regardless, if you have unprotected anal sex with a man, you are more likely to contract HIV than if you did the same with a woman. Gay men engaging in anal sex do therefore, need to be more careful.
However, saying that you shouldn't have sex with a transexual or man because there is an increased risk is stupid. Everyone on this forum is at an increased risk by fucking loads of girls. You just need to be aware of the increased risks and take precautions.
Everyone, gay or straight, needs to just wear a condom for anal or vaginal sex, and be sure to use plenty of lube if they're going to engage in anal sex if they want to get rid of the risk of any nasty STI's.
I'll also add that I do believe Transgenderism is legit. I've never been a feminist, and therefore don't believe that gender is a social construct. Transgenderism blows the idea of gender as a social construct out of the water by supporting the idea that gender is actually something we're born with, sometimes separate from our actual sex (i.e. A woman born in a man's body).
Bruce Jenner was conditioned his whole life to be a man, yet presumably was always a woman and never got conditioned out of it. Transgenderism 1, Feminism 0.
Also, stating that transgender individuals are 'gay men with identity issues' or whatever without any scientific backing is just silly tbh, even if it turned out to be true.
Don't worry OP. I guarantee 90% of this forum would bang a transexual (assuming they were believable) if the opportunity presented itself, even Ash.
I did it with a condom and im still worry i might have gotten something. I know the risk is low and i probably have nothing to worry about. Since oral and anal were used with condoms. And to everyone saying theres nothing wrong fucking a transexual. Well, to me its wrong and dosent goes to my true value and who im really am as a person
It's true that as a rule, gay men do have more sex partners that straight people, though of course there's huge variability there. But it's also relevant to point out that gay black men on average have fewer partners than gay white men do, yet gay black men have higher rates of HIV infection than gay white men for the reasons I gave above. And straight black women are at very high risk as well. So it's not just what you do, but who you do it with, and often in ways you may not be aware of. Just play safe.
Gay men are *more* likely to use condoms than straight men, much more likely. Being part of a community that was decimated by a deadly epidemic has taught us all the importance of safe sex, a lesson that the larger straight population never got because it was always "somebody else's problem". Unfortunately condom use among gay men is dropping and rates of HIV and STD's are climbing. Probably mostly because young gay men do not have the direct experience of watching their friends die around them, so AIDS seems unreal to them. And there's some talk of a sort of "safe sex exhaustion" among older gay men who have had to be so cautious for decades, though I don't think there are good studies to back that up.
When there's a conflict between your values and your desires, it's a good idea to examine both. So far you've only looked at your desires, and not very closely. You attribute it to excessive porn, which somehow led you to trans porn. I don't really buy that. You might discover interests you didn't know you had by seeing porn, but it is not going to change your sexual orientation no matter how much you watch. I've been watching tons of porn for ages but I have never developed a sexual interest in transgender people, because that's just not part of who I am. If you try to dig into *why* you're attracted to transgender women, or anything else, you won't get anywhere though. Millions of people have tried, and all sorts of researchers have studied it, but still no one really knows why anyone is attracted to anyone. It's only clear that some kinds of attraction are very deeply woven into our personalities and cannot be changed. They can be suppressed, or diverted, but they will still be there.
Whether your interest in trans women is a passing fancy or something deeper, if your values are based in religion (like most sex-negative values are), you will get no answers there either. Instead it might be time to critically examine your values in light of your personal experience. And bear in mind, whatever your religion is, there is probably a more liberal version of it that is more accepting of variations in sexuality, and might be a better home for you. That's certainly true of Christianity (including Catholicism and most protestant sects), Judaism and even Islam.
I was in a very dark, depressed state when i did it, and i deeply regret it. Right now im struggling with adhd and theres plenty of study that show theres a link between adhd and sex addiction. I would never have got an interest in tranny porn if i hadnt watch porn. The same reason an herion addict inject herion knowing what their doing is bad but still do it. Btw theres study that show that porn is addicted and fuck with your dopamine level. You get to a point where a real women dosent turn you on because your brain is so hard wire from years of porn that you only get aroused by digital porn. Dont believe me? Look at japan, 1/4 of male have no desire for real sex. Japan is a country thats heavily use porn to a point where young male dont even get turn on by the real thing
I stand by everything I've said, I don't care whether or not anyone agrees with me. I'm not apologizing. There's a ton of shit going on with the LGBT lifestyle and community and sexuality itself that the mainstream refuses to question. Case in point you can't say anything critical of gays no matter how true without being "anti gay/hateful". And no, I wouldn't fuck a tranny, period. I refuse to indulge in that behavior.
Jason Todd, best of luck to you man, if you need anything just PM me. I'm out this thread.
The ROK post Ash linked had the following advice on how not to get HIV: Don't be gay. Besides gay men, one of the fastest growing groups of HIV positive people is black women. Had the author of that article suggested that no one should be a black woman, I think the outcry against the article would've have been even worse. The other article was an expose of gay life that was a sensational piece of garbage. Sorry, Ash, but much like Fox News, these opinions are not facts. And much like the saying goes, opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one and they all stink.
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Jason Todd wrote: I was in a very dark, depressed state when i did it, and i deeply regret it. Right now im struggling with adhd and theres plenty of study that show theres a link between adhd and sex addiction. I would never have got an interest in tranny porn if i hadnt watch porn. The same reason an herion addict inject herion knowing what their doing is bad but still do it. Btw theres study that show that porn is addicted and fuck with your dopamine level. You get to a point where a real women dosent turn you on because your brain is so hard wire from years of porn that you only get aroused by digital porn. Dont believe me? Look at japan, 1/4 of male have no desire for real sex. Japan is a country thats heavily use porn to a point where young male dont even get turn on by the real thing
My advice, first off stop being so hard yourself, your obviously a good guy. We all make mistakes, when I traveled in Asia I thought I might bang a ladyboy from pictures, but in person it didn't turn me on. Second, we are all heavily influenced by porn. I had an addiction to bud mixed with porn and when I quit both, I couldn't even get hard. It was the scariest thing that ever happened to me. Since then I have taught myself to not only be turned on by visual stimulation, but by my other four senses as well. That's what you are doing by watching porn. Now, I can make sweet love to a girl and control my nut and stay rock hard. Nothing annoys me more than when guys rate a girl 1-10 just by looking at a picture. I think most of those types masturbate to porn, because visual stimulation turns them on only.
We have four other senses. Maybe that supermodel has roast beef curtains or a stank twat. Your still young man, don't be so hard on yourself. My advice is stay away from hookers though, if your going to bang a tranny find her in online dating or in a public setting because anal sex isn't the safest thing in the world. You should never be ashamed by what turns you on sexually we are all different. I hope that helps! Best of luck!
yeah man, i have a lot of psychology problems. been off porn for for almost a month and i feel pretty good. finding other things to occupy me for now and doing some interesting things. I'm also getting random erection throughout the day. for example, i was doing small talk to this girl, and i got an semi erection. i find that girls are more attractive. i wonder what going happend in 60 days from now
That's a good thing as long as your not creeping anyone out. Sounds like you've got it together. It's always good to keep your mind occupied with new hobbies. It might be a good idea for you to find some gf material to help balance things out. The yin and yang so to speak.
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