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Lately I've been black-out drunk every time I go out, and I ended up sending stupid texts to everyone which was really embarrassing the day after.
Anyway, I'm a college student getting shitfaced every weekend and sometimes during weekdays too. It's interfering with my physique, money, and social goals so it has to stop. Problem is, I feel like I can't have fun or enjoy myself without alcohol in my system.
I tried phenibut but I ended up drinking anyway, and we all know how dangerous that particular combo is.
It's gotten to a point where if I don't have a drink in my hand during a party (and sipping all the time) I feel naked and I don't know what to do with myself.
Based on how much money leaves my wallet every time, and the price of a beer where I go to party, I must drink between 15-20 beers every night which is horrible.
I've always drank a lot and I started when I was 15, so I'm pretty tolerant to alcohol. But lately I can't stop myself from going to buzzed to shitfaced.
Any people feel me? Same problems? Solutions? Advice?
I just like how you feel like you're the only one having that problem.
Do you realize that 90% people that go out have the same problem?
Its actually their goal to put you in that situation.
They put you in a place where a normal human being can not function normally without some chemicals or you gonna have huge anxieties and as you call it a feeling of being "naked".
I will give you an example.
Clubs are generally:
Very dark, way too many people, no air, abnormally loud and all other shit that will make you anxious.
You are supposed to be anxious in these kind of environment, because they want you to be. Why? Very simple. They put you in a problem and gives you a solution for it so they can steal your money. Solution is alcohol.
So clubs are basically a huge scam.
I will never understand how can someone go there and enjoy it without being fucked up completely with drugs, alcohol and some other shit.
Girls in their slut gear slutting around competing with each other most of them just wanna feel sexually desired because this feeds their ego, because the entire confidence of these sluts "party girls" are based on how sexually desired they are by men.
And desperate men are simply going there in a hope to score some pussy. But only 2% of them will actually get laid... with a slut of course called "party girl".
I used to go to clubs for like 2 years straight, but now i just really dont like it.
Looks like too much of an effort to put so you can just get laid with a drunk bitch.
Just my opinion on clubs in general.
Id like someone to prove me wrong it would make my life easier.... im such a club-hater.
I always ask friends why do they like clubs and they cant even answer that simple question. And all they do is go there and get fucked up with alcohol, then they dont even know if they are in a club or in disney world so whats the point.
Hey, I really feel for you. I was very much in the same position when I was in college.
I went to a university for 2 years before dropping out to work in EMS. The problem with drinking a lot and going to school is that your attention is split between 2 very important things: social life and school. The problem is that when you drink, you end up doing BOTH of those things poorly, instead of doing one of them well. I originally became interested in the Approach Anxiety Program because I wanted to stop drinking. I wanted to be able to do all that shit without alcohol. However, doing the program while going to school is very difficult (but it has been done by SEVERAL people on this forum).
The hard truth is that you are for sure an alcoholic (as am I) because people who aren't alcoholics don't ever have 10 beers a night. One thing I can promise you is that if you keep drinking, it will only get worse. Addiction is actually very, very predictable and follows the same course for all addicts. It always. gets. worse.
Take this from a guy who almost fucked up his entire career all the while thinking he "has it under control now".
Don't try to quit drinking alone. Go talk to a school counselor and ask them to help you find a drug and alcohol dependency program. Trying to quit alone is like taking a flyswatter to a bee swarm.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
At my most my alcohol consumption has been over 85 portions of alcohol per week consistently. That sucked.
Instead of 20 beers three nights a week, switch up to drinking 10 every day. I know this sounds even more alcoholic, but it's actually easier to quit this way I believe. After you've adjusted to this, start drinking 9 beers a night, then 8, then 7 etc. Never, ever go up on the dose.
If you lack the willpower to do it like I described (the "easy way" - tapering), you will have to do it cold turkey. I don't think you need to see a doc for that. I had no physical issues quitting a 12 beer per night habit. Just make a decision to never, ever drink again, ever, no matter what. Force yourself to read horror stories about drunks and alcoholism, the more depressing the better. Remember that no matter how much you feel like partying and drinking, it will only bring you down in the long term (as you know).
Then you also obviously have all the other options, such as AA or seeing a doctor for medication, possibly going to a clinic. But these won't be any more effective if you don't really wanna quit.
You feel naked without the drink because you're so used to it. You just have to force yourself to be in that "naked" position and execute stuff anyway, so that you'll adjust to feeling comfortable without drinking. That's exposure therapy.
In short; you just need to man up and quit.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
It all depends how old you are. If you're 20, it's completely normal to drink a lot and imo it doesn't make you an alcoholic - it's how the youth of western society is brought up today. there's nothing wrong with you.
Older people are alcoholics, those sitting on benches in parks and stuff like that. Young people are not, they are just prone to the social awkwardness like the roidz guy pointed out and it has just become the go-to thing to do in clubs i.e. drink.
I went from going out every weekend and drinking pretty heavily to an almost 2 year break from alcohol and clubbing because I lived in a different country and did something, else a year ago. It's not rocket science.
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