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I just started the aa program and I having trouble messaging girls. I freeze and eject. I do this in real life too. How do I overcome this flight response?
Make the drill easier, ask where the post office is, or something else that creates "less excitement", go to places in the city where there are not a lot of people and ask less attractive women. Then work your way up.
Ok, what about for online? I have not messaged one yet. I go to pof and then boom FLIGHT RESPONSE. Stimuli overload?
Amir - u said ur small talk skill has maybe actually declined if anything. In a situation where u get no eye contact but approach her anyway, wats ur typical convo like... I have been doing way too much interview style questions, probably because I'm too nervous and my small talk skills SUCK. Have u ever got laid with shit small talk?
I think you mentioned you beat moderate social anxiety. How did you handle that? I'm having trouble getting started with the AA drills here, so I think I need to take some baby steps to get to the first part.
I still have some, but I moved abroad and started chatting with strangers, playing stupid like asking for directions etc.
I found your interview and fr log. It looks like I may also suffer from the porn addiction. I'm thinking that's the big one. But I was already thinking I might need to start talking to strangers I'm not even remotely attracted to (dudes, old ladies, ugly chicks, etc). Thanks!
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When going into the field (for actual lays), did you "undersell" yourself first to have less initial anxiety or immediately go only for women you found attractive enough to be proud of getting pussy with?
When you were beating AA, did you intentionally plant yourself in front of women where people could see and hear you? Like approaching a women in a crowded area..
Does that feeling of people watching/judging you ever go away? Most people are decent/mind their own business but there's those few, few people who intentionally laugh and or stare as they walk past your interaction..
Is this a mental thing? Or does it go away after putting yourself in the furnace over and over and over?
There are days for me when I can approach girls and hit on them. And other days where I get completely stuck in my head and feeling depressed about it. In those low days, I talk to some women, but I start to seek for their good reactions. Sometimes I build some social freedom and I'm able to keep hitting on girls. Other days I have a really hard time. For me, I travel about 40 minutes by bus to go to where I approach. I usually go out after I worked all day and sometimes after I hit the gym. And some days, I would be feeling tired as well.
How do you beat this inconsistency in the AA program?
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