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I'm just wondering if you find that warm weather opens people up more and makes them friendly. Here in Canada, a nice summer day makes a significant difference in how people talk to each other, it's extraordinary.
I was thinking about moving to a warm place soon like in the United States. I'm getting sick of Canadian climate, it's so unpleasant sometimes.
I grew up on the East Coast (Alabama until I was 10, then Virginia), then I moved out to Cali a little over 5 years ago for work. Virginia was very seasonal: hot and muggy as shit in the summer, pretty cold (just enough to snow) in the winter. However I've only been doing this talking to strangers thing since I've been in LA, so I don't know how much of a difference it makes. More people are outside around here more often, so it provides more opportunities.
I can't stand cold weather. Frankly in a place like Canada I'd probably be the one who didn't want to talk to people. That was a problem for me in college. During winter I never wanted to go to parties because I knew I'd have to walk home freezing my ass off. You should come visit somewhere like SoCal or Texas,, it might convince you to pull the trigger.
Did the usual grocery store run today. All girls screened out by "are you single". I basically repeated in the video what I said in the previous post. I still feel like I'm on acid from sleep deprivation and being overworked. Probably not gonna make it out to bars tonight, I should just get a good night's sleep instead to gear up for this weekend. No excuses tomorrow or Saturday though. I can feel as physically shitty as ever, I'm going all out. I'll drink a fucking gallon of coffee and toss 9 pills of Gorilla Mind if I have to. Oh, speaking of which, I got some ephedrine. Frankly it's not as powerful as I expected, but it gives me a good rush. Might try a double dose tomorrow. I am powered by stimulants right now, cannot function without them. I need a washout soon.
Probably gonna end the fat loss dieting now. I'm pretty lean anyways, estimates are putting me at just below 10% but visually I'm starting to show signs of approaching 8%. Cheek dimples are appearing, abs are pretty well defined. Probably not much point in sticking out another week when I feel so severely drained already.
This ended up being a long-ass video, over 20 minutes. For anyone who doesn't like their ears to be soothed by my buttery voice for so long...
...I'm in Santa Monica. I'm immediately sold and I'm going to start the process of moving here. I did manage to approach 3 girls on the street last night, that's a far cry from my plan to spend hours out approaching. I also didn't go out at night to bars/clubs. Big waste of a day I think. Ultimately I just failed and didn't execute and that's all there is to say, but the now severe physical exhaustion I've had for about a week is obviously compounding things. I hate whining and bitching, so I'd rather just state what I'm going to do about it.
Most of this video I spent recapping the fact that my pattern of coming to GLL for a few months, chasing pussy usually until I get laid once, then disappearing for 3-6 months while I don't even open up Tinder, is correlated perfectly with my dieting. I always come to GLL as I finish a "bulk" and feel super energized, motivated and horny, right as I start a "cut", and last about 8 weeks before I physically crash, then quit and spend some amount of time (worst was early 2017 when it was two straight months) of being literally bedridden outside of work until I get fed up, give up on dieting and finally recover everything (and often get fat again). Rinse and repeat.
Thank God I finally put this all together, because last year when I didn't know yet what was going on, I was really scared and depressed. I owe a lot of my understanding of things to the great
I crashed a week ago, just on queue as it's now 9 weeks into straight dieting with no breaks (last break was last half of February). The diet is ending immediately, I am refeeding with no intermittent fasting (breakfast as soon as I get up), at least 150g of carbs per day, and maintenance calories. I'm not waiting for the SARM cycle to end, which is probably better anyways. It's now my highest priority to recover physically. I've learned now to never go more than 8 weeks at most in a high deficit (6 weeks is probably better), it's not worth it. After a 2-4 week break I'll do another 6 week diet cycle, or two, to reach 6%. It will take about a week to start feeling completely normal, but I'm already feeling a little better at least. Gonna rely on discipline as best I can during that week to keep up with approaching and pursuing my get laid in the next 30 days goal.
Right now I'm heading out the door to spend the afternoon hitting on girls on the streets of Santa Monica.
Thats why I don't like the GLL fat loss diet at all. Especially, since it has already been solved by countless of real fitness experts (Brad Schoenfeld, Eric Helms, Dr. Mike Israetel, Fitness Youtubers like Omar Isuf, etc.) how to diet to 8-10% body fat without crashing yourself.
Because it's more populated and there's a lot more foot traffic. Unfortunately I didn't go out to bars/clubs so I'll need to take an Uber up there one night soon to scope out the nightlife.
