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I think the coolest thing out of reading all of this (despite basically everything being of merit) --- you found a way to link up with a shit ton of (successful) guys through GLL on your journey. And yes, from what I just read; this was a straight up journey. Somebody needs to make a movie out of this shit. Your hair. Your ears. Your style (lol yea, fuck those blazers 24/7 when you're jacked up dude). 1000+ approaches. Online dates. Alcohol/Kratom/Phenibut/Ostarine/etc. Cold approach. Several different countries. Etc etc etc
I speak for myself when I say this; but I think (GLL) will indeed love to see how you connected up with so many other good looking loser's in order to make your incredible journey possible. Man. It is likely one of the greatest happenings to stem from existence of this community.
Crazy to hear you *still* have a small, yet noticeable amount of approach anxiety after 1000+ approaches.
Good sticky BIB. I'm personally guilty of not following your thread throughout this year Idan. What a mistake that was! Much respect man.
Holy shit. First off, congrats! That is a wild story! I cannot even fathom the highs and lows you went through. I do have one question about this though.
"His strongest critiques were my looks and style. He told me to ditch the provider beta-male blazers that cover up my physique immediately.
Also my eye contact was terrible. I didn’t smile a lot (if at all). There was a lot of ‘game-related’ critique mostly alluding to the boring choice of topics I spoke about and not ‘teasing’ enough and creating male/female polarity.
But above all: I was too nice! He said I need to work hard on this because I don’t present any threat whatsoever and girls don’t know they are being picked up. This verified my gut feeling that all those dates were sexless because I chose fancy style rather than badassery style.
I had to concede that not all PUA types are weird or phonies. This guy may as well have been a good looking loser judging by his very heavy focus on looks and style and coming across as having strong masculine presence. Must be a Polish thing"
It seems like once you got your looks set up, your vibe changed as well. What were some of those main differences that you noticed once you heard that feedback of being "too nice"?
Was great hanging out with you exchanging stories/ideas. Even seeing you approach was very eye opening for me. You've certainly earned these results, evidence that with hard work and commitment everything is possible.
Hey I want to say congrats to your success. You may not know this but you are an inspiration to many GLLs. I have a few questions:
1. Do you think you would've gotten to where you are today had you stayed in your town in Scotland? Would you say one's environment is crucial to his success?
2. What is Amir up to? I haven't heard from him in a long time. last I heard he was in the army again or in brazil. If he doesn't want to say then that's ok, just wondering if he's doing well.
Thanks again and keep it up!
To be honest I was too much of a pussy to do the AA program after ‘peeking’ at some of the later drills. Some of them seemed like the kind of stuff that could get me arrested (I am super paranoid about stuff like that after being stuck in the red pill/MRA mindset for years)
I also believed that all I needed was to be able to approach girls and I could do that directly. I didn’t take into account that AA is more than just about approaching – it is HOW you approach. It is the CONFIDENCE you project which apparently completing the AA program will earn you.
You are very fortunate to have a huge social circle (something I could neither dream of having neither particularly desire these days anyway). You have one advantage and that is you won’t burn-out the way a lot of guys who rely solely on cold approach like myself do.
There is a section in the podcast where I discuss this topic with Amir and he gives some VERY good advice about this. Bottom line: multiple streams of pussy solves all of your problems.
I don’t feel comfortable giving an approach blueprint because I only got 3 bangs from cold approach so far and each was during a different ‘era’ of my approaching evolution.
Lay 1: actually a ‘group approach’ in Burger King where me and this guy I was cold approaching with decided to troll a table of girls for the lulz. The blonde girl thought I was Russian and gave me her number. Totally didn’t expect to meet her and fuck her on the 2nd date.
Lay 2: I credit Brissbrass with this success. After 2 weeks of approaching over 100 girls in Kiev, Ukraine I had had several dates but virtually none of the girls were DTF or even sexually available. This in spite of using basic guy (though perhaps not aggressive and physical enough) game. Brissbrass (inspired from the London day game model) gave me some very handy tidbits which I started to integrate into my interactions (I can go into more detail if you like).
