TOPIC: Dating during nofap/porn rebooting

I have stopped. I feel a lot better all around. The only underlying issue is I can't get hard and it's a little depressing.

Yea shits rea.
Then again when i was in Vegas I edged like twice to porn then went to the strip later that night and drunk and got thee hardest boner I had in months. Crazy how the mind and blood flow works. All in all I found myself hornier when i dont watch porn or fapped.

craycray wrote: Thx Theaverage guy I will read it

dc7 that's just the thing, I can get hard instantly with porn and stay hard. Even if I start fantasizing about the porn I used to watch it does the trick which is why I strongly believe my problem is porn related

If you can get hard watching porn, and get hard without porn (fantasizing about porn IS jerking off without porn), but can't get hard with a woman present.. that is sexual/performance anxiety.

That's not to say you couldn't benefit from putting the porn on hold, especially if you believe it would work. Whether I believe in porn-induced ED or not, if you're thinking about your peepee not working, it's not going to work.

Attack the issue from both fronts. Cut out the porn and stop jerking off, but also learn how to work on your sexual anxiety because you have that for sure if you're letting a few cases of ED go so far as to affect your dating life.

Gotta add no shame in taking boner pills. Check out Chris' link. First time with a new girl it's common for there to be performance and sexual anxiety for inexperienced guys. It has happened to me... I didn't watch porn for months, was only jerking off with fleshlight 1-2 times a week, took home a girl and I had all the energy in the world and still wasn't rock hard and I was like WTF. With a new girl I always take a couple boner pills to bring the heat... then the confidence goes up, we get used to each other as partners and later i get instant boners without pills. Here's the other thing I really think... girls are used to guys being awkward with the first time... world is full of passive, awkward guys that can't lead. If you can bring the heat and fuck her proper on the first time (with boner pills if need be) then she'll stick around. This has done wonders for me... just knowing I'm capable. I swear Cialis would be better off making a commercial with Chris and Scotty rather than old guys and old cougs.

Hey man I had a problem similar to this and I've found there are three solutions the last one is the best and the healthiest in my opinion but its by far the hardest to achieve.

1. Which I have done and still do semi often. Take Cialis. There is something calming knowing that when your with a girl, wether you would have had a problem getting it up or not, your going to be a rockstar. Its soothing and it helps calm my nerves. I like this solution because its fun and you can run it back 3 or 4 times with the girl and they think your a god. And I've found that after one night of this I don't need cialis with them anymore because their convinced Im great so the pressure is gone. In my mind I'm like even if i can't get it up next time it would take 2 or three times of that before it cancels out the previous performance and id just take cialis again if it happened once. So it gives you freedom to try without it at that point.

2. get a Girlfriend.. Key here is not to get attached and waste too much time and investment. Have the goal of finding a cute girl your attracted to enough to get physical but not like a banging love our life girl. You need someone to nurture that heart of yours and put your dick in her mouth and care about your orgasm and getting you off. There is a level of comfort here and skill building in the bedroom that will progress you light years. Key is to know when you've gained what you need and how to gracefully let it go without getting attached or stuck. This isn't mean its just necessary and a fun way to kick the problem. I did this as well.

3. The healthiest and most fun option but hardest to achieve. I am finally here. Get to a point in your day to day life where you seriously enjoy just about everyday. Your on a good path, you have friends you like, a job direction you want to grow in, and go out talking to women, have a few FB's that you know you can get sex from so you never have to be desperate or in a dry spell and then just focus on meeting cool new women and few and far between you fins one that you really enjoy and you won't even think about your dick or anything because your just enjoying her and her energy and the way you feel. This feeling makes you feel like you already had sex with that girl and nothing can ruin the vibe so your just having fun and not pushing for anything... this is a lot like telling someone trying to learn game to Just be Cool bro.. So i get its a build.

Good luck man. and obviously keep not watching porn. You were meant to cum on or in a live woman, not a screen. Let your brain reboot. that will help.

Ok thx for the replies guys.

