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Part of the message is hidden for the guests. Please log in or register to see it. Hey everyone so I lurk around and post a few things read posts but I'm curious if hitting the numbers game is still the way to go given my situation. Just curious what people think.
I know that there are risks and such and I've hit the numbers game fairly hard but my town has roughly 180,000 and the college is like 20,000+ so should I be worried about getting a reputation from hitting the numbers game too hard and should I adjust since my town has this amount of people? Should I only be hitting on 20 girls total a week day plus nighttime and make sure I'm 50 percent sure they would say yes. But summers coming so most girls will leave as well as graduate so maybe its ok to do 35-50 only because most will be gone.
I did get in some trouble last year for hitting the numbers game too hard but I think its because well some girls I hit on twice and others I was a little too aggressive. Funny enough it was from daytime. But I think I'll do what hunk said and just be the nicest most masculine guy and slowly build touching back slowly.
I'm gonna take a trip to LA in the summer so hopefully I'll be able to hit the numbers game there. Part of the message is hidden for the guests. Please log in or register to see it.
Ok like warm approaches you know eye contact so not like straight cold approaches so my odds are better so to speak. I like playing the numbers game I'm perfectly fine with hitting on 50 girls in a week. I'm not trying to take the easy way out.
I'm just wondering if in a town of 180,000 people is playing the numbers game the smart way, should I be doing 35+ approaches a week and not care or should I stick to like 15-20 and play it a little safe. Because of reputation and stuff like that could it negatively effect future approaches.
I've gotten like 10+ txts of girls saying "my Rm has your number" which how could I know.
Like if I lived in a city of 600,000+ metro and 1.5 milli+ greater Metropol I wouldn't care I'd hit the paint as hard as possible. When I took a trip to LA I did 110 approaches in like 6 days so I like hitting the numbers game. Just given my circumstances thats all.
I can't tell you what YOU should do, because that's just a matter of what you want. If I were transplanted into your body, I'd do 20 or so a week. Honestly I wouldn't ever be in that situation, though, because I'd never move to a city with less than 500,000 people
EDIT: and because I've never chosen to put myself in that situation, I really have no idea what'll happen. I've definitely had the "my girlfriend has your number" experience, too, but it sounds like I had it less often than you. Either way I doubt the world will explode, you just might occasionally run into girls who don't like you, and then you'll feel a little bad about it.
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Odds are not better for cold vs warm. I (and my other mates who get laid) have never found it makes any difference at all.
Your entire post is just asking us permission to do what you want to do, and you've avoided my question. I'll ask again:
Do you want to get laid more than anything else, or do you want to avoid rocking the boat?
There's no right or wrong answer, but be honest with yourself. If the answer is "I want to avoid rocking the boat", then say that. Nobody's going to judge you - it's your life and you can do what you like. But take a minute to figure out what your priority is - getting laid a lot, or avoid getting a reputation?
You can't have both - if you want to get laid a lot and be a player, you can't worry about your rep. If you worry about your rep, it'll SIGNIFICANTLY hinder how much you get laid (you aren't going to bang 1 new girl a week if you're worried about rocking the boat).
Yeah I think its time for me to move BIB. But I'll give it a shot and report back as to what happens. I think there is no way around getting a reputation. Its funny I've heard girls say "Oh god theres that guy I met on tinder" except with me it'll be "oh god theres that guy who hit on me."
Yeah its me just being a bit of a puss but as far as I can tell I'm one of the only guys doing daytime and nighttime is somewhat but its usually people meet on tinder or social circles in my town as far as I can tell
Yeah BIB its always funny when girls text me "my RM has your number get a new tactic" that I just laugh for a good five min realizing just how small this world is.
Always wanted to push the threesome idea but I know its like a 1% chance. I've done it in person a few times put my arms around two girls asking if they are single they point at the other one and I say "well lets go back to my place and get some drinks" has yet to work. Bummer.
Thanks for the advice guys I'll probably start a log and get back to you guys. I only do cold approach because online just never did it for me.
yeah I see girls I've approached and they either glare at me in which case I smile or don't look at me in which case I just walk by I try not to hit on girls twice but sometime I forget
My opinion comes from living in a VERY SIMILAR college town w/ almost exact numbers:
Do not cold approach massive amounts of girls in a small environment. If you're enrolled or not, makes no difference.
