TOPIC: How to approach 100 girls in a day. Detailed guide

So, as you know, on one day last year I approached 122 girls and had 3 short insta-dates in 12 hours. People have been asking me how I managed to do it. I have a detailed guide on this.

Part I. The theory

The theory of it

What is game ? This sounds like one of those stupid debates that PUAs that never get laid but have 1000s of posts on forums would ask. Nonetheless I think it is actually useful for this article to understand my take on it.

I don’t believe in the PUA definition of game which typically includes :

1)The specific words you say
2)Your body language
3)Your inner game
4)Following some preset pattern (build rapport and so on)
5)Having deep knowledge of “redpill” theories on relationships between men and women

And so on

Of course there is some basic truth which boils down to don’t be retarded. Of course being aggressive or overly weird will hurt your chances with girls. But there isn’t much theory that can improve beyond that. That is, yes being retarded will hurt, like not being able to say a single word without looking like a serial killer and all that. But being “smooth” and “non-reactive” or whatever won’t increases your chances beyond what being normal and asking a girl in a mundane fashion will.

You won’t get more girls to say yes cause you used the fancy MrShrexPussyKillerXx777xX’s method of rapport->bamboozle->kino->false flag->Neg atomizer-> LMR shredder than if you just said “Hi, you seem cool, how about we grab some drinks at my place when you’re free this week ?”

With that out of the way, the question is what is game then ? My theory is that game is everything besides looking good. That is, your approach and all. But if that is the case, didn’t I just say that “game” doesn’t exist beyond having the balls to go up and ask normally to go out ?

Yes and no. I believe “game” exists but it works differently. Answer these questions :

1) How many girls in a day you can approach ?
2) How much time does it take you to do 10 approaches ?
3) Do you skip on a lot of girls that you wished you approached ?
4) Do you take long breaks between individual approaches ?
5) Do you blabber too much instead of asking the number sooner ?
6) Do you have a particular type of girl that you are afraid to approach ? (older, younger, black / asian, with tattoos, others)
7) Do you approach every day or only after days of break ?
8 ) Can you approach in most locations or only at one place ? (are you afraid to ask girls in transport ? libraries ? gyms ?)
9) Do you hesitate a lot before you go up to a girl ?
10) Do approaches drain you very much energy wise ? Does rejection affect you strongly ?
11) Does it take you a lot to get in the mood to start approaching ?
12) Does it take you a lot of time to find a girl to approach due to not noticing a girl that can be approached or having high standards ?

These answers show who has good “game” and who hasn’t.

Just to exemplify. We see 2 guys, John and Bob. John approaches a girl, uses a particular line, get’s the girl’s number. Bob does the exact same thing, get’s the girl’s number.

Based on those 2 approaches alone, by MrShrexPussyKillerXx777xX’s standards they both have equally good game, but that is where the issue comes, that particular approach doesn’t tell the whole story.

In a day, John approaches 20 girls, all in the span of 2 hours, not skipping a single girl that he wants to approach, has reasonable standards, doesn’t hesitate much before an approach, doesn’t feel too down after a rejection, can approach pretty much anywhere, doesn’t take a lot to warm up in the beginning, doesn’t get tired after an hour, and can repeat this thing daily.

On the other hand Bob takes 2 hours to warm up before he goes out to “sarge”. He only does it on weekends and takes a lot of time to recover after a day of approaching. He takes a lot of time to find a girl to approach because he ignores some girls that are for example across the road, as he doesn’t want to go too far to approach and he has high standards and thus most girls are not good enough for him. He hesitates for a minute before approaching a girl at a bus station even while there is no obstacle around him, no other people and the girl isn’t looking at her phone or seems irritated or sad. He only approaches girls his age, as he is uncomfortable approaching teens or women in their 40s. He feels tired after 1 hour of “sarging”. Every single rejection makes him feel sad and he takes 10 minutes to recover. When he finally approaches he blabbers for ages instead of going for the number. After 8 hours he manages to do 10 approaches.

If you looked at only one single isolated approach, both guys would seem to have equal “game”. But when we look at the whole picture, it’s clear who has better “game”.