Lay 3: A truly ‘SSK08’ inspired approach. ‘Hello, you are beautiful give me your number’ Interaction over in 2 minutes. She actually re-opened me after I put my earphones back in thinking she didn’t hear or understand me.
So I don’t believe I can give any blueprint until after I reach my next goal of 12 cold approach lays. My default approach style is the ‘BASIC GUY GAME’ model as used by Goodlooking loser.
I honestly don’t know but if I were to pontificate a little, I would say that the reason I did so badly was because I was using an approach blueprint (GLL aggressive style) meant for very good looking guys with zero AA. Or at least 2/4 of the GLL fundamentals (Looks/Style/AA/swag factor). The fact of the matter is there must have been at least 50 out of those 1150 girls who were DOWN TO FUCK. The fact I didn’t bag 47 of them means I was falling short of the minimum 2/4 above average fundamentals
Thank you my man! I appreciate your kind words a lot.
I wouldn’t really say I have AA when it comes to approaching per se. I can approach mostly whenever I want. The trouble is down to my state more than fight or flight response. A feeling that approaching is pointless because of my very poor odds to date.
I am going to do the AA program because I realize now it is not enough just to be able to approach without AA. It is ALSO about having an interaction where you radiate confidence and come across as a player; as a sexual threat. I have been told by many that this is my weakness.
Toroidal, NoStringsAttached, Deltsbrah, Bobby, Kurvam Thanks a bundle guys!
Honestly it is something I am still working on. I still feel I come across as too nice and a push-over. People at my workplace don’t respect me at all and I let them walk all over me. I also feel people aren’t intimidated by me the way people are when they see a bald, jacked guy haha.
So my plan of action is to keep working on it, become bigger, more aggressive and scary. For sure my vibe changed a bit after re-embracing the leather jacket and more edgy look once more.
Hmmm let me try to answer…
1) 100% with zero margin or error no. Nie. Nyet. Nao. Non. Whichever language you prefer haha
I would say it isn’t crucial for everyone. I think everyone would agree if you become part of the top 15% (becoming above average in more of the 4 fundamentals) your success will increase dramatically. Of course, your location can and does have influence on this. And the degree to which this is true depends on exactly where you go.
For me personally Aberdeen was a tough environment not just because of the highly competitive sexual market place (oil and gas capital with tons of rich guys, small population and generally cold, closed social circle orientated vibe in MY opinion).
Alwaysbeclosing KILLED it here by the way. Just goes to show!
Maybe I could have succeeded (almost banged a ‘7’ blonde single mum but backed out of it after just 2 months of taking GLL seriously) but I would have given myself gray hair doing so (if I had any!). Getting tinder dates was a very difficult affair and the quality of girl I was able to date was a 5 at best.
Contrast this to Ukraine where in 2 weeks I struggled to book dates because I had so damn many of them. Literally every day 1, sometimes more dates. The sheer abundance was incredible.
So I guess what I am trying to say it while environment is not crucial necessarily to success, it is very influential. And I for one would rather put maximum effort into my journey in a place where I am significantly more likely to succeed because of exterior factors than in one where the return on investment is too low to be sustainable.
I hope I explained that ok. I can try and go into more detail if you wish.
Wow man, I don't know what to say first of all thanks for the kind words. Second of all man, wow these results are incredible. I remember you just grinding your head into the wall over and over again getting blown out by girls day in and day out no matter if we were in Edinburgh or Aberdeen but you still plowed through. I know there were moments you contemplated quitting and I wouldnt have blamed you, it looked like you really had done almost everything to get it fixed. I honeslty think the micropigemntation and the ears pinning back had a huge effect on you. Your results are certainly correlated at least. But it all came in together when you were receiving your coaching and in conjunction with the couple of lays you were getting at the time so its a bit tough to say any one thing. But man I don't know anyone whose had it as tough as you and still persevered. Major props dude. Its been a pleasure meeting you in Aberdeen and making friends man. Keep up the shit it seems you have quite the lofty goals so good for you man. Happy new years!
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