TOPIC: Would you approach the girl of your dream even if...

...you know there is a 95% chance it will not end well?

Please hear me out and let me explain my personal situation before jumping to yes.

I recently graduated college and moved to a new city where I don't know anyone and I currently take the bus to work every morning at the same time. Last few weeks I noticed this one girl who is literally the girl of my dreams, like a perfect 10 appearance wise, the kind I'd wifey up.

I've seen her around 4-5 times now probably and we're always make eye contact and I am pretty well socially calibrated so I pick up other subtle IOIs as well. This is a no brainer and under any other situation I'd have approached her in a heartbeat.

HOWEVER, currently I am a total fuck up on the inside. I am a recovering from heavy drug/alcohol abuse and also ED from too much porn so emotionally I am going through a really rough time and have a lot of mood swings to where I feel borderline suicidal at times. I have no family/friends for support at the moment since I moved away from college and most day I speak less than 20 words to my coworkers who are all significantly older than me. The only thing I feel I have to offer atm is my looks.

I know there's a chance she's not even single or I'd ever even see her again but I am pretty conflicted on what I should do. I also know it's not good to place too much emphasis on one girl but I see hot girls all the time and this is literally the 1 in 1000 chick I see looks wise.

The best case scenario is of course I approach her and she becomes my GF but I am realistic and the most likely outcome assuming she's single is we go out once or twice and she realizes what a fuck up I am and goes no contact on me. I also know there is a finite window for me to act, I can run into her at most twice before approaching before she loses interest because I took too long to act.

It's been 1.5 years since I cold approached so of course I am also dealing with AA.

I have considered how I'd feel down the road if I never approached this girl and on some level I'd regret it but on another I also know there are other girls like her out there, just don't know when.

Please share your opinions, thanks.

life is short, just do it. If you don't ask her, then the answer is definitely no. If you do, then it might work out.

Don't be like me. I've never approached a girl in my entire life and I constantly beat myself up over it, even though I know what I SHOULD do. You know it too, only question is can you act on it?

Would you approach the girl of your dream even if you know there is a 95% chance it will not end well?.

Yes.

Yes. I would kick myself in the nuts if I missed a blatant opportunity to approach "the girl of my dreams."

assuming she's single is we go out once or twice and she realizes what a fuck up I am and goes no contact on me.

Have you ever wondered why so many 'perfect' girls are with such fucked up guys?
NOW"S YOUR CHANCE

You two make eye contact so the next move is yours. "Hi" or "good morning" can't hurt.

You never know how it'll end. Sure, the chances are probably pretty good that if things come to fruition between the two of you it may spoil but can't hurt to try.

You'll eat yourself alive if you continue like this.

My dream girl works at the gym I go to. I'd honestly pick her over Kate Upton or any of these side bar hotties any day of the week.

You know there's something special about a girl when you see her and sexual stuff is not on your mind.

However, at 37, I probably have a good 15 years on this girl.

Reality sets in quite quick sometimes.

Good luck man.

You approach so you can:

1) find out if she's into you and she may be the "one" for you.

Or

2) find out if she's not interested - you can then move on and say that you have no regrets.

Maan. YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW SHIT ABOUT HER. May be she is more fucked up than you. So get the fuck out of your head, of this fucking forum, and talk to girl of your dreams. Whatever we say to you, wouldn't you be happier if you just approach her and figure out, may be she thinks you're guy of her dream?

Mokele Mbembe wrote:

assuming she's single is we go out once or twice and she realizes what a fuck up I am and goes no contact on me.

Have you ever wondered why so many 'perfect' girls are with such fucked up guys?
NOW"S YOUR CHANCE

LOL I don't know why but this gave me the most hope.

I didn't see her today and I don't know if I will ever see her again. Fuck I actually felt anxiety getting on the bus this morning and was hoping she wouldn't be there.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't make. You see a girl you want to fuck so you hit on her, it is pretty simple.