TOPIC: Feeling guilty about approaching women

At about 70 pounds overweight and socially clueless I know that the odds are not in my favor in being successful at approaching women at the moment. But determined not to let another year go by without my penis entering a vagina I decided I needed to start somewhere. So I went out with the attention of talking to women. I thought that the local publix be good. When I arrived I meandered around for 30 minutes trying to build up the courage to do just one approach. There were enough cute women that passed by, but I just didnt have the balls to open my mouth. I could feel myself becoming physically ill with anxiety, but on a mission I told myself that that no matter how nervous I was I was going to talk to the next approachable girl that I saw.

A puerto rican looking chick was coming down the same aisle that I was in, she was that great in the face, but neither am I. She did have a relatively small waiste with thick ass and thighs a shape that I enjoy. It felt like every muscle in my body was tense I was so nervous. I almost pussied out as she inched closer. Not knowing what to say I asked her if she knew if they sold AA batteries. She said she was not sure was not not really engaging with me. Not knowing what else to say I told her that I thought that she was attractive and would like to maybe catch a movie or something. While I was nervous I dont think I was being too creepy or anything. But the look of pure anguish and disgust on her face suggested otherwise. I mean I felt like an imposer who had ruined her whole day damn maybe week. I immediately headed out of the place feeling like I had committed an indecency in some kind of way. I FELT TERRIBLE and even uglier than I normally feel.

Should I wait until I am in good shape to EVEN talk to to woman?I dont like the idea of making them feel bad and being the fat creep who had the nerve to hit on them.

At 70 lbs overweight your main goal should be to drop that asap

You'll have minimal results from approaching women at that weight but it's good practice and your results will get better as you lose weight

The main thing here is don't let bad reactions get to you
(easier said than done sometimes)

The whole principle behind GLL is "look good and talk to girls"

As long as you're consistently working on both there are no such thing as failures

you will gets lots of negative reactions from women if you approach before you get your looks handled. to a certain extent i would actually recommend forgetting about women for now and placing 200% of your focus on losing weight

1) lose weight

2) feeling guilty is normal, getting over it is too
www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/fundamenta...e-doing-other-things

Thanks guys for the feedback. The article addresses alot of things pertinent to me, especially the bit about giving yourself a chance to be successful with women. Thinking about it now, I got a little too worked up about a new year beginning and not wanting it to go to waste. I have been in a rut for as long as I can remember and know that I have some catching up to do. But still I need to get the fundamentals down before I can move forward. I will make it my #1 priority to lose weight. How much do I need to lose before I can think about approaching women?

I'm a little bit overweight but I have had decent success. I'd suggest that you go out once you're not visibly overweight. Others may disagree but my logic is that you'll experience lots of rejection even if you're ripped. So it's better if you don't do this while visibly overweight.

I agree with the above post^

ive never been significantly overweight so take this with a grain of salt but to answer your question, i would say once you lose about 50 pounds and you're only 15-20 pounds overweight then you can start approaching women and expect some better results (but still continue to work out/diet/lose weight)

don't end up like this one kid i know who stayed in a perpetual state of being overweight but just kept mass approaching women with virtually zero results because he wanted to be like the big dogs (that's just a classic and extreme case of not adhering to priority)

and just FYI, girls reactions to you also have a lot to do with how you feel about yourself (kind of a catch 22 but something to keep in mind)

I think you should focus on losing the weight but also do daygame, and bring a bottle of water. The walking around is cardio.

Whilst it's uncommon, I've seen some fat ass motherfuckers walking around with 10's holding their hands. Some of them look paid for, but you'll get the very rare girl who only cares about personality. These girls usually have self esteem issues and daddy issues, but are some of the hottest girls on the planet.

ya always important to focus on looks first like losing weight, better clothes, haircut, tan,etc. Way better and quicker option otherwise the amount of extra approaches you'll have to likely take will just take too much longer.

A bit of guilt can be normal but will go away after some success. I remember when I started approaching once I had some success there hit a point where it went from a bit difficult and tedious to easy and fun. Just knowing the fact that some girl I see walking around the mall, at Starbucks or wherever could be sucking my dick within the next day or so is pretty motivating, especially knowing how easy and frequent it can be once you get it (and your looks) down.

Shanghai_Bobby wrote: I think you should focus on losing the weight but also do daygame, and bring a bottle of water. The walking around is cardio.

Whilst it's uncommon, I've seen some fat ass motherfuckers walking around with 10's holding their hands. Some of them look paid for, but you'll get the very rare girl who only cares about personality. These girls usually have self esteem issues and daddy issues, but are some of the hottest girls on the planet.

i dont think ive seen a fat guy holding hands with a 10 in my entire life.

and any mediocre guy that appears to be with a hot girl met her through social circle and is the girl's "safe" boyfriend option. and thats assuming theyre actually fucking and not just friends

Bad Idea Bear wrote:

Shanghai_Bobby wrote: I think you should focus on losing the weight but also do daygame, and bring a bottle of water. The walking around is cardio.

Whilst it's uncommon, I've seen some fat ass motherfuckers walking around with 10's holding their hands. Some of them look paid for, but you'll get the very rare girl who only cares about personality. These girls usually have self esteem issues and daddy issues, but are some of the hottest girls on the planet.

i dont think ive seen a fat guy holding hands with a 10 in my entire life.

and any mediocre guy that appears to be with a hot girl met her through social circle and is the girl's "safe" boyfriend option. and thats assuming theyre actually fucking and not just friends

I think no one has actually ever seen a dime with a fat guy, except for movies and russia prob, but you have to be an oil tycoon, which excludes the majority of us I guess.

Anyone a russian oil tycoon in here by any chance who would like to contribute to the topic?

Ya I remember when someone said that my role gives me the power of choice, that I choose the mother of my children, I swear to god I felt like killing him