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Currently a 24 year old male living in the great white north. I found out about GLL about 2 years ago but I haven't really been into what they teach until now. I really enjoy the stuff Chris puts out because he stresses the importance of looks rather than focusing on esoteric things like "you're being to outcome dependent".
A little bit about me:
- 24 year old Indian kid (born and raised in Canada and yeah, health care is the shit)
- 6'0 tall,13-14% body fat, and 170lbs (my goal is to get 175lbs at 10% bodyfat by the year end)
- Fairly good looking in terms of genetics (numerous girls have told me that "i'm really good looking for a brown guy"
- Currently have 2 fuck buddies since I started taking this stuff seriously in November 2015
- Lay count is at 7 (3 since November) and several close calls.
- I want the confidence of knowing that I can get laid if I want to. This will avoid me getting into relationships out of desperation
- 100 lays
- beginner to intermediate
- Approach anxiety is present but I'm much better at managing it. Usually after 2-3 good approaches it goes away
- Confidence is definitely there once I have a few good sets
Finally got back into approach mode this week. I was out of town taking care of my parents for the last week. I went out and approached 4-5 chicks today.
I was pretty nervous/anxious as I hadn't approached in over a week. I tried to approach all confidently but I really didn't feel that way inside. I came across nervous in alot of my sets which I'm used to so no big deal. As a result I ejected pretty early from most sets I did today. On the bright side, I approached some really cute white girls which is big for me as I have a massive inferiority complex with white chicks.
Today I was:
1) Apologetic for approaching/taking up the girl's time
2) I was nervous that people were going to see me approach and get rejected
@CroCop. Yeah man. Momentum is huge. Btw, I'm a huge Mirko Crop Cop fan as well.
I continued with the approaches today. Faired slightly better than yesterday. I did a total of 4 approaches and I spoke with a bunch of chicks indirectly throughout the day just to get the mouth moving. The first direct approach was a disaster. The girl was immediately creeped and called me a weirdo, lol. This shoved me inside of my head and I had to go home for a bit just to regroup. I didn't let it stop me though and got off 3 more approaches through the rest of the day. They didn't go anywhere as I still had the nervous guy frame and wasn't really pushing it. I was doing so well last week, it feels like I'm back at day 1 of gaming all of a sudden. Oh well. Just gotta keep pushing.
I was only initiating if a girl made eye contact with me (read this from GLL). I think this is largely horse shit as I've approached girls that don't look at me and it's gone well (haven't gotten laid from it but there has been attraction). I'm going to ignore and keep approaching the way I always have.
Haven't posted for the past few days but I have been actively approaching. The last two days I did some street game as well as night game. I approached one girl on the bus and we had a conversation for about 20 minutes. I eventually ran out of things to say to this girl, so I said to her "i ran out of things to say". She replied with "that's okay, I'm honestly so tired". Funny enough the conversation became a lot more comfortable after this point.. She ended up having a boyfriend when I asked her to hangout but either way I'm glad I opened.
Night game for the last two nights was great. I ended up making out a fatty on each night. The first fatty was a really good kisser. Would definitely have liked to fuck her but her friends came and took her away.
I also borrowed my friends Nikkon camera. I took some better pics for my dating profile that are vastly better than what I had before. I still look like a "nice guy" but I'd rather be a nice guy that gets dates. I'll post up the pics soon to get some feedback from you guys.
I'm slowly starting to get my confidence back. I have to stay positive and keep chipping away at this thing one day out a time.
Pretty busy day today but I managed to pop by the local mall to do some more approaches. I creeped the shit out of one girl but bounced back really quickly and did some awesome sets. It was valentines day today so naturally a lot of couples out and about.
I did a total of 4-5 sets I believe. 4 of them had boyfriends, and I managed to grab one quick number. Wasn't a solid interaction but she was single and we're texting back and forth. I expect the number to flake but we'll see.
Hanging out with a girl tonight and cooking dinner. It's venturing into boyfriend zone but I have no intention on becoming her boyfriend. I just thought it would be good to get some dating experience under my belt since I've never had a girlfriend (I'm usually uncomfortable in boyfriend/girlfriend type situations).
