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Yo, wtf I need some help, after motivating myself to go to the club I was hyped af in my car. Sang to the music and cried. (not crying tears or shit, crying to the music, some guys got that wrong )
So went into the club, danced with friends and I cried sometimes really loud and didn't care at all. It was funny, it seemed like my friend would shame himself a bit for me. He is also supershy and has huge sa. I was annoyed by him after a time.
Most of the time I lead the conversations between my friends and lead them to dancing on the bigger floor.
Then there was this one girl (social circle kinda), we danced with her and I talked with her basic stuff. At first she didnt seem interested, but then she started to get rly close to me and looked me into the eyes. She seemed cock hungry af. I touched her on the wraist and stuff and asked her if we are gonna drink something. I tried to grab her hand to lead her to the spot, but she denied her hand after short intervalls. She seemed to laugh about every stupid shit I was saying tho.
Went to annother floor, bought something and got in a dark spot. She was worried someone could see her hanging out with me and think she is a bitch and that her cousin beats guys up that kiss her. Fucking weird. I talked more with her, grabbed her on the wraist and ass and tried to starting to kiss her. She denied at first. She asked me if I would have the same feelings for her tomorrow, when I wasnt drunk altough I was sober. Tried again, she was wild. We stopped, she did again. I asked for her number, got it. Then she offered me her instagram, got it.
Then all of a sudden, IN THE MIDDLE OF THE KISS, she she said she gotta find her cousin and ran away...
I am fucking confused, what the hell? I think I kissed rly badly, it was my first time rly kissing a girl, could that have been the thing? I also talked a bunch of shit and kind of lost the control and didnt know what to answer about all the shit she threw at me. Well, after the failed attempt was also super unmotivated and couldnt take the lead in conversations anymore with friends, I didnt want to do shit anymore. I was a whole different person then.
My killer instinct absolutely wasnt there. I got a slight boner from time to time and in the back of my mind thought of how I should get her to fuck with me. But all in all, I should have been A LOT more sexually aroused, also when considering I am virgin and had my first real kiss. (hello low testosterone, seeing all this problems with the gym and my no existent killer instinct, low sex drive I think more and more is is the low test, I will probably get an appointment next week to check it again)
I regret having passed that chance, on my way back home parked the car for 15 minutes and thought about all the oppurtinieties I have letting gone also with other girls. It could have been so easy. Otherwise I should have been proud of myself, but I was 0%. My feelings/drive are so weird sometimes.
Yeah you are probably right. I still should have been more leading tho. Feel like she talked a bunch of shit and I shouldnt have gone into it.
I kind of didnt know what to do, the kissing hasnt felt that good that I wanted to do it all over again, on the other side I dodnt even feel an erotic vibe and wasnt urged to do dirty talk, altough that was probably rly important in that situation.
As I said there should have been a killer instinct, that just wasnt there, altough I fucking kissed her and grabbed her ass. I havent even felt that great desire to sleep with her. Fuck my hormones.
Yea man you did what you could, she seems like she likes to play games and is time waster..put it this way it wasn't what you did, yea you could of been a little more aggressive but she was making excuses and being weird I wouldn't get hung up on her.
Also try not to get hung up on one girl, I know it's a little difficult when you get rejected from a girl in your social circle. I don't try to game hard girls in my social circle if they're playing too many games, you're either into me or your not, too many bridges can be burned if you hardcore try to escalate.. now a stranger you can say whatever you want and guess what?? Never have to see them again
Thatguy1224 wrote: Also try not to get hung up on one girl
This. If you're escalating aggressively enough that you're making out with her, the only thing you could do better is try to take her out of there before asking for her number (get her number if/when she refuses to leave with you, then hit her up at closing time, if she doesn't answer hit her up again in a day or two).
All that time you spend chasing her around is time you could have spent hitting on other girls. If a girl starts wasting your time with a bunch of "maybe" shit, escalate even harder with the intention to get her to reject you if she isn't DTF. That's how you deal with "maybe". Remove it as an option by being so aggressive and moving so fast the only way she would stick around is if she's squarely in the "yes" category. With a girl like that, start leading her out of the bar, and if she leaves for any reason forget about her and hit on other girls.
Yeah definitely agree, if a girl is apart of your social circle though, I try not to get super aggressive she's gots to be a yes girl and be easy mode, I rather hit on some strange and not have to worry about burning bridges with friends and what not.
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