TOPIC: Why is it extremely rare that I get approached by a girl?

Gentlemen, so I just re-read that article written by Chris, called "Picking Up Chicks: What Body Type Is Best?" and Chris mentioned that when he was at at 8% - 10% BF he would get directly approached at least 2 times a night. However, I have only gotten directly approached by just 2 girls in over the last 10 years ever since I was a freshman in my undergrad years. So my question is, why haven't more girls been approaching me more often?
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ULTIMATELOSER360 wrote: Gentlemen, so I just re-read that article written by Chris, called "Picking Up Chicks: What Body Type Is Best?" and Chris mentioned that when he was at at 8% - 10% BF he would get directly approached at least 2 times a night. However, I have only gotten directly approached by just 2 girls in over the last 10 years ever since I was a freshman in my undergrad years. So my question is, why haven't more girls been approaching me more often?
http://imgur.com/Roe9wOW

2 girls approaching i ok for me not a single girl in my whole life looked at me giving eye contact or even noticed not to speaking about approaching

ULTIMATELOSER360 wrote: Gentlemen, so I just re-read that article written by Chris, called "Picking Up Chicks: What Body Type Is Best?" and Chris mentioned that when he was at at 8% - 10% BF he would get directly approached at least 2 times a night. However, I have only gotten directly approached by just 2 girls in over the last 10 years ever since I was a freshman in my undergrad years. So my question is, why haven't more girls been approaching me more often?
http://imgur.com/Roe9wOW

Maybe it's because you don't go out a lot.

Maybe you're not buff enough.

Maybe you're not dressed attractively.

It can be anything man.

I go out everyday assuming that not only will a girl never approach me no matter what location (except the umbrella temptresses trying to get you into strip clubs) it is but that I will never get warm-approach signals.

When you are an 8 or a 9 I can imagine girls might approach you. I have a buddy with this crazy rock-star afro hair and girls stopped him all the time wanting to touch it and take pictures with him.

In the end it would happen so rarely that it is almost negligible - a man has to do all the effort in all interactions with girls anyway so why care about it?

Idan wrote: I go out everyday assuming that not only will a girl never approach me no matter what location (except the umbrella temptresses trying to get you into strip clubs) it is but that I will never get warm-approach signals.

When you are an 8 or a 9 I can imagine girls might approach you. I have a buddy with this crazy rock-star afro hair and girls stopped him all the time wanting to touch it and take pictures with him.

In the end it would happen so rarely that it is almost negligible - a man has to do all the effort in all interactions with girls anyway so why care about it?

You're right - girls almost never do approach. I mean people on this forum are always telling me I'm almost male model hot (I disagree), but I almost never get approached. Even eye contact is rare. Then again I also almost never go out, because I hate nightgame.

Actually now that I think about it I did get approached some months ago by a girl at a night club. She wasn't bad looking either, totally at least an 8, and young too (18-19). I was so shocked I fucked it up

I think a lot of it has to do with your vibe too -- Chris goes out EXPECTING to be approached. You go out NOT EXPECTING to. Like it or not, but you're projecting that expectation in your vibe when chicks are looking at you from a distance.

I have a friend who's fat, balding, wears acapulco shirts... yet he actually does get approached from time to time probably because he just projects such a confident vibe.

The social stigma behind girls waiting for guys to sweep them off their feet usually will stop girls who want to talk to you from even talking to you anyways.

Summon some balls and go talk to every girl you want to talk to. If all you want is to get hit on by random women for whatever reason then improve your looks, style, and body more. You look pretty average to me tbh and is why you never get approached.

I used to get approached very rarely at bars/parties.

This year I started getting approached about twice a night.

What made the difference? STYLE

I got my ears pierced, wore accessories, and always went out with a fresh fade in my hair. Literally as soon as I got my style down I started getting approached.

IMO style makes all the difference when it comes to getting noticed at night.

Agree with BIB. I'm not ripped and I'm short (but built) so I never really expected to be approached - but when I have style (and know it, so I think I project that energy of confidence/IDGAF), I do get approached at parties. It's not often, and not every time, but it definitely makes a difference. Considering my social anxiety issues, me being approached has actually accounted for half of my lays...

When I was younger I was extremely good looking. I was big, ripped, and pretty damn handsome. Just to give you an idea, POF stole my pics from back then and sold them as ads to attract women to dating sites. Keep in mind I didn't really know this until later on life now that I'm bald and gray (haha). I would get approached but not THAT often and maybe once or twice by legit upper echelon class women. Lots of 6-7's. They will rarely ever just come to you. Granted, if you're good looking and in shape they're usually much more receptive when you talk to them.

Getting approached at all is a sign that you're doing something right.

Girls don't approach - It's not their job, approaching is your job.

Having been 'that guy' who gets attacked by horny women because he's so good looking and has whatever sexy vibe makes girls wet, I can tell you that while it is a good thing, be glad you're learning this stuff without that advantage.

From the time I first started having regular sex at around 18 until I was 25 I never once asked a girl out or did anything more than a totally pussy half-approach. And I got laid a LOT, always had a girlfriend if I wanted and had girls constantly complimenting me and hitting on me, even in non-alcohol laden situations (daytime, random on the street, etc.).
The problem was, even though I had girls telling me I was hot and trying to fuck me, even though I had guys telling me how jealous they were, I never 'got it'. It just didn't process. Probably because I never knew anything different. It wasn't until I got older and lost a lot of my looks that I realized just how gifted I had been, and how I had squandered it. I would much rather have had a bit more challenge and impetus to really learn this stuff at a younger age instead of having to figure it all out in my late 30s, because I never learned to be more than a passive player in my own sex/romantic life.

I was basically acting like a chick, just taking whatever came my way and never figuring out how to take control and go after and succeed with the women I really wanted to be with. While I got laid a lot by 6s and 7s and everyone thought I was a total stud I watched with envy and helplessness as guys with real balls and less looks than me went after the women they wanted (9s and 10s) and got them. I found out later that many of these 9s and 10s pined over me and waited forever for me to make a move. I would have rather been a guy who knew how to handle himself than the passive pussy I was.

So girls aren't hitting you up all the time because you're not the top .001% in looks. It's not something to get worried about. In fact it's a little bit of a red herring because the hottest women never go after men, they don't have to. If you're super hot looking it will be the chicks below the top tier who will hit on you at the very best. You'll also have more excuses to be lazy and not do the real work you need to do to improve.
Focus instead on how you are going to take control and go after the women you want. Look the best you reasonably can, of course, but don't let it get you down that women aren't hitting you up all the time.

Bad Idea Bear wrote: I used to get approached very rarely at bars/parties.

This year I started getting approached about twice a night.

What made the difference? STYLE

I got my ears pierced, wore accessories, and always went out with a fresh fade in my hair. Literally as soon as I got my style down I started getting approached.

IMO style makes all the difference when it comes to getting noticed at night.

The bigger the hair, the bigger the stare, brother..


On my part I've never struggled to get eye contact/noticed by girls.. Even when I dressed like a dweeb and had the worlds most shit haircut that made me look like I had done it myself or something. I'm average looking in terms of my face, but I do have good posture..

That said since I fixed my style I have SO much more confidence and I am starting to feel a real sense of entitlement and of general superiority. Chris and the guys on the forum taught me (thanks), but there's a special confidence that comes in knowing that you've earnt it and it was hard won..

Put yourself on a pedestal and dress and live like you're on one too.. That's what the hot people are doing..