So last two days have been pretty big. I got a phone number from a chick I cold approached and I decided to grow a pair of balls and actually call her. We spoke over the phone for about 20 minutes but she still ended up flaking me. No surprise there as it was a short initial interaction.
I approached another chick today and took her on an insta-date for about 40 minutes. Trying to set something up for later this week. Hopefully something pulls through.
Other than that, I really need to approach more every day and do a better job screening for dtf girls. I also need to make an effort to approach chicks I'm intimidated of (hot white girls). I'm also trying to get edgier pics/style to help.
So true man. The other day this mega-average girl tried to drop a harsh rejection on me (after we'd talked for a few minutes). I was like "tell you what, lemme get your number" and she said "I wasn't going to give you my number". Super cunty. But it didn't bother me because I knew I was better looking than her. And she knew it too. Girls that are less attractive than you will bomb you with the harshest rejections for sure.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
Interesting theory. Will keep in mind next time I see a hottie.
So last two days have been good. Today I opened a few sets and had a massive realization. One of the biggest things I've been lacking while opening has been certainty in myself. You can call it confidence, self-belief or any other iteration. It amounts to the same thing. If you don't believe in yourself, the girl usually will entertain me but not seriously as a sexual threat.
None the less, I opened sets today with killer eye contact and self-confidence to improve it. One of the sets I opened the girl was smiling and said she had a boyfriend. The second was single I chatted her up for a bit. I'm texting with her now but clearly she needs a little bit more investment before she sees me. Kind of annoying, I don't have patience for shit. I want new pussy now I'm trying to follow Chris' advice and see if the girl is dtf right away, but it seems even single girls want more investment before they'll see you. Need to screen harder with the hand.
I went out for night game as well and opened a few sets (jesus, day time is so much easier). I found it to be fun because you can get physical so much faster with girls. I was a little nervous about opening hard on the dance floor because everyone was watching me. One of the guys from the "community" was killing it. Every set he opened with 100% confidence and self-belief....there was no half-assing. Even when a girl blew him out, you couldn't really tell. Anyway, something to keep in mind in day game and night game.
I'm going to up the day times sets from here on out. I'm half assing day game and I think it will get me a lot of results.
Been approaching consistently over the last few days. I had a date off of tinder tonight. We went and got drinks and I got her back to my place. Unfortunately I drank a bit too much and I was slurring my words slightly. This turned the girl off and she wasn't down after that (she also found a condom wrapper at the top of my washroom garbage which probably wasn't a good sign).
Anyway, it was a fuck up. I felt like shit about it as it was complete noob mistakes, and I wasted 40$ on drinks. On the bright side I had sex just before going on the date so no big deal. A few months ago I would have given anything to have a problem that involved a girl back at my place. It's pretty surreal actually. This was just another painful, but valuable, lesson. Next time, I'm cutting it off at 2 drinks each max.
On the bright side I told my fuck buddy that I'm not looking for anything serious, and she was completely cool with it. She just got out a long term relationship so I'm sure it's the last thing she's looking for.
Gonna keep approaching tomorrow. I also have a date lined up for tomorrow as well as Monday (both off cold approach). We'll see how they go. The chick I'm seeing tonight seemed like a good girl but I've had instances we're I've ended up banging good girls. Monday's girl is actually a cool chick. I'm going to try keeping that long-term (date her a bit, learn from her).
Hay man I know you're doing a great job and actually, big props for that, but if you're an Indian guy (or any of the less popular minority groups) trying to get with hot white girls, everything comes down to location. Vancouver and Toronto are without question the worst cities on the planet for Asian and Indian men that want to date hot white girls, lots of harsh racism towards those races and ethnic groups of men there.
If you do fail or even get a harsh rejection which I hope you don't, always nice to see an Indian guy with a hot white girl given how rare or unheard of it is, always remember that sometimes it is out of your control. She might be into you but due to the racism in the given area towards men of your race (which will undoubtedly without question exist if you're in Vancouver or Toronto), she would have to avoid you.
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