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Get past the entire thing and you can cold approach 95% - 99% of the time.
Get past at least Drill 46 and start putting in the numbers (assuming by the time you complete Drill 46 you have your looks and style down).
Getting laid with a hottie will make you forget all about the ones that rejected you (or at least not care about the rejections).
Knowing you have a "date" with a fuckbuddy tonight will make you not care (very much) about any rejections you may face during the day.
The AA program covers cold approach rejection.
The GOA program covers social rejection (combined with a bit of AA).
Thanks man. I actually don't have a problem approaching. It's just, when I get in a cold streak/several rejections in a row, I get really down on myself. Learning to not care and mustering up the energy to plow forward is what my concerns are.
How have you handled that part of it?
For me, this is similar to sports psychology.
Some guys are great athletes, but when they're in a game and have a couple of bad shots / plays in a row, they turn to shit for the rest of the game. They get into their own head (often over variables in the equation they had no control over) and their game's off.
What works to turn these athletes around is the same thing that can work for you: developing a pre-play ritual. In sports, these guys have one simple concept (or a series of simple movements that add up to a simple concept) that they go through in their head before taking a swing, taking a shot, throwing, whatever. This simple concept becomes a mind-body connection.
On your own (no women around), go through a perfect approach (similar to a perfect shot, pass, tackle, whatever). Go through a personal experience where your mind, body, spirit (if you're into that) were just flowing perfectly. Make it so real that it's experienced as a sort of hyper-reality. Reality beyond reality. Do this over and over so you have the same "charge" or "energy" in your mind-body-spirit.
Now move onto Step Two:
Visualize (still by yourself here) seeing a woman you're attracted to and visualize yourself going into that ideal state from step one. Go through this over and over until you can imagine yourself seeing an attractive woman and instantly - instinctively having a perfect frame. This is not PUA "perfect game," rather, this is just your own personal ideal state that gets triggered when you see an attractive woman.
Now go out and do that with your approaches. See an attractive woman and instantly get into that ideal state. If you get rejected, you'll approach the next woman with the ideal state instead of the "rejected state" you'd normally be in (a missed shot, incomplete pass, etc.).
Anyhow, I'm an actor and a lot of that above is how I prepare a character-performance; it's crossed over into my GLL lifestyle.
Wow, this is incredibly insightful/helpful. I'm going to start applying it to my life as well. Thank you very much.
Brooklyn1 wrote: This shit can sting sometimes y'all. Just wondering how you move past it. If I get a few rejections in a row it can really fuck me up, as much as I don't like to admit it.
The best way to get over rejection/failure is to have successes. If you've had successful interactions before, realize that the numbers indicate you're due for a hot streak. If you've never had success, you're missing a key fundamental and need to figure out which one it is ASAP.
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