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First and foremost I want to thank Chris and company who have worked hard to put all this information and community together for people like myself...truly awesome ! On that note, I feel as I've learned so much and matured so much in the past couple of weeks just by reading through the many informative articles here on this website. That being said NOW ITS TIME TO TAKE ACTION so to start here are a few things about me (feel free to judge and give opinions I like real people):
THE OLD ME:
- Avid video gamer...it's all I did throughout highschool and university
- Never really made plans and just vegetated infront of the computer
- No drive, ambition, overall pretty depressed guy even though I tried not to show it
- Big problems with porn,masturbation, orgasm...super weak boners and can only get some "life" down there for a short time with porn...no good at all.
- Have been fluctuating from 140-145lbs while being 6 feet tall
THE NEW ME:
- Haven't played any video games for 3 months now already (real happy about this)
- Using a calendar + post-it notes + TO-DO list + Android "Evernote" application DAILY to organize myself ...it is amazing for planning highly recommended
- NO PORN... FOREVER > > > I fapped last night to Porn and said enough is enough 09/09/2014 IS MY TIME FOR CHANGE
- Today I have written a 7 MEALS PER DAY - MEAL PLAN...PARENTAL HOMEMADE MEALS ONCE PER DAY...TIME TO BULK (currently 66.9kg = 147.489lbs)
- Will be going to the gym to gain a whole lot of muscle mass, size and strength...Still wondering if I should go 5 days or 3 days per week...will see I suppose will plan in the up coming days
- Ordered Bathmate Hydromax X30 , , , still live with my parents AND sister . . . will see what happens LOL "yolo"
-First Kiss within the year 2014...I'm confident I can get at LEAST one girl to spark with me over something and a little bit of kino. (I've always stayed away from social settings because of video games...I don't find people scary and don't really have much AA...I can handle 90%+ of situations with people
-Not sure about this one seeing as I hear GF's taka e lot of time but I am looking to find a nice chick at the gym and we'll see what we can do BASICALLY I don't really have an ambition to be a player but to find A GOOD GAL I can bank on. Will see HOWEVER the plan is to develop my SEDUCTION SKILLS
- MAINTAIN ABOVE ASPIRATIONS OF THE NEW ME
STATEMENT + QUESTION: I plan to get my own vehicle in the upcoming year or two to help escalate when on a date flirting/touching girls. My father tells me to just find a girlfriend that drives (seems super logical LOL) but yeah even if she drives I CAN'T bring these girls back to my house so where the heck should I go?
I think it would feel super odd and expensive to go to some hotel if the time comes...so ONCE I even have my own vehicle but not my own place I guess the furthest I can get is dirty touching unless I get a SHAG- mobile - just have some febreeze to clear the sex stench and I'm good I'm thinking. Will see...would appreciate guidance with my situation lol thanks!
nice post man
well all i have to say is that rich people start from the bottom (most of them)
to stop having to "jerk it off" you have to keep yourself busy like doing push ups while you have a boner, thats what i did so yea heres a link that might help you
THE NEW ME (IN PROGRESS...) :
- Haven't played any video games for 3 months now already (real happy about this) ---> Maintained since whenever I posted this. However still spending way too much time infront of the screen both at work (I work at a call center...and once I get home I once again sit and just either read or watch a shit ton of random stuff) PLAN TO CHANGE THIS TO A TIMER BASED SYSTEM 20 MINUTE TIMER SET ON PHONE EVERY TIME IM ONLINE GOTTA GO DO A CHORE IF AVAILABLE EVERY 20 MINS
-Habit Formed- Using a calendar + post-it notes + TO-DO list + Android "Evernote" application DAILY to organize myself ...it is amazing for planning highly recommended
- NO PORN... FOREVER > > > I fapped last night to Porn and said enough is enough 09/09/2014 IS MY TIME FOR CHANGE---I fcked up but got plans for this found below (keep reading)
- Meals to be eaten. Have been lazy not really counting calories precisely cause lazy as fuark. Will just try eating more in general...will see how things go naturally
- Will be going to the gym to gain a whole lot of muscle mass, size and strength...Still wondering if I should go 5 days or 3 days per week...will see I suppose will plan in the up coming days --- Currently at around 74kg or 163lbs (see attached) --- Will be picking up kick boxing and throwing it into my 4 day split...I've got boxing gloves and took kickboxing lessons for a bit...might as well pick it up again cause I feel sluggish as hell. It will also teach me how to throw a punch which every man should know...
- Ordered Bathmate Hydromax X30 , , , still live with my parents AND sister . . . will see what happens LOL "yolo" --- Haven't been using this enough maybe on average once or twice a week just because of pure laziness to be honest. Will be going to sleep earlier and waking up earlier to get in my PE exercises in early in the day...will aim for 5 times per week depending on responsiveness down there
***NEW*** I've gone on my very first ever "date" or meetup using "meetme" app for android with a hot asian chick knowing she is transgender. Felt sorry for her situation beforehand and that would totally suck to be in that position in my personal opinion but yeah very sweet person but I had nothing in common to talk about and I learned I am REALLY lacking in social skills (small talk, joking around etc. I am shit at it). I was in for the friendship to be honest just because I literally have no girls that are friends apart from my sister it would be nice to have some elses view and to go out sometime (she did invite me to gay bar/clubbing though lmao). First transgender person I've met and they were actually really confident and inspirational lol. Worth. Anyhow...(attached are pics for your perusal...lol)
-First Kiss within the year 2014 (In progress...) Not gonna lie I was hoping to practice kissing the transgender girl but she is a diva and appreciate her confidence lol. Practice is practice and I am pretty open minded (no guys though hehe). Just to re-iterate I got rejected but she is still better looking than many many girls imo.[/b]
-GO TO SLEEP LATEST 12AM/MIDNIGHT. LATEST. AIM FOR EARLIER. NO PHONE BS. Yep. SO I CAN STAY OFF FACEBOOK MOBILE (SOME HOT CHICK LIKED MY POST AT 2AM WHILE I WAS ON FACEBOOK OPENED HER PROFILE AND FURIOUSLY DID THE DIRTY AFTER RUNNING TO THE BATHROOM FOR TOILET PAPER AND BEING TURNED ON... WHICH RESULTED IN FAPPING TO PR0N. NO GOOD LOL)
-DEEP BREATHING "MEDITATION" TO CLEAR MIND EVERY MORNING WHILE USING BATHMATE. KILL 2 BIRDS WITH 1 STONE YEAH BUDDY?
