TOPIC: Ask ssk08 about anything! (Slaughtered Extreme AA in ~4 Months)

I started in the PUA community about a year ago. But I would say I stopped once for about 5 months. Later on I stopped again for a few months. I've had some really good experiences such as makeouts. But I've also had those low days of being unsatisfied because I've had anxiety and didn't approach many. Or also unsatisfied with the girls responses as well.

Yeah it's tough. I'm only 19. And live with my parents with no car. And I broke off with my old wings. So I just go out alone now. Trying to do AA program currently on day 13. I repeated some days many times cuz I'm not happy with the inconsistency. What do you think about my situation?

Yeah I live in Hawaii and I go to the University there. My summer consist of work, gym and then approach. Sometimes of course hangout out with my friends.

Yeah my plan is to transfer out in one year to Chicago because my best friend lives there. And of course he goes out too. I didn't transfer right away because my grades are somewhat low. I have a 2.7GPA in college. I did really well in high school tho. Also my parents don't have a lot of money and they pay my tuition. So I'm trying to find ways to get scholarships to transfer out in one year. If not then I would have to settle for loans.

I really wish I moved out at 18 when I had the chance, but I didn't. How did you beat AA and overcome all the psychological bullshit that your brain gives you in a short amount of time?

sk have you eva used the cold approach get laid with a chick at the club.

ssk8

today was half miserable day for me

that part with girls

Dude, I was in some big warehouse-style-shop, starting to feel like I'm sick of this day already, had one eye on a girl (hm.goodlooking pussy.fvck.I'll pass like a loser.I passed like a loser.) and when I looked her for the 2nd time and she looked-turned a bit towards me ..GOD I HAD A HUNCH..you know when you have a hunch about something?..and to my pleasant as I could be pleased in a fvcked state of mind,I feel that that specific girl started chasing me around. And I started to feel fucking like ..what i will say, when I will approach, then when the" rubberband attraction" again_got_her_near_me, I started to have inside panic like I have to do something but I feel so anxious and full of everything negative that I really cannot flash a decent smile or project positivity and relaxedness - its too much to be faked.And she chased me until the end. Fvck!


I was like aargh!! emotions out of control.I was like..I wanna squash this anxious down mood shit or kill myself (well not for real for now but you know the awkwardness that I am talking about!).

Then I went to the nearby chain store, and, yet again, one girl, for Gods sake, I swear to god, wherever I went with my disinterested-interest, she was giving me 4-5-6 opportunities like the previous one via fly-bys near me. Dude, it started to be too ridiculous. I felt like the most energetically-low-negative-anxious pussy in the whole world. Real goodlooking loser that is so anxious that was transforming into a badlookingloser. I was Aaaargh!! fvck! fvck! not again!

State control was in shit.Paralysed to act on cue that I start to feel "that could be it"! Aargh!

I do not wanna speak about things like broken nose, or buster upper lower lip, or legal lawsuits I am in the middle of. I would consider it as my pathetic excuse.

I see a woman human being chasing me and I start physically transform, it affect me too much cause I lose the emotional rudder in the moment I KNOW something is UP , playing to my advantage.

I had so "full dick" of that that I wanna break things, approach and ravage girls just for feeling so angry at my behaviour and missed opportunities (but feel inhibited/tired/looking shitty at the end of the day to do so)

Lets say today. End of that story, forget chain stores blocks.

I was outside, like going out, started to feel tired/sleepy/looking like shit.

So, finished,having no sense in hovering there, I went back to bus station (to get back home.Game over. I lost)
Suddenly, one GORGEOUS girl enter the station.Sexy. Blue tight long costume with a cutout for the perfect leg part. I let her pass. And , looking like shit, I changed state to "fuck it" and said "I'm sorry its a little random but you are very beautiful.(Looked her in the face)" (Credits..well Chris is the first I heard to say it so direct to a girl Ever.Thank you &Pheromone Kid)

She lit up like "thank you"

I did not introduce myself (forgot zzZZ brain), and said what shes up to, which bus she is waiting anyway..and that I want to see how she is like.

she said like "but I do not know you"

and I said "yea, thats why I wanna see how you are"

and what are your plans, we could meet somewhere tomorrow

etc.

she wrote me her email address in my evernote mobile app after I was done with fumbling touchs reen on my mobile.I react and said like whatever

So I am at home and in bed now. Feeling like I dont give a shit. Not even too excited about that. Sent her a curt and short mail that that is what I wanted to do, that its exactly what I wanted to say and I meant it. and oh yeah one more mail where i said "look i forgot my mob is xyz, or ya surprise and shoot me an sms" (Credits Chris who brought the idea to me)

Took my sleeping pills and beer to knock me out to sleep now.

normally taking SNRI antidepressant which helps sort of but is not a magic solution.withput moving your ass nothing moves forward.And taking some insight i to your mind work and Again moving you into proaction.

