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Hey everyone! I'm new to this forum. This is my first approach using the GLL style, and I have to say I'm hooked.
I simply walked up to the girl, introduced myself, told her she was cute, and led the conversation from there.
However, I was shitting myself the entire time.
HERE IS THE AUDIO:
I had to cut it after a minute because my phone was picking up the music. It ended with her giving me her Instagram(bailed too early, not enough escalation).
What I learned: -Girls are people too... they have the same problems, anxieties, etc. that we do.
-Literally NO ONE is approaching nowadays. Especially not in an alpha way like we do.
-Mastering day game can and will change your life in so many ways.
My questions: -Besides the handshake, what are your go to ways for kino on the first approach(assuming standing up)?
-How was my small talk?
You didn't need to escalate, dude. You just needed to ask for her number.
This is why PUA is so silly. All you need to do is ask for her number, "verbal escalation" and "kino" are for dweebs. If you're bogged down thinking of what to say or do, you literally forget to do the one and only thing that matters.
You just started doing this, 100% of your focus should be on approaching more, not getting into minutia that doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.
You really don't need physical contact during the day. Anything more than a "longer than normal" handshake is unnecessary unless you're trying to heat her up to take her home right then and there.
Introduce self --> 30-60 seconds smalltalk --> ask for her number to hang out sometime --> text her for the sole purpose of asking her out (no long convos, waste of time) --> invite her home with you during the date
And good job. The first one ain't easy.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
I generally don't bother with going somewhere else or sitting down since I tend to have places to be if I'm approaching.
I know people like to perfect their strategy before/while starting anything, from hitting on girls, going to the gym to losing weight. But look at it this way: Any kind of change like that to make you seem smoother, to make an excuse to spend more time with someone you approach, to touch her, is going to increase your chance of getting her number by maybe 10%, if at all. Guess what increases your chance of getting a number by 100%? Hitting on two girls instead.
Jack1342 wrote: Thank you for the feedback. With that approach, do you think asking "Are you in a super rush" or "What are you up to" then if nothing, going and sitting down somewhere is a good idea?
If you want to and think you're up for it, go for it. Personally I'd recommend just focusing on approaching girls until the anxiety is mostly under control before worrying about taking girls on insta-dates and things like that. But that's just a general guideline, not a rule.
Also, having never done it, I have no idea if an insta-date is even a good idea or just a huge waste of time, so maybe someone else can chime in on that. I would think at the very least the exposure therapy would be good though since you're just starting out.
And yea, good job on the approach. It's a big deal.
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^ I've done insta dates, insta "study," insta all kinds of shit. It's generally just a waste of time.
Like you said, it's good for exposure, but that's about it. Generally, girls that take you on insta dates, know that your hitting on girls and actually want you to waste your time and make you hit on less girls. They're free at the moment and want you to entertain them. That's about it.
Get her number, tell her you want to take her out, then go hit on another girl.
That way you know shes truly invested because it wouldn't just be her going on a "date" when its convenient for her.
That's my experience at least. What Bad Idea Bear is saying seems like the most logical thing. Although I'm not sure about 30-60 seconds, I usually talk for like 3 minutes. Maybe I should try 1 minute approaches.
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