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I've been detained by police twice in the past for "almost touching a girl" and another girl cried when I tried talking to her on the street and called the police. they told me it was illegal to touch women. They also said I was causing trouble and should save talking to women for "bars."
I've been banned from a library, mall, gym just for talking to girls. not even touching them.
The Core of Chris' teachings is touching girls. But I see my self going to jail for this.
I can't understand why Chris has 0% mention of law enforcement or security on his site. Idk why he never gets into trouble but I have.
In fact, this is even what Chris has to say on the subject:
"You won't be afraid to touch girls because you already know how the girl is going to react. Even if you get a negative reaction, you'll know that nothing bad ever happens."
Except when something bad definitely happens.
This is my fear. Tell me the reality.
Chris has a lawyer and went to law school. What's your perspective, Chris?
Either you wear a trenchcoat looking like your to make brains splatter OR your way too aggressive...
I have been to pickup side but somewhat common sense you have to feel the vibe, eyes talk if you pay attention to people, and so on... Even grabbing a girls arm even softly I would consider a no no... I would engage first somewhere she is comfortable to be touches on hands, tap her shoulder, etc... if you trigger her flight or flight reaction by grabbing her arm even soft like I said... to me even as a dude and if someone walking by did it softly then that would intially register as this dude person is trying to hold me back or restrain me.. feel me?
Smile be real joke with them and just like the key to entering into the vagina is that girl has to be mentally comfortable with you whether its done in 30 minutes or 3 years
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If you're getting banned from places for talking to women, you're doing something wrong. Plain and simple. You need to Have some social awareness. Somehow you need to make a video or voice record your interactions and post them here for feedback.
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You have to much anxiety or strange vibe or something causing the girl to reject you. Get rid of your anxiety by approaching girls a lot. This will make a big difference. Second get your vibe and style handled. You have to try a lot of outfits to find the outfit that is congruent and cool and looks best on you. The girls will TELL YOU if it looks good by her reaction to your approach (Girls do this with precision). Trust me if you look good you'll know by there reaction to your approach and there is a best style or styles for you out there. Try what you think is congruent to your lifestyle first (how much money do you make, where do you live are considerations etc.) Try styles you would even think not to work if you have to. Sexy stereotypes could help you here.
Second, heres a technique that will keep you out of trouble.say hello to girls and gauge there reaction as your walking past them. I mean facial expression and body language. This is how a girl will TELL YOU if she is interested or not. They do this with precision its no accident. Walk by here and simply say hello. Does she immeiatley break eye contact and look away nervously. Then shes not interested. If you are not completely sure that she is open to being approached move on to the next girl.
Third, don't approach every girl in the venue. Hit on like 2 or 3 in a store and move on to the next stroe. Spam approaching causes this type of reaction in people sometimes. Pay attention to the venues that work for you.
A little [touching] goes a long way, especially during the day.
Screening is not for everyone. People make the mistake that the GLL stuff is universal and is meant for everybody/anybody. It's not. There's plenty of guys that shouldn't be 'screening' girls - they better off using online dating, trying to make girls through friends or giving up entirely (im serious, some people just aren't meant to have a sex life and will be more happy playing video games).
You have accept the "risks" when you approach girls and are encouraged to use good judgement.
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It sounds to me like you should really stop touching girls.
Some people aren't good at math, some people aren't good at body language.
It's pretty obvious to me that you fall into the latter category.
Don't take it personally, but it's not your forte.
One of these days you're going to get hit with a very real felony charge or get knocked out by one of these girls' friends or boyfriends. Find another way to approach girls, because you're creeping them the fuck out.
Best of luck to you, though.
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deducing from your name, I assume that you take phenibut before you interact with girls. if so, stop that.
I've taken phenibut only twice in my life, and both times I was so entirely fearless that I literally gave zero fucks about anything. I realized, however, that the way I talked and acted (especially through my body language) came off as completely psychopathic. having absolutely no fear means you're no human any longer. and then they're gonna lock you away from society, and rightly so.
in my experience from doing the AA program, a healthy dose of anxiety--mentally reframed as excitement--is much better than being an emotionally imperturbable machine that speaks and behaves like a soulless psychopath (at least that's how I perceived myself when reflecting on my phenibut-induced behavior and how other people reacted to it).
I realized, however, that the way I talked and acted came off as completely psychopathic. having absolutely no fear means you're no human any longer. and then they're gonna lock you away from society, and rightly so.
When I take phenibut I only get very positive reactions from everyone. Depends on the person and dosage, I'd say. Too much could make you come across as "high" or "strange", I agree.
Tyson, thanks for telling me to give up. I appreciate your veiled advice to give up so that you can be comfortable knowing someone working hard will fail and not be competition for you in the future.
minus Chris, the advice in this thread is: stop touching girls.
that's great. naturally , I will be doing the OPPOSITE. thanks Chris for your real advice. the rest of you, sorry to make you cry when I get laid and you don't.
And thaaaath reaction clearly explains why you get in trouble touching girls... Damn, I really hope you are trolling. Otherwise, have fun with law enforcement, because you really do come across as a (damn negative!) creep.
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From the way you described the situations where you got in trouble, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. For example, "almost touching a girl." And a girl crying from you trying to talk to her. Very strange. But it can happen. And those bizarre reactions are not your fault.
There are definitely overreactions from girls from time to time. Several of us guys on the forum have experienced crazy shit. Something that blew my mind was during the AA program when we had to approach girls and tell them "You're sexy." I thought that drill would get me in trouble for sure. But I NEVER got a bad reaction from any girl that I told "You're sexy." I couldn't believe it. But I've had girls freak out when I politely told them they were cute, and introduced myself. Go fucking figure.
You'll probably get better at this stuff over time. But the possibility of bad reactions will always be there. The trouble you've gotten in could just be a pattern of bad luck. If something fucked up happens once, then it can get in your head and sabotage future situations. Our recurring fears tend to manifest.
At least you've got boldness on your side. Most people don't have the balls to do anything that would get them banned from a store. You'll just have to use it to your advantage.
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