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Whats up fellow losers. Nick here. After reading Chad’s 30 Girls a Week thread, I’ve been inspired to do a similar challenge myself. Here’s a little background on myself real quick.
• I’m 25 years old and I found pickup almost exactly 1 year ago in early 2017/late 2016 after years of pathetic performance with women. Huge fan of Chris and GLL, its my only source for pickup material. Have read/watched/listened to almost all the articles/podcasts/videos by GLL
• Have always been the quintessential “Good Looking Loser,” girls were always into to me but I was such a pussy I almost never made a move and let dozens and dozens of girls slip through my life.
• Tagged 13 girls my first year of pickup, but quality was generally lacking and endured several cold streaks that lasted weeks.
• Very much half assed pickup my first year but after ending it with a girl recently I’ve regained focused and become fully committed to thing thing for the next year
• Live in a college bar town this is loaded with new sexy girls at the bar each weekend
• Have developed a killer instinct in the past year I never thought was possible. Used to be a pussy with girls but now I am extremely aggressive with them
• Looking to tag 25 high quality girls this year. That’s 2 month.
• Will only count girls that are 7 or above
• Will do mostly night game/work approaches (I’m a bartender) and some tinder
• One of the main reasons for this thread is to keep myself accountable and to document my emotions and thoughts and also share with you guys questionns/advice
First week: 10/25
-Went to the bar Thursday night and Saturday night (chilled with a fuckbuddy Friday night at my place)
Felt like I was so close to getting laid this weekend but no results to speak of. Thursday night I was feeling real good and approached this sexy big titted sorority girl. Within a few secs we were making out and I tried to get her home with me but she was with friends and didn’t want to leave. Got her # and went to another bar. Found a sexy blonde girl that was into me, her friend was like “go for it” so I knew it was definitely on. We were hooking up at the bar and I brought her and her friends back to a friends house nearby and we were all chilling there but she became cold and disinterested so I was like fuck this girl and bounced. Hit the big titted sority girl up Sat night to chill but she replied then ghosted.
Went out Saturday feeling good again and met some sexy girl at the bar that was into me. Was very aggressive, feeling her up and telling her all the shit I was gonna do to her. She was into me and but again with friends so we wouldn’t leave me me. Got her # and bounced. Met another girl at the next bar and was hooking up with her within a few seconds. Got her to leave her friends and come to another bar with me (should have just taken her straight home instead of to another bar!!!.) When we got to the next bar she def cooled off and when I suggested going back to my place she got all scared and ubered home. Took her number and hit her up the next day but never heard back from her. As I was leaving bar I ran into the first girl from that night and she was still with her friends, 2 beta pussies and some cunt girlfriend. They were all hating real hard on my me calling me a “creep and shit, but the girl wanted to go home with me SO bad. She starts to walk home with me and her friend comes up and basically drags her into the uber and leaves me standing there. I literally looked into the sky and laughed at how close I was to pulling
Feel like I put some good work in this weekend but disappointed to not get any results. I feel like my killer extinct needs to be better. Its obvious I can attract girls at the bar and hook up with them, but getting them back to my place (2 blocks away from the bar) has been a struggle. Any tips for this? I know Chris talks about the “Lets go for a walk line,” maybe I will start trying that to see if it works better.
Also, my follow up game has been fucking dreadful lately. I feel like I’ve lost my feel for communicating with girls when I’m not with them in person. I’m getting ghosted a ton lately and it’s fucking annoying. Here’s a example of the text I shot to the big titted sorority girl
Me: Hey whats up its Nick, it was cool meeting u last night
Her: Hey, you too I had fun!
Me: Same, what are you up to tonight?
I texted the girl I almost pulled Saturday night the following day and we talked for a little bit but she lives kinda far, and when I brought up getting together she ghosted.
So heres my question, how persistent should I be with these girls? When they ghost me, should I say fuck them and move on? Or should I add them on snapchat and try and get an exchange going back and forth? Maybe text them again later on and try and get it going again? I just feel like I’m generating solid leads and not getting anything out of them. Its just frustrating how flakey and uninterested most girls act UNTIL you fuck them (them most of the time I can just sit back and let them chase me.) I know this shit is a numbers game but I really want to get more efficient and effective.
IM SO FUCKING MOTIVATED TO MAKE THIS SHIT WORK THIS TIME. I'M EXCITED FOR 2018 AND CAN'T WAIT TO KEEP GOING OUT THERE AND RACKING UP APPROACHES. LETS GO!!
Spent this weekend on a boy trips to Miami. It’s been cold as fuck in the northeast so I planned this trip to get some sun and get out of the cold. Went out all 3 nights we were there.
