TOPIC: Possibly starting AA program

* Where you are from?
Western/Central New York.  If you've never been here we have a lot of cows and apple orchards.  There's also a couple of beat up, rundown cities.  We also have a lot of snow.

* How old are you?
I'm 35.  Some days I feel old, some days I feel young.

* Describe yourself, height, weight, looks, style, etc.
I'm a computer guy, and I work in an office writing software and doing related tasks.  I'm surrounded by guys who do not know how to dress.  Many of them don't even have pants that reach their shoes.  It makes me feel like a fashion god simply because my shirts fit properly, but it also means I'm not surrounded by examples of proper fashion. 

I'm about 5'10", 185lbs.  I'm gradually killing the fat and I'm probably at around 18% body fat now (honest assessment, I look to myself like I'm 15%, so I add in the fudge-factor).  I used to be over 30%, and weighed 260lbs at my worst.  I've dropped down to 170lbs before but had pretty much zero muscle.  I'm shooting for around 12% which I figure is somewhere between 170 and 175lbs.  I'm balding, so I shave my head pretty short.  I'm pasty white but I've already had the big C so I have no desire to go under the tanning bed lights. I'm worried the rub-in/spray on tans will make me look like a Jersey Shore reject.  I wear khaki/chino (whatever) work pants or jeans.  Because my ass and thighs explode doing any kind of leg work, and much of my fat accumulates there, I have trouble finding fashion jeans that fit.  A style guide on jeans for guys with legs would certainly be appreciated.  I find it pretty funny that I can't even get the thigh of most of the current jeans past my calf muscles.  I wear mostly button down shirts that are not tailored, but are fitted.  Also, sweaters, v-neck shirts, etc.  My wife is pretty helpful at telling me what to wear, but she's a bit resistant to more of the 'edgy' looking stuff.  Although she liked the shoes you guys recommended in the style guide.  I'll try to post a picture -- I think I'm going to need some help in refining a more casual office-guy-who-doesn't-wear-ties look.

(better idea: PUT UP A PICTURE! This stuff matters more than ANYTHING else in terms of "attracting" girls)

* What are your goals? (specific goals- I want to bang # of chicks in 2012)
I ordered a Penomet, so I'm hoping to enlarge my penis as much as possible with regular use of it.  I suffer from social anxiety, so I want to see if I can get past that enough to work through the AA drills.  (Where is that SA program, Chris?  Send me an alpha/beta version and I'll provide useful feedback!)  I've started experimenting with Penibut and trying to do daily meditation as a first step to this.

* If you could accomplish ONE THING in the next 12 month. What would it be?
Beat my social anxiety.  I suffer from a number of anxieties but I believe my social anxiety is the core of the rest of them

* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material?
6 months to a year

* What are you main blockages? (if you don't know we'll figure them out)
Social Anxiety
Low self-esteem (these two are almost certainly related)

* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years?
I'm married and have been married for several years to the only girl I've ever been with (in every sense of the word).  I got lucky in that respect, but I was screening when I met her.  I didn't realize at the time what I was doing, but after having it explained on this site that's pretty close to what I was doing.  I only worked up the balls to ask her out because she was hot enough for me, and she loved science fiction/fantasy type movies and related things.  She also had ambition and was working towards a goal and had similar values.  Ah, work game -- The only way guys like me find women.

+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com?
I found you because I was searching for more infield pickup videos on youtube.  As a married dude I have to live vicariously.

Welcome man.

I'd say to start the AA program, it WILL help with social anxiety.

I used to suffer from severe social anxiety and approaching girls helped A LOT.

Welcome to the forum dude

Congrats with your weight loss you've had


How's phenibut going for you so far?