TOPIC: What makes a guy approachable to a girl?

I know many guys have women actually walk up to them and say hi and start talking out of the blue.

What causes this to happen? What is it that makes a guy approachable?

I find for me most women are avoidant, even the ones who like me are avoidant, meaning they won't initiate conversation, will only look when I'm not looking (my friends discreetly point these ones out). Women are constantly approaching 10/10 hunks I hear, so it's not intimidation. So how can a guy make himself more approachable?

Some girls have the confidence or personality to approach a guy they think is attractive. But I'll take the simplistic route because I am not a woman lol. I''ll say that be interesting. In lamest terms, most of the time when i see a woman say something to a man , its.. "I like your beard, I like that shirt, I like your shoes... Big muscles as well, but that is insinuating physical attraction which is not as common as the other things I have mentioned.

So basically I think your style and the way you carry yourself and of course a smile. But I have heard the beard and shirt thing the most from most. I hope that helps you a it.

Why don't you approach girls instead of waiting for them to approach you?

No, no, no.

You havent "heard that 10/10 hunks are getting approached constantly", you just read Shazams threads.

Shazam is an internet troll who most likely doesn't have any women in his life, you shouldn't be taking advice from people who don't show proof of who they are.

If someone has no proven track record, there's literally no point in listening to what they say. They could be a 12 year old boy.

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Shazam also counts EVERYTHING as an approach. Like even girls walking near him or accidentally bumping into him in a crowded bar. He's said this in other threads. By his standards, I am also being approached constantly. However, like a normal person I will refer to an approach as "when a girl you don't know comes up and talks to you in a non-professional context".

I know several 10/10 guys. They never get approached during the day, and at night they usually get told they're cute by a few girls.

That shit happens to me too, though. So even above average guys can go out at night and 1 or 2 girls might come talk to them.

But all of this is irrelevant. If you wait for girls to approach you, you'll get almost no pussy. It doesn't matter how hot you are

lets see some proof son!


EDIT: needless to say no proof was shown. Shazam has been erased from GLL. Say no to trolling

I had a hot girl approach me/come to me out of the blue and it was nice. I went to my cousins house, exited the car door and entered her house and my cousins phone was blowing up from her neighbor who was asking her who that hot guy was that came into her house and how she wants me to come outside and meet her. When I actually went outside and met her It was kinda awkward and we didn't have much to say, but I did get her # and she went off smiling.

Once i got her # and texted her she was telling me how I'm so attractive, I could be a model, have a gorgeous smile etc. Stuff like that. It pays off to look good and have great style.

So, be GOOD LOOKING. Nobody gives a fuck about personality.

Women approach men for the same reasons men approach women; they are interested in them sexually or romantically.

While looks are objectively important to fuck higher quality women, they are far from the only factor when it comes to QUANTITY of approaches.

All men, regardless of how "good looking" they are, should occasionally be approached by women.
NOT just the best looking guys.

Why is this? Because an approach is a social risk. A 4/10 girl is far more likely to approach a 6/10 guy than to approach a 10/10 guy, because they (consciously or not) are aware that the 10/10 is out of their league.

In my experience, women tend to approach men SLIGHTLY (1-2 points out of 10) more attractive than themselves.

So no. The best looking guys are NOT constantly being approached. Even if you consider yourself a 4, in theory, there should be some 2s and 3s approaching you. Not ideal, but still; SOMETHING should be happening.

I consider myself about an 8/10. Not a supermodel, but objectively attractive. I get approached far more often than most people. I attribute the attractiveness of the girls approaching me to my looks, but attribute the quantity of the approaches to my body language more than anything. I am CONSCIOUSLY walking around with shoulders back, cocky grin in place, holding eye contact, seeming approachable.

I always recommend working on your appearance, but if you are not getting approached even by ugly girls, you should take a look your body language and other social mannerisms that might be off.

I wrote an article a few months back about how I fucked my first 10 girls back in college. I was a huge pussy at the time, and didn't have the balls to approach women. This article goes into depth on how I used to lure girls to minimize any potential for rejection. Good luck:

How to Get Girls to Chase You

T Wolf wrote: Women approach men for the same reasons men approach women; they are interested in them sexually or romantically.