The 100 day approach challenge is a veritable test of one’s “game”. It will put all the skillset to the test, as being weak in even one department, like hesitating a lot, skipping a lot of girls, getting emotionally affected too much, and so on, will not allow you to complete the challenge.

If a guy manages to do 100 approaches in a day, he can consider himself graduated. The 100 approaches challenge is a the equivalent of a Phd in cold approach skills.

If a guy manages to pass that means he is so good, that he mastered cold approaching close to perfection and at that point it makes more sense to focus on building other skills besides approaching (like getting good photos on Tinder, or earning more money, whatever).

In the following parts, I will get over every single skill you need to pass the challenge, how to build it, as well as practical advice for doing the challenge.

Part II. The skills

Now that I explained in the previous part the theory of “game” behind the challenge in general lines, let’s focus on the “game” skills more specifically.

Regularity skills
Skill 1. Consecutive hours, energy
Skill 2. Consecutive days
Range skills
Skill 3. Range of girl type
Skill 4. Location range
Efficiency skills
Skill 5. Approach rate (Per-hour approaches)
Skill 6. Not skipping girls
Skill 7. No hesitation
Skill 8. Not talking too much
Mental skills
Skill 9. No warmup
Skill 10. Emotional resilience

Regularity skills deal with you being able to do this regularly, for many hours one after the other, or many days one after the other.

Range skills deal with you having a wide option of girls and places to approach. You should be open to approaching all types of girls, young, old, minorities, etc. And to be able to approach in different locations.

Efficiency skills deal with you being efficient during the approaches. You should be able to do many approaches quickly one after another without breaks, not skip on girls, not hesitate much before the approach and not take too much time to ask for number.

Mental skills deal with you being able to not get mentally down or tired after so many approaches and not needing too many mental breaks or mental warmups, to be able mentally to jump right away.

Skill 1. Consecutive hours, energy

In order to be good, at this you need to be able to go many hours in a row. This is probably the most important skill at all. You need to be able to keep doing it for 6-12 hours with minimal breaks to pass the challenge.

Skill 2. Consecutive days

While not essential for the challenge itself, it is a useful one. By training it before the challenge you will get more out of your cold approach exercises and will build the mental and other strengths necessary to pass the challenge.

Skill 3. Range of girl type

This was a big one for me. When I started, even if I was somewhat good, I was intimated by girls with tattoos and weird colored hair and older women. I had to learn to be able to approach all types of girls, instead of only 1 type, so that I had more options.

Skill 4. Location range

While maybe not super-essential for the challenge itself, it is a very useful one and helps the challenge too. IRL you’ll likely see a cute girl on a bus or in the gym and if you can only approach in the streets or in clubs, that will mean missing on a chance with some cuties. You should be able to approach in most environments, whether public transport, bus stations, in the street, moving girls, and so on.

Skill 5. Approach rate (Per-hour approaches)

To be able to finish the challenge in say 12 hours, you need an average of around 8.2 girls per hour. To finish it in 10, you need 10 girls per hour. Consider also that you will likely have small breaks and that you will most likely need a lunch break and that you will have streaks of many girls in your area followed by fewer girls, that means some hours it will have to be above that. In my best hours I did around 20 approaches in an hour, on the worst one I did around 5 + I had breaks for short insta-dates (1 x 15 min 2 x 30 min).

Skill 6. Not skipping girls

This one matters quite a bit. You can’t afford to skip many girls when you do the challenge, sure sometimes you might choose to not chase a girl that is a bit far away from you, but skip too many slightly inconvenient opportunities or just be too mentally drained to follow every last opportunity and your hourly approach rate might go too low.
You need to be able to not skip more than 20% (at most !), more likely 3-5% of your opportunities. More than that and you’ll likely not pass the challenge. You need to learn to squeeze the lemon to the last drop, take every chance, ever opportunity counts, you don’t have many to spare.