Occasionally I get depression episodes, like when I break up with the girl I was connected with last few months at fuckbuddy status, which should be normal (my ol ex-fb from Germany no.1 said.Wonderful soul.)

"ooooh life...'s bigger...bigger than you, or me, or ..."

I was feeling twisted crazy today.

Ah yes, I was pushing official GLL AA but am stuck at day 4. My idea as I get Anxious and/or Depressive is to get to know ALL the sequences, and then , Feeling my capabilities,develop in a sense and Direction that the exposure therapy is meant to expand you. Meaning, if I Feel like doing it up to some point,I'll do until I shit my pants (bail out / contact) or succeed. 'cause girl chasing me is ridiculous. I NEED to LAY HER IN THAT CASE. OTHERWISE-NORMALLY my plan is to FORGET LAYS AND FUCKING TRAIN all the other times anti-AA whenever possible. Hope it makes sense.

As GLL Chris said, I feel on a slippery slope.one step forward, 7 steps back, then 2 steps forward, 1 step back etc.Fuck that.

Any experiences to share?

Hey I'm a junior in highschool, i know the AA program isn't for me yet but when I do it I'm wondering if it's easier in a bigger town? I'm thinking of going to university in Victoria BC, would it be a good idea to live in a bigger city like Vancouver for 2 months before I go to university to kill approach anxiety once and for all? Is that enough time? I guess I'd have to finish the remainder of the drills in Victoria.

ssk08 wrote: Just push it "Stepup" for 3 months and you'll notice a rise in confidence gradually.

Aidz, sometimes a smaller city can also be good, why? Because centrally located apartments/rooms might be way cheaper and you don't have to live in the outskirts of a big city.

Tell me if I'm over analyzing Victoria is a city of 80,000 don't want to go through all the hot college chicks while I'm loving on campus,(I would do the approaches downtown.

Aidz,

Maybe I do not know shit but,

this city where I am has only 90.000 people.Chicks are stylish and well developed.I just have no choice but play with it until I do it right.

Imagine my odds dude? I get unadveredly depressed AND anxious.Burned all the bridges behind. My moods oscillate.

I moan and complain but I get some occasionally.

Now if thats not a kick in the butt in the right direction for you, I don't know what is.That Gorgeous one actually replied to my mail today.Probably nothing but I showed some balls to her enough to consider something there.

Now, go get yours!

StepUP

Do you think the AA program works if you don't do it everyday or even every other day, but on the weekends? (I have to because of my full time job) I mean, I see and feel the change for sure, so I guess that almost answers my own question, but how did you do it?

what do you think about the goal to go steady and get a girlfriend as opposed to sleeping with a lot of random girls you've met. Does this change the way you "game" post AA program? What changes do you have to make if your goal is just to find and get a girlfriend as opposed to sleeping with girls?

Hey man, hope you can help me out with something here. I have porn induced ED right now and can't get a boner at all with a girl. I searched a bit on the net and realized you also went through it at one point. What did you do with chicks when you were trying to recover?

I am not really sure what to do, like this weekend, I went out with this chick who was DTF but I was like shit I can't do it so I walked her home instead and she was probably like WTF since I was escalating throughout the date. I am also not seeing the same girl for more than 1 date because inevitably if we try to have sex I can't do it and most don't even text me back anymore because I come off really differently on dates, like I wasn't what they were expecting. (I screen fairly aggressively on approaches.)

Do you think I should change my approach up a bit, like be less aggressive up front and during dates and get into more of a "dating" frame to buy time? It seriously feels that way right now, just buying time... I've had trouble with porn in the past too but usually my ED goes away after a month or so. However, last time I relapsed really hard and this time trying to recover, it's been 5 weeks and see no changes at all.

Ssk can you answer my questions bud. I really would like your input on them

How old were you when you lost your virginity SSK08?, got your first girlfriend?