You will quickly go from "some guy" to "that guy." Now, imagine that "that guy" isn't even a student. "That guy" just became "that creepy, loser guy."
If you're going to be on a college campus, you'd better have a reason for being there if you plan on using the campus for the majority of your approaches.
If you're a student, approach a few a day as you're going about your daily business, between classes, lunch, etc. Natural approaches that are non predatory.
If you're not a student and on a college campus w/o any real reason for being there, everything you're doing eventually becomes predatory. At first you're some guy, then you're "that guy," then you're "that creepy guy that's hitting on girls."
Think about it, some guy walking around a campus every day and he's not a student. The girls have seen you passing them before. You strike up a conversation and you're "just taking a walk," or whatever. At best it's lame; at worst it's creepy-loser behavior.
Yes, you can lie, but then you're setting yourself up for self hatred, as any success you have is based upon a false premise. Not as issue if you're a psychopath. I'm not a psychopath, and relationships based upon a foundation of deception just aren't my thing.
I did it for a while, and then came to my senses and stopped.
Not a student? Living on / near a campus and walking around every day hitting on girls? No reason to be there other than the ones you're making up? I ended up in Self Hatred Mode as the lameness of my existence came crashing down on me.
Side note: it wasn't all for nothing. I'm preparing articles on how to get laid w/ a lot of college girls while not being a college student. It does involve having a reason to be on campus (bartender at a college bar), living as close to the bar as possible (walking distance), after parties, etc. It's more lifestyle and occupation based than the cold approach thing we do here at GLL. I learned the hard way and it fucked me up for a while (again, that's another post). Before I do any of this, I will invite GLL moderators to stay at my place to confirm I'm legit (extra bedroom for visitors), then posting my epic tutorials. Until then...
Remember: DO NOT MASS APPROACH ON CAMPUS OR YOU'LL QUICKLY BECOME "THAT GUY."
I could write a long assed post about my time doing it, but the above cliffnotes should be enough.
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Ok Andy I read your thing and I don't mind rocking the boat I just worry that if I approach an excess of x girls will it negatively impact future approaches because I live in the town that I do. Like I said if I lived in New York LA Seattle Portland I wouldn't be asking this question
Rune ok yeah last year did a shitload of on campus approaches and I've decided to not do more than 7 a week if that and to be very unaggressive. This year the majority of my approaches have been at the bar, grocery stores, little bit at the mall , coffee shops and target. I used to be a student at the college so like a lot of people know me and probably still think that I go to the college so I have some bases covered but I have stopped using as my bread and butter. Got a number today though so bit of an ego boost.
What would you consider mass approaching? And how many daytime approaches + nighttime would you consider I think BIB saying 20+ per week is a good amount not too much but enough to get your foot in the door.
And last year and even now I think some girls see me as "that guy" Its funny I was at the gym there were 4 girls at a table and I had hit on 3 of them so. And your right on campus approaches are like a loaded gun if a girl cries wolf its her word against yours and that is difficult.
I am naturally aggressive and assertive so I have to be careful about that. Its funny rune we may even live in the same town I'm on the west coast.
I agree but theres so much reputation stuff on campus thats the only problem and the circles are tight and hitting on none available chicks can trigger creep vibe which of course how can you know if they are not available till you talk to them.
I'm a decent looking guy I do get compliments but theres the factor that I can't control her availability.
But once again its the amount of people in LA theres so many UCLA and USC girls that its ok to hit the number game hard. Oh I'll be in LA this summer I'll tell you what happens NSA.
But its weird like I was at the grocery store approached this girl she was "creeped out" and couldn't take a compliment and so I just acted relaxed and like I didn't care and I shit you not 5 min later she walks up to me in line and asks if I want her number.
I will admit there is a part of me that is definitely overthinking but there is a part of me that wants to be smart about it. I mean even hunk was called a creep and he's a good looking guy and got laid a lot but he was also in a bigger town with a bigger college and he didn't do on campus approaches.
But got a number so I'll tell you guys if it goes anywhere. Number 131(not lay) or something .
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