Skill 7. No hesitation

Sometimes you see a girl and you need a few second before you take the plunge. If it’s too long, you’ll miss on some girls. I missed one cause I didn’t go right away and she took a bus that came without me being able to finish and a few ones like that. Ideally you should take between 0-5 seconds before approaching, 10-15 is acceptable, more than that and you’ll likely have issues.

Skill 8. Not talking too much

Some guys take forever to ask a girl’s number. You should be able ideally to do it even after a few lines like “Hey, you’re cute, I got to go, throw me your digits and I’ll send a message later” right away. Of course, more talking is acceptable. However, ideally most of your approaches should not take more than 30-45 seconds before you ask number. 20-25 was my average. On a few ones I took 1 minute 30. If your approach takes more than 2 minutes that’s not typically an issue in a normal day, but it will be for the challenge. Keep it short and to the point.

Skill 9. No warmup

You shouldn’t need a long warm-up after a break. If you need 30 minutes after lunch to get back in the game, or after a 5 minute break it takes you another 10 to get up to full speed, that’s an issue. You need to be able to jump right back fast.

Skill 10. Emotional resilience

In theory, your “inner game” doesn’t matter much when approaching or even for the challenge, practically it will though. 99% of people can’t keep approaching like a machine when they get super-sad. You need a certain level of mental resilience to not get too angry or sad to keep approaching, you should not be too moody or affected by rejection much.

That summarizes the skills. In the next part I will explain how to build them.

Part III. How to build the skills

In the previous part I explained the skills necessary to pass the 100 approaches a day challenge. Now comes the practical part, how do you build each individual skill to have a chance with the challenge ?

First, I have to make it clear. The 100 approaches a day challenge is not for newbies. I won’t teach you the ABC’s. Just like you wouldn’t try to explain stochastic modelling to a primary schooler who can’t even do multiplications.

I expect that if you take on the challenge you can already approach girls (duh). I recommend the challenge for people who have done 1000 approaches before at least. If you want to try earlier, do it at your own risk. I was slightly below 1000 when I did it, but I am really dedicated guy so most others won’t be even close to able before doing at least 1000.

That said, assuming you have a relatively decent number of approaches under your belt, what next ? How to build the skills ?

Most of these skills can’t really be treated as a separate skill really. More like an extension of what you are already doing, just doing it better. As such, I suggest challenges as a way to train them.

Challenge 1. Consecutive hours
Bronze level : 2 hours of consecutive approaches
Silver level : 4 hours of consecutive approaches
Gold level : 6 hours of consecutive approaches

Challenge 2. Consecutive days
Bronze level : 3 consecutive days of approaching
Silver level : 5 consecutive days of approaching
Gold level : 7 consecutive days of approaching

Challenge 3. Range of girl type
For this one, do some days of approaching. When you encounter a type of girl you are afraid of approaching write it down in a notebook, for example : older women, teens, girls with tattoos, black girls, mean-looking girls, girls that are too hot, chubbier girls, etc.

Then start knocking them one by one. To do that, make it your purpose to approach that specific type first 20 times in total. Once you approached that specific type 20 times over your approaches, even if extended over less than 5-7 days, consider it knocked off. Make sure to focus only one type at a time. If you already knocked one type out, you are free to approach that type once you start knocking another type out.

Bronze level : 5 types afraid to approach
Silver level : 3 types afraid to approach
Gold level : 1 or less types afraid to approach

Challenge 4. Location range
Same as skill 3. Do some days of approaching. When you encounter a location you are afraid of approaching in write it down in a notebook, for example : buses, metro, bus stop, library, gym, bar, club, on a bench, moving girl, girl with a friend, etc.

Then start knocking them one by one. To do that, make it your purpose to approach in that specific type of location first 20 times in total. Once you approached in that specific type of location 20 times total over your approaches, even if extended over 5-7 days, consider it knocked off. Make sure to focus only one type at a time. If you already knocked one type out, you are free to approach in that location freely once you start knocking another type out.

