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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 21:03 #305521

I have 10 lays(best of these turned into LTRs), average quality == 4.95 (yes, I actually calculated).
I can start conversations on tinder and get laid fairly easy but just with 4-6s(they even message me first sometimes). Takes talking to ~20 girls to get lay.

I feel very unrelaxed talking with 7s+. I feel my pictures are too good/old and she will be disappointed in real life. I feel she is chatting with 20 8+ chads and I am just embarrassing myself.

All 10 lays were on the first date, once I see that girl likes me I become another person. I have good killer instinct.
10 lays came from meeting 12 girls.

I am 6'2, average face white guy. Fairly skinny with some muscle. I know a long-term solution is to improve my looks and I am working on that.
Anyway, I quit tinder and dropped my "5" fuckbuddy because I am done with low-quality women. I have no interest in chasing them anymore.

Problem? I can't approach at all in real life. AT ALL.

Best I can do is ask working girl in a shop where some product is. In comparison, I don't feel nervous when going on tinder date with a 5.
I read GLL's AA program and can't do that. It seems even worse(harder) than just approaching.

To finish: thoughts that I get when I should approach:
- I don't look good enough(tired, bad hair, sweaty...)
- she probably has boyfriend somewhere around,
- she is too ugly
- She probably doesn't like me, I will run out of things to say and it will be beyond embarrassing
- she is way too hot for me - gee I would die for this girl :)

WTF is wrong with me?

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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 21:16 #305522

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Nothing is wrong with you all your excuses are just your AA speaking. If you cant get yourself to start with week 1 of the AA program (ie. asking a girl the time) then you better learn to accept that you wont get any HOT girls because hot girls DONT approach guys and unless you have a extremly good online dating profile you wont get them on there either. Thats the harsh truth bro.
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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 21:38 #305526

Dude of COURSE you think you can’t do the AA program.

Can you do week 1? Answer me honestly. Can you complete week 1 of the AA program?
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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 21:38 #305527

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Troll

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...osing-anxiety#305510

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...s-approaching#305502
If you remain a slave to how you feel, you're not going to accomplish much. Scotty

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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 22:13 #305528

I think I saw these or threads like that and it inspired me to start my thread (similar issues). Not sure why anyone would troll with problems like this.

Schwifted wrote: Troll

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...osing-anxiety#305510

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...s-approaching#305502

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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 22:22 #305529

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Schwifted wrote: Troll

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...osing-anxiety#305510

www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/how-to-p...s-approaching#305502


Y schwifted idk why would one write a 30 min post to waste 1 min of your time :D

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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 22:44 #305531

He's not a troll, but he is lost.

That's how we all ended up here, though.
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My mental issues :) 09 Jul 2018 23:26 #305538

menery wrote: Nothing is wrong with you all your excuses are just your AA speaking. If you cant get yourself to start with week 1 of the AA program (ie. asking a girl the time) then you better learn to accept that you wont get any HOT girls because hot girls DONT approach guys and unless you have a extremly good online dating profile you wont get them on there either. Thats the harsh truth bro.


So true. Either I do this or accept to live with the consequences of inaction.

Bad Idea Bear wrote: Dude of COURSE you think you can’t do the AA program.

Can you do week 1? Answer me honestly. Can you complete week 1 of the AA program?


I already tried years ago (before getting into LTR) but just couldn't start. It's easy in my head but when it comes time to do the actual approach I freeze completely. I tell myself that this is not me, that I can't do it, that it doesn't matter and all the other mental excuses I listed in the first post.

AA program gives me additional excuses like: Who asks for time these days when everyone has phone? Why am trying to make myself look like a clown...

Actually, the only time I was able to do a few approaches was when I went out with 2 local PUAs and it was my turn and I couldn't risk embarrassing myself in front of them :) I still remember though, I thought my heart will jump out of my chest.

But I will try again.
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My mental issues :) 10 Jul 2018 00:24 #305539

Ok here's what you do:

Try day 1 of the program over and over and over and over and over again until you can do it easily.

I promise you it will get easier from there. Personal promise, sincerely, Dan.

There's no fucking way you are ready to approach if you can't even ask a girl for the time. I'll admit that the AA program is a little outdated, and the time stuff doesn't make as much sense as it used to. But you need to try it, or you'll never get where you wanna go.
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My mental issues :) 10 Jul 2018 00:40 #305540

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My bad lol.

@op : you ended up in the right place.
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My mental issues :) 10 Jul 2018 01:16 #305541

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The goal of the AA program is not to bang the girls, it says several times that you DON'T have to turn the drills into approaches.

So relax, you are technically not trying to get a date, number or her pussy.

All you think is normal.
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