First night we went out I hooked up with some cute Indian chick, tried to pull her back to my hotel but she was with her friends and wouldn’t leave. The scene was pretty beat that night so I wasn’t surprised I didn’t pull.
Next night we went out I hooked up with another cute girl at the bar. Within a couple seconds of talking to her we were making out and I was feeling her up and actually finger fucking her at the bar. She was with friends though and gave me her number and said we’d chill later that night but nothing came of it. Went home along again but not surprising cause bars were pretty dead
Went out the last night we were there and the scene was real good, sexy girls everywhere. I was determined to get in a solid amount of approaches and I hit it real hard but was striking out bad. I wasn’t feeling great about my looks (I got pretty sunburnt and was red af) but I kept approaching and kept striking out til I met this cute girl sitting at a table outside the bar.
We started talking and she was looking for her friend who left with some other dude, eventually we agreed to go find her together. When we found her a couple blocks from the bar, she was wasted and the girl I met was gonna go home with her, so I just told her I was gonna come with them to make sure they got home safe. She was kind of relucatant but I insisted and we got in the uber together and headed back to her place.
When we got there she got her drunk friend inside but she wouldn’t let me come inside. We were making out in her driveway and I started finger fucking her, then I picked her up and put her on the trashcan in her driveway and fucked her. It was pretty crazy I’m not gonna lie, she lived in a neighborhood with a ton of houses and the driveway was completely lit up, somebody definitely saw us fucking. This girl was cute as hell though and a total freak (obviously.)
Felt good to pull after coming so close the last several times I had gone out. This interaction was definitely different than most of my recent ones with girls at the bar cause we talked for a while, but it just goes to show there are a ton of different ways to pull girls from the bar. As long as you’re constantly out there approaching then theres a chance of pulling a chick.
Now that I’m back home I’ve decided I’m gonna work on my killer instinct. I can hook up with girls at the bar pretty easily, it happens almost every night I go out, sometimes several times a night, but getting them home has been tough lately. But I’m gonna to try the “follow me” thing that Chris talks about. Just grab them by the hand and walk them out of the bar back to my house, instead of asking them whether they want to leave or not cause that shit is so ineffective. When I grab the chick and just walk out she’ll either follow me and I’ll be good or she’ll drop my hand and then I’ll just go find another girl.
Can’t wait to get back out there this week and get my approaches in. I’m feeling refreshed from my trip and it was cool pulling home a cute girl that definitely fit the bill of being a 7 or higher. I’m gonna fucking kill the game the next couple months I can feel it
Went out Tuesday night to meet up with some chick I work with. Me and this girl have been flirting for months but nothing has come of it. We were hanging out at the bar and I was getting very physical but she wouldn’t let me kiss her let alone take her alone. Seriously, fuck this girl I’m not wasting any more time on her.
But while I was out at the bar I approached some chick and we had a decent conversation and arranged for a date the next night. I texted her the next day and we talked for a little but she eventually told me she wasn’t looking for a relationship b/c she was about to graduate and move somewhere (guess I was giving off the boyfriend vibe!!)
Only did 1 approach that night though (the girl whos number I got) because I was hung up on the girl I work with. Totally unacceptable on my part and a waste of a potentially productive night.
Went out alone Thursday night and it was a shitty ass night. Bars were slammed and there were tons of opportunities for me, but I just couldn’t get myself in the right mood all night. I did a few approaches but was just totally out of it. I went back home to regroup and came back out and made out with a sexy girl but didn’t pull.
Went out Friday night and once again it was a shit night. Bars were again full of sexy girls but I failed to make the most of it. Couldn’t get myself in the right mood again and was just acting like a total bitch. Ran into some girls from my work who I hate and they were being cunts and I let it get to me, just threw off my whole rhythm. Went home alone.
Some thoughts on why this weekend was such a failure:
PROBLEM: I went out to the bars too late and therefore felt pressured to get in a ton of approaches as fast as possible instead of being able to relax a bit. The bars close at 2 near me and I didn’t make it out til 1230ish the nights I went out.
HOW TO FIX: I will start going out around 1030-11 from now on the maximize my chances of pulling.
PROBLEM: Fighting against my self. Doing this pickup shit has made me realize ultimately it’s a battle of ME against ME. It’s all about getting myself in the right mood, AKA not giving a fuck and approaching chicks with aggressiveness and reckless abandon. When I went out I was weak and dithering, hesitant and afraid. I let the mood get worse and worse by not approaching, and I ended up in my own head the entire nights. Like Chris says in his guide to going out alone, its extremely important to get in the right mood by approaching right away when you get out.