Bronze level : 5 locations afraid to approach
Silver level : 3 locations afraid to approach
Gold level : 1 or less locations afraid to approach

Challenge 5. Approach rate (Per-hour approaches)
Bronze level : 10 approaches per hour
Silver level : 15 approaches per hour
Gold level : 20 or more approaches per hour

Challenge 6. Not skipping girls
To train this one you need to have streaks of not skipping any potential girl you saw and could have approached, even if she is across the road (and there is a place you can cross) or if she is 30 ft away, or she passed you by and you don’t really feel like running back for her, or you had to stop to pick up something you drop before you approached and lost a bit of momentum, or you locked eyes for a few seconds so now you feel shy about approaching her, etc.

Bronze level : a streak of 5 approaches without skipping a single opportunity
Silver level : a streak of 8 approaches without skipping a single opportunity
Gold level : a streak of 10 or more approaches without skipping a single opportunity

Challenge 7. No hesitation
Somewhat similar to Challenge 6. You need to get streaks where you had less than a certain amount of hesitation before you approached

Bronze level : a streak of 5 approaches without taking more than 15 seconds of hesitation before each approach
Silver level : a streak of 8 approaches without taking more than 10 seconds of hesitation before each approach
Gold level : a streak of 10 approaches without more than 5 seconds of hesitation before each approach

Challenge 8. Not talking too much
You need to learn to get to the point quick. I’ll give some templates I use.

Longer template
- Can I ask you something ?
- Yes
- I just really thought you were cute
- Oh thank you
- My name is X
- My name is Carla
- Cool Carla, so you are from around here ?
- Yes
- Nice, I just came here recently for X / I am also from here. You got a boyfriend ?
- Not really, not right now
- Oh cool, how about this. Give your number and we can hang out this week, catch some drinks at my place / grab some coffee somewhere. You got some time these days ?
- Not so sure, got lots of stuff to do
- Just give me your number and we can catch up later
- Ok, here it is
- Cool, I’ll send you a message so you have mine to
- Ok
- I got to go now, have a nice day
- You too

Expected length : 1 minute

Medium template
- Hey, can I say something
- I thought you looked sweet so I just wanted to tell you that
- Oh thanks
- What’s your name ?
- Carla
- Mine’s x. Here’s the thing, I need to go right now, but how about we get some drinks at some place this week
- Ok … Sounds ok
- Fine, give me your number, I’ll text you and we can see.
- Fine, here it is
- Thanks, I’ll send you a message later, have a great time. Bye

Expected length : 45 seconds

Short template
- Hey, can I say something ?
- Sure
- I thought you looked really sweet. Listen I got to go right now, but how about we catch some drinks later.
- Why not
- Cool, give me your number I’ll shoot you a text later
- Sure, it’s …
- Thanks a lot, you’re cool. Have fun. Bye

Expected length : 30 seconds

You can play around these or use your own. To practice them try to get streaks of shorter approaches

Bronze level: streak of 5 approaches less than 1 minute in length
Silver level: streak of 8 approaches less than 45 seconds in length
Gold level: streak of 10 approaches less than 30 seconds in length

Challenge 9. No warmup
To train this, you need two things. Approach first girl as soon as you get out of house and jump back into action after a break.

Bronze level : Approach at least 3rd girl you see after you get out of your home -> at least on 2 days in the same week
Silver level : Approach at least 2nd girl after you see after you get out of your home -> at least on 3 days the same week
Gold level : Approach first approachable girl you see after you get out of the home -> at least 5 days in the same week

Bronze level : Approach a girl. Take a 5 minute mandatory break, approach first girl passable girl you see afterwards -> repeat 3 times
Silver level : Approach a girl. Take a 10 minute mandatory break. Approach first passable girl you see afterwards -> repeat 4 times
Gold level : Approach a girl. Take a 15 minute mandatory break. Approach first passable girl you see afterwards -> repeat 5 times

Challenge 10. Emotional resilience
A bit harder to quantify than others, but I’ll propose some challenges.

Bronze level : Approach 10 girls in a session. Make sure you never get too sad or pissed -> 2 consecutive sessions
Silver level : Approach 15 girls in a session. Make sure you never get too sad or pissed -> 3 consecutive sessions
Gold level : Approach 20 girls in a session. Make sure you never get too sad or pissed -> 4 consecutive sessions

If you can’t pass a particular challenge you can train it gradually. For example, if you can’t do 4 consecutive hours of approaching try adding 30 minutes each time. So for example 2,30 - 3 - 3,30 - 4 and so on until you hit the target. Same for others.