I recorded some videos earlier this week but they aren't really worth posting IMO, I'm basically just repeating myself a lot by this point. What's newsworthy is I got a very hot girl's number at Target on Sunday, and another girl's number at Whole Foods on Tuesday, who seemed pretty interested in meeting up. I haven't followed up with either yet though. That deserves an explanation.
In addition to being run down from hardcore dieting, which I ended last Sunday, I used this week to do a caffeine washout. Monday was brutal, first day I've gone without caffeine in I think 8 months of more, and I've been chugging caffeine for months now. I had an excruciating headache (so bad it made me nauseated for a couple of hours), and was so sleepy I was dozing off while sitting up in a chair at work. Tuesday, Wednesday and yesterday I slept an absurd amount, I passed out at work, as soon as I got home, through most of the evenings. Didn't do any approaching Wednesday, yesterday or today. Today I at least managed to keep myself awake through the day.
This has made me depressed and anxious about not getting out there and trying to get laid. It's making me worry my AA is going to come back, but I'm so exhausted and physically worn out I haven't been able to drag my ass out to do any approaching. I'm sure I'll be fine, the anxiety is really just drive to not keep wasting time. Overall I just need to chill out (this has all been stressing me out a lot), and accept that I needed a week of rest.. I've also taken the week off from the gym completely, and that is deliberate. It's all based on this:
I need to stop pushing myself physically without any breaks for such long periods of times, and getting myself into these ruts that can last a few weeks. I won't talk too much about that now, since it isn't primarily related to approaching, I'll just say briefly I'm going to start taking "full breaks" like this week from all physical activity and dieting no less than every six weeks. That's about how long I last before I crash and start feeling awful.
As I always say though, discipline is going to become important here. For better or worse, I took the week to mostly sleep and relax in bed after work, and I've gotten into the habit of doing this. It's going to feel uncomfortable to get myself back out there even after giving myself the physical rest I need. I cannot "wait" to feel "ready" to get back out there, I need to just do it. Tomorrow I am committing to doing daytime approaches for at least an hour, follow up with both of those numbers I got, get on Tinder and message all my new matches, and go out to bars for at least an hour. I'm supposed to avoid all stimulants until this Monday, but frankly I'll break that if I feel like I need it to get all that done. We'll see. Honestly I'm debating how necessary the caffeine break was. It proved I was strongly dependent, but who the fuck cares. I am so much more productive when I douse myself in stimulants, caffeine is readily available anywhere, and it never stopped working, it just took more than it did six months ago to have an effect (frankly not that much more).
I've had my rest, and it's time to get back on the field. I'm going to start tomorrow by cleaning my room (it's a pigsty right now) and taking care of any outstanding errands I have, then I'm making a vow to stay the fuck out of my bed until it's time to go to sleep. Like I said it's not about "feeling like" getting off my ass. The motivation follows the action. I miss the excitement of everything from just a couple weeks ago from putting myself out there, day approaching, even more night game, and I'm really eager to get back to it.
My #1 Goal Is Still To Get Laid in the Next 30 Days
(To adjust for the last lay, let's say by the end of May)
Caffeine can be pretty addictive. Quitting cold turkey can be a painful few days. I'd recommend tapering off caffeine over a week or so instead of going cold turkey in the future. I take a break from it a few times a year and try to avoid increasing my dosage regularly. It becomes a lot less effective for me once I've built up a good tolerance.
Item 1 is done! Took a long ass time but whatever. Don’t underestimate the importance of keeping a clean room. I’ve many times avoided hanging out with girls because I didn’t want to bring them back to a pigsty. On the other hand, one time I did bring a girl back to a pigsty and it didn’t matter, it’s all in my head. Makes me feel better about myself though.
I need to get into the habit of making my bed when I get up every morning. That will keep me from getting in bed and using my laptop during the day.
Recap of daytime approaches for today. I did the "most challenging" approach I've ever done, three girls, all very hot, struck up a conversation with all of them and held it for a few minutes, then asked for the hottest girl's number right in front of the other two. She wouldn't give it to me, but I was happy with my big balls .
I made a video on Monday but I don't think I'm gonna post it. It's just me bitching for over 10 minutes about a bunch of nonsense.
Some good news: I did a few approaches on Sunday, got a very hot girl's number, and she texted me today (without me texting first) asking me if I have an Instagram, then sent me a pic of herself. That's a nice ego stroke.
