TOPIC: Every Girl I Meet Is Forcing Me to Compete With Multiple Guys

I live in a smallish town and the supply of hot, single 20 something girls is unusually low.

Most times when I party with new social circle girls (hot 20somethings) they go out of their way to pit me against other guys. The first time I tried to be "loyal" to the female friend.

This latest time (halloween) I gave the girl a taste of her own medicine. Girl involved is this girl:

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...b-grinding-etiquette

She saw several girls approach me right in front of her, multiple girls eyeing me and I also approached girls on my own. (I was not in costume btw).

Some random guy had approached her and she was talking and dancing with him. I wandered off and left her alone to do whatever she decided. So I wandered off and sat at the bar facing the crowd. Two very hot girls (blonde 9, brunette 9) literally walked into my lap while I was seated. I chatted up the blonde and started grinding with her for a bit. The girl in my social circle was staring the entire time watching, ignoring the guy who had approached her.

She came back and reapproached maybe 4 or 5x grabbing me by the shoulders asking.

"Hey, don't drink too much ok?"

"Boom, Aaron went home." (random male friend from our group)

"Is everything ok? I don't want to lose you boom"

"I'm leaving with this, other guy"

5 minutes later:

"hi boom I'm back!"

She goes off to the bathroom. Returns and silently reengages grabbing me by the shoulders. I ignore her. I know she wants to draw me into a long competition with this random guy which I was not feeling at all.

She leaves.

This morning, she blows up my phone multi texting asking me to text her so she knows I made it home safe and saying it was great I had so much fun.

I sent her a generic note back saying it was fun. Should I text for a "date?" It seems like she is wanting to feel her own hotness with as many guys competing for her as possible, which is not something I am willing to be a part of.

Why didn't you dance with her trying to get closer and eventually go for the kiss.
You wouldn't be wondering where she stands if you did it

Edit: Also, if EVERY GIRL YOU MEET is treating you this way it is probably about you not her. Instead of playing "their" games you should be making an effort to be a little more physically assertive.

Schwifted wrote: Why didn't you dance with her trying to get closer and eventually go for the kiss.
You wouldn't be wondering where she stands if you did it

We danced as a group a little bit but she wandered off a few feet. I wasn't going to chase her. Plus, her trying to get me to compete against other guys was a turn-off, quite frankly.

edit: yeah, I did dance closely with her early on, hugging and dancing she put her hand on my chest more like a push than rest on my chest so I backed off.

I noticed that almost all your posts are very braggadocios about how many girls are apparently checking you out, but none of these stories actually end in you getting laid. Can we see what you look like?

I believe I am a good looking guy. However, I feel like women treat me like a 10. I don't feel like a 10. I won't post a picture. I would like to keep my anonymity.

I try to objective and detailed, but even when I try to keep things concise my posts I recognize are unusually long since I want include relevant details. Coolguy was skeptical as well so I respect that. Dismiss whatever you think is implausible or fictitious in your opinion and respond accordingly.

To answer your original question: yes you should text her for a date. And start making moves on these hoes already smh

Post a pic of just your body or at least put a bar over your eyes.

I live in a smallish town and the supply of hot, single 20 something girls is unusually low.

You should consider moving if your population is anything under 100,000 and you should look to relocate for sure if you're in a town with 50,000 or less.

Lastly, like NSA text her for a date and/or make a move next time. Stop playing games and shit, grab her by the hand and say lets go outside to chat. Then take home.

I feel like there's a propensity for guys on here to micro-analyze everything. Stick to the concepts on the site already outlined and hit on more girls. Your case isn't special or different. I should take this advice as well cause sometimes I do it too despite not writing paragraphs about it on this site.

"I feel like women treat me like a 10."

then

"I try to be objective"

Were you just exaggerating in the first sentence I highlighted, or do you legitimately think women treat you like a 10?

If women treated you like a 10, they'd be begging to suck your dick (like they do with legitimate 10's - rappers, rock stars, Justin Bieber type celebs, etc)

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Remember nobody's going to take you seriously or even try to help you if you don't have any pics of yourself in any way.

Not much to add, but in short

1) Move out of your small town ASAP, that should be a priority
2) Be direct and escalate quicker on girls, that way you won't have to deal with the "competition", you'll know right away if she is down or not
3) Post pics, if you are on the member's forum normal people can't find it + you can delete it after a few days. We need to see how you look to give advice

That's it.

killtheinnerloser wrote: "I feel like women treat me like a 10."

then

"I try to be objective"

Were you just exaggerating in the first sentence I highlighted, or do you legitimately think women treat you like a 10?

If women treated you like a 10, they'd be begging to suck your dick (like they do with legitimate 10's - rappers, rock stars, Justin Bieber type celebs, etc)

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Remember nobody's going to take you seriously or even try to help you if you don't have any pics of yourself in any way.

I talked about this issue with others on the forum. I won't be posting a photo but obviously it's up to any of you as individuals as to whether to take posts seriously without photos. You don't have to of course, and I have no problem with that.

As far as 'feeling like a 10', yeah, I do often feel like a 10, esp. during peak of game season, which is spring and summer. Examples below from another post. They don't verbally say "I wanna suck your cock" but they behave in every other way to communicate their intent.

The first two were out oft owners. Tall, thin, hot girls. One of them began dancing by my side, bumping into me repeatedly. Then she began staring at me and singing to me. Then she rested her head on my shoulder. Then she took off her glasses, and her jacket and her sweater in front of me.

Then, two more girls, one of them sticking her butt in my crotch by taking the stool immediately in front of me, staring and smiling into my eyes. Then, two more girls grinding together immediately by my side.

Schwifted wrote: Why didn't you dance with her trying to get closer and eventually go for the kiss.
You wouldn't be wondering where she stands if you did it

Edit: Also, if EVERY GIRL YOU MEET is treating you this way it is probably about you not her. Instead of playing "their" games you should be making an effort to be a little more physically assertive.

I'll try to explain it in this way. Girls tend to get nervous around me. Meaning, they don't feel comfortable talking to me or interacting with me. However, they feel comfortable talking and interacting with every other guy.

So, if they have 1 or 2 or 3 other guys to talk to while I am present, they feel more at ease. There is nothing to lose, these guys don't make them anxious. The problem is, I feel like I'm being ignored (which I am). So, I get confused about whether these girls even like me. So I'm not likely to make a move. In turn, the girl is unsure whether I like her, and so she resorts to talking to other guys even more. So then I just I get frustrated and basically just give up trying or abandon the girl and talk to other girls.

As you can tell, verbal communication is something I really enjoy, as you can tell from the length of these posts. Without establishing some commonalities and rapport in conversation, it's hard at least for me to develop strong feelings for a girl.

I have an embarrassingly strong crush on one girl in particular after I talked to her for about an hour. Maybe it sounds sappy to you guys, but thats the way I am.

All I see man is you make movies in your head because you do not PHYSICALLY SCREEN HER.

Everything which you said are all an interpretation based on your inexperience and that's OK as long as you try to make efforts in the physical assertiveness department.