I can’t recommend you start the 100 days challenge if you can’t pass at least the bronze level of any single challenge listed above.

I can’t recommend you start the 100 days challenge if you have only bronze level in more than 1-2 challenges listed above.

I can’t recommend you start the 100 days challenge unless you have gold on at least 50% of the challenges.

Of course you are free to try and jump straight to the main challenge without passing these first, but these are good assessments if you want to be sure you are ready for it and are a good preparation for the main one.

Part IV. Passing the actual challenge

Ok, so now that you know the theory behind the challenge, each individual skill you will need and have trained those individual skills it’s time to actually pass the 100 day challenge. What tips can I give you for passing it ?

Here is a list of tips I have for passing the challenge

1.Have a notebook to write the results of approaches

I patented this one. I use it for record keeping. I carried a small notebook with me to register the result of each approach.

I recommend you find a small notebook and pen to carry with you

You can write down the results as :
R - rejection
T - taken
U - unavailable
C - contact

R is when a girl refuses you. T is when she says she has a boyfriend. U is when she would like to meet up but she has to leave for another country in the morning or says she has an exam crunch next month or anything similar. C is when she gives you her contact

You can write it down like this

1 - R
2 - T
3 - T
4 - C
5 - C
6 - U
7 - R
and so on

If you want to make it easier, you can write the numbers 1 - 100 before you leave the house so you only have to write a letter.
1-
2-
3-
4-
5-
and so on

While I don’t believe you should write more than that cause you are wasting time, if you want to record something special you can add a comment sometimes.

1 - R -> same college as me
2 - T
3 - T -> friend of my sister
4 - C
5 - C -> really big boobs
6 - U -> has to leave for Japan
7 - R

Should help you keep track record, as you might lose track of how many girls exactly you approached.

2.Know your location beforehand. Scout a good location

There is no room for fucking around much in this challenge, so know where you will be doing it.

In my opinion a good place is somewhere that is neither too empty, nor way too full, but too empty is worse. Figure out some sweet hot spots in your city, for example : near University, some mall, some busy station, central square, bar strip, etc.

I recommend finding 3 good spots not far away from each other and then moving between those 3. For example, place A, stay there for 20 minutes approaching girls then move to place B while still approaching on the way, stay in place B for 20 minutes, move and keep approaching to C, stay there for 20 minutes then go back to A.

Now maybe things are different in your city and some other formula works better. Maybe there is a spot so good you don’t need to keep moving from it. I can’t comment on what would work in your specific city, adapt to it, but that’s what worked for me.

Also, for this to work you clearly need to live in a big city. Sorry small city guys, but you will need to take a train to a big city to try this challenge then.

3.Have enough money, water, whatever you need with you

You want to make sure your supplies are good. Make sure to have a water bottle with you and any medication or whatever you might need.

You might want to grab a bite, so you won’t have time for anything fancy. Any fast food place will do. You might also be too tired to go back home on foot, consider having cab money.

On this day forget about diet or anything like that. Have money, do small indulgences like take an ice cream, ciggarettes, chewing gum or whatever you feel like.

Again, you can be slightly lavish this day, indulge. No time for restrictions, today is only about approaching, everything else is about filling urges so that they don’t come up on the way.

4.Don’t have anything else distract you

Make sure everything is finished at your home, all menial tasks, you responded to all mails and calls and everything. Nothing should distract you. No appointments, nothing. It’s all about the challenge, everything else for the day is cleared, all the other small tasks were already fixed.

Before you go out dress as good as you can, take a shower, put on cologne, eat well. Make sure to feel top notch when you start.

Make sure there is nothing dragging your mood down like your cat recently dying. Listen to music to pump up.

You should always be in approach mode. Always thinking about nothing but the approach, be in the zone. No thoughts about anything else.

You are allowed to take small 5 minute breaks every hour and are also allowed to have 1 lunch break of no more than 30 minutes.

