TOPIC: The Redshirt Year

Welcome to my first cold approach log! Aptly titled:

The Redshirt Year
(Featuring Sweatervest)

For those who don't get the reference, see here: www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/index/shut...rookie-redshirt-year

The goal for now is 20 girls/week. Results are not as important as consistency, progress and growth. Currently I am only "counting" an approach if I make it asking for a number. If a girl cuts me off or mentions a significant other before that I don't count it. Also this is only for daytime approaches. For nighttime my goal is 3 nights/week out. I don't currently feel a need to set an approach number for nighttime because there are plenty of opportunities and I tend to take them pretty well. If this becomes an issue I'll set a quota there too.

I’ll cover online dating here too instead of making another thread. Goal there is 1 hour/day of doing online (swiping or working on my profile). Since I have experience there, chances are my next lay(s) will come from online. I shouldn’t neglect that especially in the beginning because it will get me some action while I hone my approaching skills.

For this first week, since I approached 9 girls as part of the Day 64 drill on Monday, I set a goal of 15 girls by the end of tomorrow. I reached that goal today, but I'm planning on doing 3 more approaches tomorrow.

04/10/18

3 approaches, 0 numbers

Really proud of myself from putting my basket of stuff down at Target while in line to chase after a girl who just finished checking out.

04/12/18

6 approaches, 4 numbers

04/12/18 Night

1 approach, 1 number

Night started off not so great, then suddenly got good right as I was about to leave. Ended up making out with and grinding on a girl who was super into me.

04/14/18

7 approaches, 2 numbers

Just like previous night, started off shitty. Got “boyfriended” five times in a row plus a bunch of girls mentioned boyfriends before I asked for her number. Then a very sexy girl gave me her number, then another one after that who I approached in front of her friend.

Three times today I approached girls with friends. One didn’t count because she was rude and I left before asking for her number. She was average and maybe didn’t know how to handle a guy hitting on her, especially in front of her friend. Very very proud of myself for approaching girls in groups though!

I'm loving the motivation.

I suggest changing your goal from approaches to lays. Why? Because your goal is to fuck girls.

If your goal is to simply approach girls, then by all means continue with your approach goals.

Rooting for you brotha. Like the one step by step approach. Think this will help the community as well as Me. Its going to be cool to see the journey.

This is what its all about, Redshirt year. I feel like i'm on the same journey as you. I'm excited to see the prospects of what you're gonna be able to do. All the respect in the world to you dude, Tear it up

Good luck mate! I will follow you, I must also say that your style is tight as fuck.

04/14/18 Night

3 approaches, 2 numbers

04/15/18 Day

4 approaches, 2 numbers
First time approaching at the gym

Love these reports. HUGE motivation! And thank you for your AA debriefing video as well, extremely insightful as always. These videos are like my new favorite tv show lol.

04/16/18 Approaches

3 Approaches, 0 Numbers

Talked about this in the video: how should I respond to girls who say, "you're asking me a lot of questions" (after I ask them like 3 or 4 questions like "what are you up to" and "where are you from"), which has now happened I think 4 times, and how I don't know if this is bitchy or just teasing, or maybe the girl getting nervous and not knowing how to respond. Am I an asshole if I react to it? Thought about this some more, and decided it's definitely bitchy, and me even thinking something like, "I don't want to be an asshole" is "Nice Guy Syndrome" by definition. I don't even care why the girl says it, even if she likes me. I think it's a rude thing to say to a guy who just walked up to a girl an expressed interest in her, so I thought of the perfect thing to do:

Say, "wow, that was rude" and just stand there staring at her with a, "you fucking know I'm right" face until she says something or walks away. If she likes me she'll apologize and keep talking to me. I like that a lot more than making fun of her (i.e. "oh so for you, "a lot" means four?"), because it's just brutally authentic and, I think, very confident. She'll feel that way more than some petty insult.

The point is it's what I want to do, regardless of whether it's due to being overly sensitive since I'm just starting out with this. That's the thing though. If any of these girls ever mustered up the courage to go approach a guy she likes (i.e. never) and he said that to her she'd run home, cry, eat 10 tubs of ice cream and watch an entire saga of sad movies for the next week. She's either selfish or an idiot not caring/realizing how vulnerable a guys makes himself to approach her, so she completely deserves to spend the rest of the day knowing that the guy didn't take it and put her in her place.

Also NSA I addressed your suggestion in the video. This is not a good time to set lay goals from cold approach. It's too early for that. I need to spend every day trying my best. If I do that, I should call it a "success". I shouldn't call consistent effort "failure" because it hasn't gotten me laid yet. If I ask 20 girls/week for their numbers consistently, I'll get laid. I don't even know what I would do differently if I made my goal to get laid (because I'm inexperienced and don't know what more effective approaching would look/feel like). The only thing would be to approach more than 20 girls/week. If I get sexually frustrated I'll increase the weekly minimum. Approaches/week (where "approach" means actually asking for a number and to hang out) is a concrete goal I can measure and complete on a daily basis. It's also pretty standard around here for guys who just finished the AA program. Thanks for chiming in though, I know you want to see me get laid soon. I won't disappoint you .

Lol I would love a go at a cougar. You have my vote.

Also I think alot of the "bad mood" issues are because you aren't remembering that it's fine to not be smooth. Alot of the interactions aren't gonna go well, but there's no need to be upset about it, some girls are gonna give lukewarm reactions.
I mean you're a really young good looking dude who's being proactive and having more balls than most guys will ever have. Also you're being really assertive and telling girls that you like the way they look. If some girl gives you an unpleasant response that girl was probably a loser anyway and you should be glad she's out of the way so you can find the really fun ones you deserve.
Thats the kinda mindset you need to have, I think