While looks are objectively important to fuck higher quality women, they are far from the only factor when it comes to QUANTITY of approaches.

All men, regardless of how "good looking" they are, should occasionally be approached by women.
NOT just the best looking guys.

Why is this? Because an approach is a social risk. A 4/10 girl is far more likely to approach a 6/10 guy than to approach a 10/10 guy, because they (consciously or not) are aware that the 10/10 is out of their league.

In my experience, women tend to approach men SLIGHTLY (1-2 points out of 10) more attractive than themselves.

So no. The best looking guys are NOT constantly being approached. Even if you consider yourself a 4, in theory, there should be some 2s and 3s approaching you. Not ideal, but still; SOMETHING should be happening.

I consider myself about an 8/10. Not a supermodel, but objectively attractive. I get approached far more often than most people. I attribute the attractiveness of the girls approaching me to my looks, but attribute the quantity of the approaches to my body language more than anything. I am CONSCIOUSLY walking around with shoulders back, cocky grin in place, holding eye contact, seeming approachable.

I always recommend working on your appearance, but if you are not getting approached even by ugly girls, you should take a look your body language and other social mannerisms that might be off.

I wrote an article a few months back about how I fucked my first 10 girls back in college. I was a huge pussy at the time, and didn't have the balls to approach women. This article goes into depth on how I used to lure girls to minimize any potential for rejection. Good luck:

How to Get Girls to Chase You

Hmm well guys usually say I'm attractive but it's often just 3s and 4s come speak to me if anything.

I made this autist video before for appearance advice on another board:




Random guys usually compliment my appearance when I'm out and sometimes also try to tell me I can have any girl, unsolicited, so I assumed I must be decent to get such comments, particularly so often. Do you think I might be giving off "stay away" vibes?

Bad Idea Bear wrote: I know several 10/10 guys. They never get approached during the day, and at night they usually get told they're cute by a few girls.

That shit happens to me too, though. So even above average guys can go out at night and 1 or 2 girls might come talk to them.

Ah right, this isn't something that happens to me. Usually it's guys who say they're jelly or say I must get so much attention from women or say I'm a handsome guy or stuff like that. Which is really weird, I don't understand why guys so readily compliment my aesthetics, and also don't understand why women usually say NOTHING about it unless prompted. E.g. if my friend is speaking to them and I'm standing somewhere nearby and they know I'm his friend they might say to him I'm hot, but literally no girl walks over and says "you're cute" literally never in my life. Even women who have approached me never do this they usually just say they like my hat or tell me to stop texting or something stupid like that. Or ugly women might do dance moves at me. Or a girl might do a "cold read" of me and say that I think I'm cool because I get every girl. People seem to assume I'm a player even though I probably do worse than most 4/10 guys.

If a girl calls me attractive it's usually later on like talking on WhatsApp or Facebook or if I approach them (sometimes they will, but still rarely). Girls above average will never bring up my appearance ever unless prompted as mentioned.

The question is: why is any of this relevant?

We know that actively approaching girls is many times more effective than waiting for girls to approach you. Don't stress yourself out because girls aren't coming up and talking to you. That's your job. But more importantly, being proactive is MORE EFFECTIVE than waiting for girls to come to you.

If you're above average, you just need to make sure you're hitting on girls every day. All the other issues will sort themselves out if you do this.

Bad Idea Bear wrote: The question is: why is any of this relevant?

We know that actively approaching girls is many times more effective than waiting for girls to approach you. Don't stress yourself out because girls aren't coming up and talking to you. That's your job. But more importantly, being proactive is MORE EFFECTIVE than waiting for girls to come to you.

If you're above average, you just need to make sure you're hitting on girls every day. All the other issues will sort themselves out if you do this.

I'm after 8s, 9s, 10s (I'd date a 7 who's my type but I want to know I'm capable of more), does the same rule of "just be above average" apply in that case?

I approach women anyway. But still if I need to fix something vibewise or lookswise it's good to know because it can help me with women I approach. Considering I want elite women especially.

I think I might put out bad vibes almost no girl will initiate convo just the desperate ones might dance at me... But I know I'm above that league of those ones.

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