-KEGELS - TRY TO DO 100+ PER DAY WHEN ON BREAK AT WORK AND DURING MY TIME ON COMPUTER. WILL HAVE POST IT NOTE UNTIL HABIT FORMS
-TRY KRATOM LIFE Ordered a decent amount of it will be trying it out. Post found here:
(Comment at the very bottom of the page - Also Highly recommend to visit page 1 of the thread if you've never heard of Kratom...might as well give it a go if you have funding and time to try it out is how I see it! )
December 4th 2014 -
Today I fapped twice. Once around 2am and another time when I woke up (no morning erections - I miss those teen years). Lets just say my motivation is at an all time low and all in all I am very down and in the dumps. It sucks to be in a slump but it too will pass. I've basically made a pact with myself going to the extreme of not masturbating to porn or "commit suicide". A wager of "DO OR DIE" you will. I wouldn't want the latter to occur because I would hurt many people around me but yeah I'm not suicidal just a really really dark and weird way to motivate me to stay on track I guess?
I find it hard to believe that you don't have any AA if you've never kissed a girl. Also, doing the "i'm never going to watch porn again" thing right away in my opinion is like saying that you are going to work out 7 days a week right away.... Chances are your going to fail. With the porn thing maybe cut it down to a few times a week, then maybe to pictures, and have a limit on the amount of pictures you can open and fap to. I know you've probably experienced this where you sit down... start watching porn and then 4 hours later you are like "shit where did my day go". Then eventually maybe you can make the switch to jacking off to bikini pictures or some shit. Just a suggestion. Going cold turkey is hard. Its definitely doable.... but hard. You gotta have that iron will.
Also, for the first kiss thing... I think you are just going to have to go on a few dates and just go for it. I know it probably seems like a big deal to you right now...But kissing for girls isn't a huge deal. As chris said, She's probably kissed/fucked a guy uglier than you.
Thanks Dangs7 and its not that I don't have ANY aa but I believe I am at least 75% of the way there and for me that is good enough. the 20-25% left is just honestly experience. Knowing what to say or do in certain situations.
I know it is a little out there but I've been struggling with this porn addiction for the longest damn time and I've upped the wager into my crazy terms of no porn or suicide (not srs) but it will keep me at bay for a long while hopefully. Will see. Also I suffer from Premature E so 4 hours is more like less than 4 minutes heh. I am hoping that kegels will improve that and I know that definitely no fap will make me a happier person. I already recall being 1 month into it and I was like a different person. More energy, less sleep required, happier much more often than having a negative depressive lingering emotional undertone in my thought patterns. So that too is something I am looking forward too
Kiss wise I don;t know if I really want to push for it BUT I find seated dates like super awkward I would much rather be walking around somewhere idk. I honestly think just at the back of my head because she was transgender I only really wanted to be friends (since I don't have any legit close friends that are girls) and was not motivated to go further because of that AND i admittedly did not know how to push things further #1 I did not touch them basically at all so I will definitely work on that from the very beginning with holding hand, more mini kino in general so she is used to my touch. I really just wanted to be friends with the date #1 girl without sounding mean but optimistically becoming a friend that i can practice kissing with but yeah man i legit have ZERO game haha. Whatever right now. Anyhow will report date #2 once it comes up eventually.. I think it should go a lot smoother seeing as I would actually be interested in the girl. Cheers
So yeah I fcked up multiple times the past few days last time that was Dec 11. Dec 12.
Gotta stop being a porn-addict. Instant gratification + addiction + boredom is bad. I feel like a shitty brat child doing whatever he wants. Time for discipline. My crazy suicide method didn't help I just laughed at how stupid that was after the fact. I think the only logical way to go about this is to take my porn addiction seriously and that I REALLY want to help myself out here. It's not normal and has to stop so I gotta help myself.
No more will I look to pornography to satisfy my sexual needs.
If the going gets tough I will literally just no questions asked start doing sit ups and push ups until I am tired as fuark. That's the plan. I'm gonna be a wilda mutha fuckn beast. Time to stop being a loser. FUARKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK
I'll report back here on January 9th with new updates. Until then... cheers GLL ^_^!
Thanks I will go something even more "extreme" per say and add a "bonus" if you may to practice guitar on any time off that I have for a minimum of 15 minutes per hour at the computer. But I really have to tone down my computer usage. I sit all day at my desk job 37.5 hours per week so I can't be sitting on my butt at home watching youtube/anime all day. Gotta restrict that. 4 hours per every 12 hours on the computer on days off. The rest can be meditation / exercise / guitar (gonna print out sheet music) / grooming? haha gotta plan goin' now woot. Thanks Wamuu.
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