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Work is picking up so naturally I'm finding more excuses as to why I'm not approaching. Here are a few approaches I haven't had time to post but noted on my phone.
1) Chubby girl off subway - nice butt but had a boyfriend
2) Girl outside uni campus - hot but boyfriend
3) Starbucks chick (victoria) - insta date but she was super nervous despite my best efforts to be calm. She needed more time and I didn't let her ask enough questions to me (possible due to my own nervousness)
Biggest lesson of this day was that it's totally normal to approach (don't look at it like it's something weird you're doing)
Indirect approach on a subway. I tried to keep a positive and normal vibe. She was talking back but not really asking me any questions...kinda weird. I did eat some of her dinner though which was hilarious lol. I spoke with her for a while but when i asked her to hang out she wasn't interested.
Could saved all that trouble by being direct. Chris is right most of the time lol.
Finally back in the approach mode. I've been working non-stop for the past few months at a new job. It's a great opportunity that's letting me travel the world but definitely took time away from game.
One huge thing I learned is that being confident at approaching does not make you a confident person. But anyway, thought I'd kick things off with a good ol' fashion lay report. Check out the link in my sig for the report.
I got a total of 5 approaches off so far today. Goal reached.
1) Jay - Alabama Blonde
I opened this chick right outside of a zara. Red lipstick, fine figure, quiet a specimen. Unfortunately I was super nervous. Lasted about 3 minutes into the conversation before ejecting. She was clearly down to keep talking. I have to stop doing this. Need to push through the nervousness and keep going.
2) Random brunette
Open this girl. She was flattered but not interested.
3) Brunette with a huge ass
I opened this girl downstairs in the same mall. I'm way more commanding and tell her "to come here and talk to me". She smiles and turns around but is clearly not interested. She walks away. Even still I need to be more commanding/demanding. Need to get these girls to pay attention.
4) High school Chick
Open this girl. She's absolutely flattered but she's in grade 12. I have my limits fellas. I tell her she's really beautiful and if she was older I'd grab a coffee with her. She's smiles and we leave. I think I just made her day which makes me feel pretty good.
5) Start bucks girls.
See this girl in a starbucks line. I usually don't like approaching girls while others are staring because it 1) makes her feel uncomfortable and 2) I'm scared of being rejected in front of others. This is a fear I will get over sooner rather than later.
so I decide to wait outside for her pretending to be on my phone. I open her directly and she smiles, says thanks, and leaves.
A for effort
I've been approaching all week. Trying to hit 5 sets a day on all days. I'm approaching a lot more during the evenings so it's dark outside.....creeped out a few girls but got a few numbers as well so it really depends. I try to stay on well lite streets. Highlights of the week:
1) Professor from a nearby college - older chick that really liked my balls before approaching. I went and grabbed a coffee with her last week. Tried making out with her but no go. Making plans to meet up with her this week.
2) 30 year old rugby player - approached this chick on the street corner. She was having a smoke before going to a speed dating event. I know why she's 30 and single. She's really aggressive and critical. I called her out on it a few times and she got pretty nervous around me.
3) Banker chick - approach this really hot and aggressive banker chick on Saturday. I feel like she would whoop my ass in bed. Set up drinks for Friday but we'll see if she comes through.
Today's approaches went really well at first. I approached a chick on the subway and we had a really fun convo. It's great when you meet a chick you connect with. Unfortunately she was taken but she said some nice things about my confidence which was splendid to hear.
Back at it again today with the approaching. Pretty rough past few days - found out someone close to me is suffering from a serious illness. I found out yesterday and decided not to approach. Just went to the gym and called it a day. It's weird, after finding out something like this it just made we want to tackle my goals harder.
I went out today and did 4 approaches:
1) Clair - see this cute girl in the subway. Approached her and told her I thought she was cute. Pretty positive response. We jump on the subway. She tells me she has a boyfriend. We chat a bit and I leave. She was digging it.
2) Hottie in the mall
Approach a small hot blonde in the mall. Tell her "I thought she was attractive". She smiles and we keep talking. She's not interested and walks away.
3) Hottie in the mall part 2
Approach a hot ass brunette in the mall. Tell her the usual. She smiles. Great smile, hot damn. She's not interested but she initially thought I was trying to sell her something which was pretty jokes.
4) Blonde hottie in the mall
Chick leaning against the wall. I see the ring on her finger but just go in anyway to see what happens. As expected, she said she's taken and not interested.
I was supposed to have a date today with a blonde that I met last week but she said she's jet lagged from vegas and wants to reschedule middle of the week next week. Not sure if I'm down for that but probably should be. I don't like shit interrupting my weekly routine.
Approaching was pretty low last week. I was away from Toronto for a lot of week to visit a family member. This family member was diagnosed with cancer, so I was trying to be home as much as possible to spend time with them.
Kind of fucked.... it made me realize how short life is and that you have to go for what you want before time is up, but at the same time, achieving goals isn't going to make you happy. Happiness is an outlook and not something that can realized through just sex
Enough of the deep shit. I had a date with a chick I cold approached during the week two weeks ago. It was a short interaction (maybe 5 minutes) and I was pretty nervous. I'm surprised it went through.