HOW TO FIX: I’m going to approach the hottest chick I see within the first 5 minutes of being at any new bar I’m at. However the approach goes, it doesn’t matter, just getting myself out of my own head it critically important for getting some momentum going for the night and setting myself up for success (pulling.)
I’m still not going full in, all out for this thing. Another week of not hitting my approach goal. I’m beginning to think I’m going to have to put some daygame into the rotation to hit my approaches. I’m going to give it 1 more week of only night game and if I fail to hit my approach goal I’m going to start doing some daygame approaches.
Time to get back to it. I feel refreshed and relaxed and I know I’m gonna pull this weekend.
Went out last night on a late tuesday night to see if I could get in some approaches. Wasn't feeling great when I left the house, and when I got to the bar the crowd was kind of beat and I let it get to me. Sat down and grabbed a beer and let myself get into my own head again. I literally did exactly what I KNOW leads to failure by not approaching immediately upon entering the place. I did 0 approaches and went home.
This game is so fuckin frustrating. I feel like such a weirdo/creep/loser for going out with the sole purpose of getting laid, but the only other alternative is to do nothing and just hope the right girl falls into my lap, and I'm not about waiting around for shit to happen.
I guess my AA is worse than I thought but I'm not about to take months off to do the AA program. The only solution is to kill my ego and just approach. I've realized my fragile ego is the absolute kryptonite to my success at pickup. Some nights I drop my ego and get into this state where I give 0 fucks and approach every girl, and those are my best nights.
I keep reminding myself that pickup is a MANS GAME. Its not for the weak minded. Its not for the overly analytical. Like Chris says, just look good and talk to girls. I have the look above average part down but I'm just not doing the approach numbers I need to be successful. I'm definitely struggling right now, felt pretty shitty today, and normally this is the part where I'd quit and let my ego win. But not this time. I have a night off tonight and then I'll be back at it tomorrow for the weekend. I'm going to hit it hard this weekend and get in my 25 approaches, no matter what. I know as long as i get my numbers in I'll be fine.
Have you considered approaching less girls?
Sometimes we aim too high and want to get there ASAP, when in reality it's easier to take it one step at a time, 25 girls a week is not THAT much but it's still a lot for most people to handle, not just mentally but also when it comes to their schedule, maybe try 10 girls and build up from there.
I get almost 1 lay for every 50-100 girls I approach. Just tone it down and focus on improving your appearance as much as approaching. Cause if you don't look good when you're approaching, it hardly matters how many girls you talk to.
20 per week might be a little more attainable or maybe even 15 to start. Have you done the AA program? That could be another thing holding you back.
I did 20 a week my entire first year. Was it challenging? Yes. Is adding 5 more per week impossible? No.
This was on top of working a crazy ass job that is very emotionally draining (EMS)
However, you're selling yourself short by not hitting on girls during the day. I never got very good at pulling girls from bars. Sure I've had 10 or 15 girls from it, but I really got my numbers because I did a 3-way split between daytime/bars/online dating. Don't fuck yourself. Take every avenue you can to get girls.
Also post pics of yourself and the girls you're fucking. It's hard to take anyone seriously when they're just a wall of anonymous internet text. Building my reputation on GLL was one of the most valuable things I've ever done. The connections I made on this forum have served me in every capacity. I have close friends from GLL, "medication" connections (and performance enhancing drug connections), business connections, you name it. Make yourself known on here and you'll have a gigantic pool of extremely talented people. Do that by having the balls to at least show yourself from the neck down + creep pics of the girls you're fucking.
This is a network, just like anywhere else. If you make it work for you, it'll serve you for the rest of your life.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
If you put it on the binary scale of "possible" and "impossible" your goals will almost always err on the side of "possible", but possible has its own set of circumstances that make it so.
So for example, bad idea bear is a mod here and therefore you can be sure he has the seen tons of guys who start logs with ambitious (but "possible") goals about everything (not just women) and yet after a few updates you never hear from them again.
Why does this happen if their goals were possible? The reason is always the same, they didn't build up the circumstances to take them from where they were to where they wanted to be, they took too big a leap, stumbled, and eventually fell.
In this case, bad idea bear built up the requirements prior to approaching 20 girls a week, i.e. he completed the aa program so he was used to talking to women, he didn't just start out like "fuck it, I'm approaching 20 women a week like whatever".
So anyway, op can do whatever he wants, but the point remains: take a small step out of your comfort zone, and build up from there, don't let your ego guide you.
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