Just one thing still irks me a bit like what do I tell or do with girls I will meet like 3 or 4 dates down the road and she's wondering why I haven't made any effort to fuck her or do if I try and still not able to.

craycray wrote: Ok thx for the replies guys.

Just one thing still irks me a bit like what do I tell or do with girls I will meet like 3 or 4 dates down the road and she's wondering why I haven't made any effort to fuck her or do if I try and still not able to.

"I just banged the other girl I'm dating so I'm not in the mood"

Or

"We can fuck once my brain is rebooted"

Jk. Honestly if you stop porn cold turkey and don't touch your dick for the entire next week I guarantee you will be a walking stiffy.

By the time you get to a 3rd date your dick will be working if you literally have not watched any porn or busted a nut in weeks.

dc7 wrote:
"We can fuck once my brain is rebooted"

Lol I'm actually gonna say this if I still can't get it up next time.... Maybe...

Yeah I think by the time it gets that far in next few weeks I should be a lot better. The last 2 girls were my very first few days off porn so it's not surprising. Thx guys I feel better and more optimistic now

Take some Viagra too.

Bad Idea Bear wrote: Gotta disagree with you here.

How many times has OP tried to have sex with a girl before he gave himself an official diagnosis of "porn induced ED"?

It's performance anxiety, like Tyson said.

Nearly every sexual issue is actually just performance anxiety.

The REASON why I don't get "porn induced ED" is because I don't allow self limiting beliefs like that to control my sexuality.

It's also because I have extremely low sexual anxiety. That's the only difference between you and OP vs. me and T Wolf. It always comes back to sexual anxiety (which is fixed by trying to have sex with girls, even if you "fail")

In fact, I KNOW this is OPs problem because of the nature of the question. If he was sexually confident, he would just try to fuck girls regardless of whether he thought his dick would work. The fact that he has ruled out having sex PROVES that his problem is rooted in fear. In his situation id literally just throw my limp dick at chicks because I don't care.

That's ironically also the mindset that will cure your ED, OP

There is a difference between performance anxiety and simply not being attracted to a naked woman due to overstimulation from porn. Don't tell me I had sexual anxiety with someone like my ex-GF. It's simple biochemistry; if you binge on drugs then nothing feels like anything after that because the dopamine system has adjusted itself to higher stimuli. Porn is the same thing albeit at a much smaller level. Conversely if you live a spartan lifestyle, all the small pleasures that most people take for granted feel so good, because the dopamine system is adjusted to lower stimuli.

When you're cutting, you'll be grateful to eat a carrot because you're starved of calories. When you're overfeeding you wouldn't give a shit about the carrot. In this metaphor porn is overfeeding and no-fap is cutting. Carrot is the pussy. Kiss the pussy.

just a heads up , if it is truly porn induced ED you will have crazy withdrawals and will take longer than 1 week to fix.

Withdraws is natural when trying to quit an addiction that rewards your brain with dopamine,.

It took me 3 months to fully recover.

The biggest withdrawal will be having a ( dead dick, google it). Where you will be horny as fuck but its like your dick doesn't fucken work or even move. This lasted around 10 days for me. I am not making this shit up research withdrawals to quitting porn.

Easiest way to see if you have porn induced Ed is to see if you can get a hard on without touching your dick and fantasizing about real women not porn...

Im the same way as Terminator.
When i watch porn im simply not interested in real life women at all. If i jerk off to porn my dick is limp for 2 days or so. And also i notice that it drains my energy and motivation and aggressiveness and next day its hard to even get up from bed. Also makes me anxious big time. In short jerking off to porn makes me feel horrible. And ive tried it way too many times over the last few years, and whenever i did watch porn and jerk off, i did regret it.
And then it takes me like a week or so to abstain and then im back to feeling amazing again.
I see people have very different view on this but this is how its affecting me, tested it way too many times.
And here is a guy said that he can jerk off twice a day and is still good, which is just an example how different we are.
See how you react and judge from it.