Outside of that, it’s only approach approach approach.

5.Consider doing a 30/50/70 approaches challenge first

If you feel 100 sounds too crazy, consider taking on smaller challenges first, like doing 30 approaches. Then 50 approaches in one day. Then 70.

Rome wasn’t built in one day. Sometimes it can take time. Try to beat your record each time. As long as you are getting closer, you are doing good.

You can try out different places on different attempts and figure out the best time / place and so on. To get a feel for it.

If you practice it a bit you will definitely get closer to the optimal approach, but I did it on first try, so it is doable. I see the smaller challenges of 30, 50 or 70 as more of a thing for people for whom it feels too scary, just to see that it is not unimaginable.

Overall, this is about all you need to know to do the challenge. Good luck.

Challenge accepted

Get a job lol.

Bummer, I've never approached 100 girls in a day before. I guess I don't have my Ph.D. in cold approach lol.

All jokes aside though, good job man if you've done this. 100 Approaches in a day is pretty crazy.

Edit: I feel like a dick for making fun of this guide. Good work man.

^ He's done this. As he wrote at the top, 122 girls in 12 hours.

@Coolguy: glad you wrote this. It's really fucking good. I said this to you a few months ago when you said something along the lines "I can't write because I'm not fully qualified" - you (and all of your future readers) would benefit massively from you starting a website.

At some point I'll be writing a guide about "It's All Just a Numbers Game". I'll reference and link to this post in it.

Dude, I entered to Gll just to comment on your log about this topic and I saw this post.

Have you read or know anything about peak performance by Steven Kotler? I think it relates a lot to the 'state' you experienced while doing the challenge.

I'm tempted to try the challenge. I've done 10 high fives in 3 minutes in the past so in theory, it should be 'possible' to do 100 approaches in less than 12 hours. I've done 8 approaches in ~1h a couple of weeks ago, but I lack consistency cause it is not my number 1 goal.

One question that has been in my mind in the past few months is why people can do a lot of approaches while doing the AA program but very few when they are 'real'. I think that something magic happens when the goal instead of being 'hope she gives me her number!' Is 'let's fucking break a world record!'.

Attached a video related: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Yrd_YEvT2HI#

Social fear is close to fear of death. So in many ways cold approaching feels like a extreme sport. So we can experience 'peak state' that can help improve our quality of life without actually putting our life in risk

Have you read or know anything about peak performance by Steven Kotler? I think it relates a lot to the 'state' you experienced while doing the challenge.

Social fear is close to fear of death. So in many ways cold approaching feels like a extreme sport.

Attached a video related:

What he says make sense. I definitely experienced flow while doing the challenge, it describes it perfectly. The idea of pushing beyond normal to the point it seems almost impossible, the idea of stopping self-judgement and entering the state. It all makes sense, I've definitely experienced that.

One question that has been in my mind in the past few months is why people can do a lot of approaches while doing the AA program but very few when they are 'real'. I think that something magic happens when the goal instead of being 'hope she gives me her number!' Is 'let's fucking break a world record!'.

I think it has to do with the mindset. People see the joke approaches as just clowning around so they are easy. Doing actual approaches forces you to get into a more "serious" mode and that can put weight on people's shoulders, as they don't feel like they have the excuse of "I'm just doing it for the laughs" and they expect to actually get laid from it, get results. Real approaches are more high stakes than joke approaches, and require more investment and you get slightly more tired from them, doesn't mean you can't do them efficiently though. People just need to get good and change the mindset.

@Coolguy: glad you wrote this. It's really fucking good. I said this to you a few months ago when you said something along the lines "I can't write because I'm not fully qualified" - you (and all of your future readers) would benefit massively from you starting a website.

Thanks a lot. I've given it a thought and I am sure at this point I have good things to say and I can do it. That said, I don't feel it is a priority right now as I have other projects. If I ever got into coaching, which I still need to get better for to consider myself qualified, that website would make more sense. Right now, sharing these thoughts on the forum is good enough. I do however think I might do a website in the future, right now I am focused on some other stuff.