We met up Friday and checked out a museum for about an hour and a half and went for drinks after. Turns out she's a crazy party animal (cocaine, mdma, jokingly said she's an alcoholic..). We drank and had some pretty fun conversations. I tried to invite her over afterwards but she said she was tired.
That didn't really stop me. I kept trying to pull her lol. Eventually I realized it wasn't worth it to keep asking her. We made out a bit and went our separate ways. I decided to go out solo afterwards and had a pretty good night.
I texted her the day after and she responded. Not really sure how to swing it from here. Usually if I don't get the first night lay, I peace out. Gonna text her and set something up for next week maybe.
I was out last night with some buddies. Pulled some gross fatty and didn't get it in. This chick was so fucking annoying and way too much work. She gave me a hickey which is pretty funny but she wouldn't even give me a hand job. Pretty much just sucked on her titties for an hour. So fucking annoying, jesus Christ. Night game is a pain in the ass. Makes me want to just stick with day time approaches. So much less shit to do deal with lol. Although based on some of Chris' videos I think if you're dominant enough, the chicks friend's will usually let you take her. I'm going to stick with it and see how far I can take it.
The cold streak continues. I'll be in the major city more regularly in a week or so and I can get back to consistently approaching after work. Really need to get the volume of approaches up and approach during the day on weekends.
I was the mall today looking for a pair of shoes. Naturally, I decided to get some approaches in.
Girl 1: Arab-looking chick
I open directly. She smiles but politely says she has tot back to work.
Girl 2: Cute tall white chick
This chick on the escalator passes and is super cute. I decide to follow her and open. She stops at a map of the mall. I open direct. I'm still pretty nervous as it's early on in the day and I'm still trying to get my bearings. We chit chat about life and I ask her to come grab a coffee. She politely says no.
I keep talking to her and we go back and forth for a little while longer. She seems way more interested at this point but I didn't try asking to come grab a coffee with me. For next time, if a chick says no to an insta-date right away, keep on talking and ask her again in like 5 minutes. Eject after 10-15 minutes or if she says she has a boyfriend.
Girl 3: Med School Student
I'm leaning against a glass railing just checking my phone. This chick walks out of the Nordstrom that I'm facing towards. We make eye contact. I hold but she looks away and looks back at me. I caught her checking me out and she's a bit nervous lol. I approach her and tell her I thought she was cute. We chat for a minute but she has to go meet her mom.
I grab her number quick times. She's going back to Ireland next week so this could be a potential quickie. Not a very long interaction though. We'll see where it goes, if anywhere.
I need to be more efficient with my approaches and screen harder. Back at it tomorrow after work.
On 3 hours of sleep but I decide to hit up the mall after work today to do some more approaches. I probably got between 6-7 sets done today within an hour. I'll post about the ones I remember.
Approach 1: Blonde by the mall doors
I open directly by telling her that I think she's cute.
Definitely flattered though.
Approach 2: plastic surgery blonde
Open directly. She happens to answer her phone exactly when I stop her. She looks at me after I tell her she's cute. We make eye contact. She decides that she's not interested and walks away.
Approach 3: Girl sitting down
open this cute-ass girl sitting down on a mall bench. I open very publicly and I see a few heads just jolt around. This puts me in my head and ruins the set, haha. I eject shortly thereafter. I will slowly overcome the fear of being rejected publicly.
Approach 4: Cute white chick
Open this girl directly. She's laughing and says she just got married. Shows me the ring. I laugh it off and we go our separate ways.
I need to lower my standards a bit and stop holding off for the perfect set, in the perfect opportunity to approach. Perfectionism won't get you laid.
I miss out on a lot of potential approaches because the girl is surrounded by people or I don't think she's perfect. Missing good opportunities.
What better way to ring in the new year then to go do some approaches. I had to go to the dollar store and decided to open along the way.
Set 1: Asian girl walking down the street
I see this cute asian chick walking down the street. Decide to go after.
I tap her on the shoulder as I walk behind her. I was surprised she wasn't taken aback. Most girls are usually startled cause they're not expecting the approach.
She calmy smiles and says "hi". I open her direct and tell her she's cute. She says thanks. We talk back and forth a bit before she tells me she's spending new years with her boyfriend
Set 2: White girl with red lipstick
I open a thicker type chick that I normally wouldn't. She's a editor for Harper Hill publishing. Damn. We have a pretty calm and relaxing conversation. Never know who you're going to meet. We talk back and forth for a bit. I ask her to grab a tea with me at starbucks. She politely declines. Damn. Thought this one would have been down.
Set 3: Hot, older white lady
I live close a very rich part of town. There are many, many hot chicks roaming about. I'm walking around in the area and see an older brunette walking down the street. Same unhelpful voices pop in my head:
"Make sure there is no one around. Don't creep her out. etc etc".
Set 4: Girl with the red jacket
I open this chick right after she crosses the street. A little thicker and she's cute. I open directly but she politely refuses before akwardly ending the conversation. It was kind of funny seeing trying to deal with the situation haha.
Set 5: White lady on the street corner
I approach this lady who's waiting for a red light so she can cross the street. She's flattered after I open her directly. I fumble the interaction a bit after this point because I wasn't sure what I wanted her or myself to do. I should have "stopped" her and had a conversation.
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