Here's the deal. I fell into the same trap of making up physical ailments to get myself off the hook for being disciplined and allowing myself to indulge my whims and be lazy. I let the "baby" inside of me take over, and now I'm at its mercy. I've had enough and it's time to stop pussydickin' around here.
post I put it my log last June. It's the exact same thing. The exact same cycle I fall into. Not this time. I'm not falling for this shit again.
Blah blah blah I dieted too hard, I'm having SARM post-cycle side effects, blah blah. None of that is testable (maybe the post-cycle effects are, but I haven't gotten my testosterone tested), and it's all an open-ended excuse to goof off. It's all just a bunch of words. It's defeatist victim mentality avoidance of responsibility.
I'm not going to say one more word about "feeling" fatigued or whatever. I'm banning the use of that kind of language to describe my life. It doesn't matter anyways. I drill other people on this forum about the same thing, why don't I hold myself t the same standard? I dieted too hard? Oh please. I went and got a DEXA scan on Friday. I lost no lean mass since January. The problem was I only lost 10 lb of fat (over 16 weeks, that's a measly ~0.6 lb/week). That's not hard dieting. Here's a little nugget of authenticity I haven't shared. Anywhere from once per week to once per two weeks I did a full day fast and gorged on a huge meal I ordered from GrubHub (Indian food was my shit lately). Additionally, I didn't count how often I did this, but on the regular after eating dinner I would go to the kitchen and start eating spoonfuls of peanut butter and honey. I didn't track it. That easily could have been 500+ calories. I didn't stay consistent with cardio.
"Slowed metabolism"? BULL SHIT! I cheated and cut corners, then I made an excuse to quit entirely. Diet breaks every 6 weeks is probably a good idea. But that's another issue, apart from me getting lazy again. I know what the problem is. I completely lost discipline. It was almost 4 weeks ago. I took 2 weeks to do a planned break from weightlifting and dieting. But that's long over and now I just feel "unmotivated". Who cares. I forgot that
motivation doesn't matter
Time for another 30 Days of Discipline. I'm going to Vegas tomorrow until Monday, for EDC. That will be a good "end" to this era where I can take a little vacation and reset (however, I'm there to Get Laid, so I have to keep that in mind). When I get back, every day:
Wake up, get out of bed, make my bed, take a cold shower.
Spend time putting together a solid outfit, take a picture of it and share it on my style guide (unless it's a repeat)
Eat breakfast before going to work, not picking it up on the way
Lift weights starting at 11am unless I have meetings then (not typical), No more procrastinating until the afternoon.
Non-lifting days, do fasted cardio at 11am and eat breakfast afterward.
After workouts, shower, Bathmate, full grooming to look my best.
Immediately after work (no pit stop at home first), at least 3 approaches per day, rain or shine (I don't care if I feel like death). More is always better. This is why I need looks and style MAXED during the day, so I don't have to go home.
Text every number you got the day before. Do this as I start the day approaches. Any responsive girls, invite them to get a drink that night, be prepared for them to say yes.
No more giant restaurant meals or uncontrolled pleasure eating. I deleted GrubHub from my phone, and threw all the peanut butter and other shit in my apartment away. More frequent small meals instead. Log everything I eat. If I have to guess, it's better than nothing.
Half an hour of online every night from 9-9:30.
Three nights out to bars every week. Get out there between 11 and 11:30.
I printed out the list of daily stuff, plus things to avoid, and taped copies of it in multiple places around my room and bathroom.
The less time I spent doing what I "feel" like doing, the better. Every moment of the day is for a purpose. There is always something to do, and my previous idea of "do my #1 goal or do nothing" backfired. How about I just work on my #1 goal?
Which, reminder, is to get laid again by the end of May.
I miss the high of life I was on for the last few months and I'm sick of the comfortable depression I've been stuck in the last few weeks. I'm going to post updates here as frequently as I can to keep myself accountable. I might be mostly off the grid until next Monday during EDC. I have to reorient myself to doing things because they need to be done, not because I feel like it.
Anyone else who is dealing with similar focus/motivation/energy issues, trust me: feeling energetic and motivated follows consistent action, not the other way around. That's the key to all of this. You need to stop believing that you can "make" yourself "feel" like taking action (which includes believing you have made-up physical ailments that can't be detected with concrete tests), and start believing that the only way to stop feeling that lethargic "eh" attitude toward everything is to start taking action.
This is true for low libido too. That's another complaint I've had, having no desire to have sex. I'll bet money on this right fucking now. The most effective way to raise libido is to get some pussy.
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I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
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